My mum smoking

[Lena]

Just need a bit of a vent. My mum is over visiting from the US. She told me before she came over she didn't smoke anymore but first thing she does when she came over here is light up a cigarette. Day 1 she was here I told her she needed to brush her teeth and wash her hands after having one and she has been but this morning i asked her why she lied to me about not smoking. We got into a big fight, she said 'well i'll just go home early then' and i said 'well thats really sad that you'd choose cigarettes over me and nate'. Now we seem to have worked things out, i said i wanted her to try and smoke as little as possible and wash her hands and brush her teeth after having them, but im still really annoyed. I find myself not wanting her to touch him, at all! She said 'your over reacting, your father smoked around you all day, everyday growing up and you turned out just fine' and 'he'll be exposed to far worse things and he may one day smoke' i said 'thats hardly a defense and he's not going to smoke at 10 weeks old, now is he?'.

I know im probably being a bit over the top, but he's my baby. Me and DH doing smoke, neither do any of our friends, so why should our baby be exposed to these harmful chemicals. She goes outside to smoke but from all ive read the chemicals remain on the skin, clothing, hair and breathe after the person has a cigarette, and anything that can possibly cause any harm to my baby i am going to protect him against. Am I being over the top, or would you be the same?

Only 11 more days til she goes home! Count down begins! Its just sad that i feel this way because its been over 2 years since i last saw her so i wanted us to have a nice visit.

 

[Natasha2605]

My parents smoke but not when I am round with Summer. If it does stay on hands/ clothes etc it isn't doing Summer any harm so far. I think that accepting my parents lifestyle choices so letting them see Summer means more to me than preventing her from bonding with them just because they smoke. xx

 

[bathbabe]

aww it is sad hun but completely understandable! As parents we want to protect our babies from these things. But to be honest i think you are just gunna have to put up with it for the next 11days then you wont have to deal with it until the next time! Sorry hun no real advice xxx

 

[Sarah10]

I understand where you are coming from, i've chosen to not take Jayden round to my parents house again because they would rather smoke around him than go outside (i know your situation is abit different with your mum visiting) you aren't the only one who feels the same way xx

 

[twinklestar]

family that smoke only smoke outside even in their own homes,

all wash hands and take outdoor clothes off when they come in from smoking at mine,

my mum smokes but not alot and last time she was here she almost cried that she had washed hands and then stroked LOs face but i could smell smoke on him

your home, your rules hun, stand your ground your not over reacting at all

x x

 

[Lena]

Thanks ladies. It is something that bothers both DH and I so i felt i had to say something. She's been sulking around all morning and i know ive really upset her, but I just don't think people that smoke realize how much it effects other people and how much it smells! She thinks she's being stealth when she sneaks off to have one when i nip out to the shop but I can smell it all over her the second i walk in the door and it turns my stomach and makes me really upset whenever she goes near Nathan. Its only 11 more days though. It has made me seriously think that when we go to visit my parents next summer then we will probably have to stay in a hotel because my dad chain smokes worse than her!