my mother pisses me off!

[proudparent88]

I am adopted and both my moms piss me off to such limits it is unreal! My bio mom who didnt raise any of us had the nerve to tell me i needed another baby like a hole in the head she is on drugs and alcohol as is my brother. My adoptive mom while acceptig od my pregnancy is judgemental and always has something negative to say anytime something is going wrong she comments by "and youre havig another" or she will start sayig something and say "well we just wont go there. " she also thinks that my two and four yr old know too much just by knowing that there is a baby in mommys belly i mean if my oldest son went to school talking about the stork in this day and age he would be teased and find out the truth anyway. I am so tired of being judged or told that i didnt need anymore kids ect. Is there anyone else who has a mother like these two of mine?

 

[Nicole_E]

my mom is not like this but my MIL sure is. Oddly enough, she has never been a part of hubby's life in a real sense (she came to America to make a life for herself and hubby, but left hubby in the Philippines with her mother and aunts to raise him. He was only 8 years old. She didn't bring hubby over until he was 17), and when he started getting serious with me she has all sorts of opinions and crap about how we should be living our lives. When we first told her I was pregnant, after some meager "congrats," she asked if we were going to "get rid of the cat now." We told her straight up "no." She then went on a tangent about how dangerous cats can be around infants (mind you, she hates cats and was against us getting one in the first place). Anyways, she has a huge entitlement issue, meaning she truly believes that just because she gave birth to hubby she has the right to dictate how we live our lives (among other things I won't go into), including about how to raise our child because it's going to be too hard for us to do on our own the first time (her words).

I just ignore her, and maybe you should ignore the nay-sayers and just focus on your family. You know what you're doing. As far as your kids knowing where babies come from, what's the harm in that? Absolutely nothing.

 

[Rel]

My mother is a pain as well.
When she found out I was pregnant, instead of a "congratulations" I got "oh no!, you haven't..... there are too many people on the planet!!" Yeah, thanks!
Just as if I had done it on purpose !(I had a coil fitted) And even if I had, it would have been my choice!
Anyway, ever since, she has sort of got used to the idea, but I still get the "fat" comments (make sure you don't put too much weight on!!) and at every opportunity I get told how difficult it will be with three and how I am going to have to keep the little ones "in check" (they are fairly well behaved, but they know that it is more difficult for me to follow through at the minute, so they sometimes push their luck a bit further than usual)
Arghh!!!! Anyway, last time, she was on the phone and I got told off like a teenager for something totally unrelated and she got me in tears and she got told, so at the minute, she is actually calling me to know how I am and she is being more careful... we'll see how long it lasts!

 

[cookette]

Im 29, been with hubby for 7 years, married for 2 of those years, and have a professional job and we live very well.

I have fertility issues. When I told her I was pregnant with out first, she literally started crying (not happy tears!) and asked me "Well, will you get your tubes tied then?"


....really? Ugh.

 

[kisunya]

ouch ladies. I am sorry. My mom is supersuportive...but we had to go through IVF, so she knows how bad it was and how much I wanted a baby, and hey...it's her grandchild..she is extatic. My MIL..which always hated me because I took her baby boy (mind the baby boy came to US on his own when he was 20 and joined military so he can have a better life and sent most of his money so mom didn't ahve to work) who was supporting her and now she had to work...well...when she found out we were pregnant, she actually called after couple of weeks to congratulate and ever since then she started being nice. Not sure how long it will last though