My New Year's Resolution: Get pregnant. Anyone else? SIX BFPs so far!!!

[FireBaby]

pbl - you're only on 10DPO - loads more time to get a BFP. AFM I really think AF is on her way I got another BFN this morning and everything else is showing me that she'll be her probably Sunday or maybe I'm guessing at the latest Monday/Tuesday. Blah!!!! It definitely takes a lot to muster up the strength for another month.

My DH is super super stubborn especially about doctors in particular he spent loads of time in hospitals trapsing after his parents when he was a kid and absolutely hates them. It has become such a sore point between us. Now he refuses to even do the home sample thing. His argument is he just doesn't want anyone especially me telling him or whining at him about what to do. And if it affects having a child well then he says he doesn't want one. That's how intense our conversations or rather arguments have become. So right now I just have to hope that there's nothing wrong and take my chances. Or divorce?!!!!

 

[twiggers]

x

 

[SweetMel]

Elpha – I hate to hear that for you. Maybe it was just a bad sample and the next one will be a lot better. Hey, just a thought here, but does he like to drink vitamin enhanced water or those milk drinks that have added nutrients? I like pbl_ge’s idea - get sneaky.

Welcome FireBaby.

My poor DH has started thinking that there is something wrong with him. I have two children from a previous relationship, so we have a pretty good idea that I can have children (unless I’m too old). We have been together for almost 3 years now and we haven’t done anything to prevent pregnancy. At first we were in the idea that “it will happen when it happens.” Then about 18 – 19 months ago (right after we got married) I started doing all of the things that I did before to combat my PCOS. I have been having regular cycles for a year. So now he thinks it’s him. If I don’t get pregnant within the next few cycles, he’s going in for an SA. Elpha, I didn’t know that too much testosterone could be bad for sperm. Dh doesn’t do any drugs or enhancement, but I think he naturally produces a lot of testosterone. Hmmm.

 

[Elphabaa77]

SweetMel- I read too much testosterone can have a bad effect on sperm. Can your hubby have a sperm test done? Maybe that would put his mind at ease? Or help you know what needs addressed?

FireBaby- sorry to hear the hubby is adamant about no sperm test. My hubby was against it and it took some talking to before he agreed. Thank god for cousins sharing that their husbands had to do it too. Guys that are his friends. So then it didn't look so bad to him. Sounds like that may not convince your hubby. Also, my hubby's test wasn't at a hospital. It was a small clinic. If your hubby knew it wasn't a hospital maybe?

I misheard my OBGYN (dang cellphone reception), she said elevated PH levels not TH. It actually makes a lot more sense. That is why she prescribed the antibiotic. Elevated PH levels can cause small infections that would hurt sperm count. My OBGYN said alcohol or high sugar consumption can do this. So it makes a lot if sense and it is something he can work on! So now we just need to work on him taking his pills. He already missed one dose of the antibiotic.

Still bummed that the clomid/estradiol is on hold... but he will (hopefully) be mostly through the antibiotic by the time I ovulate. If it is what he needed, maybe that and the fact I just had the HSG might be enough for us to have it happen without meds. At least one tube should be fine and clear post HSG. Fingers crossed!

 

[pbl_ge]

Fire, so sorry about AF. And I'm sorry he's so adamant. I guess hating doctors makes sense. I know a lot of clinics won't provide Tx to women unless the other half will submit to a test. This may be a really crazy idea, but have you thought about floating the idea of a sperm donor? I'm don't mean that you should suggest it as a threat. If having a baby is something you want, you should pursue it! And if he's not on board, then you have to take matters into your own hands. This is what you'd have to do if you were single, and it may be what you need to do if he continues not cooperating. He can either accept it, or he can choose to freak out. I'm sure this is not an option that makes you happy either, but it is a viable path through what may otherwise be an impasse. Hopefully even suggesting the idea would create movement.

Anyway, just a thought. Not trying to cause trouble, but I'm a social worker, and this is what I'd say if someone was in my office with this problem: Work towards your dreams as best as you can, and let your partner either support you or choose not to. It's his problem if he chooses option B.

Shutting up about it now.

Sweet Mel, I hope your OH is okay! Has he done the SA yet? Sorry if you said, and I just can't remember. Where are you in your cycle? Much !

Elpha, FX that OH just had a mild infection and that the next sample will be totally normal. And a somewhat low sperm count still doesn't a huge problem if he has good m&m.

It's funny how much of this thread right now is about our other halves. My OH did the home test when we first started trying and said he got the full stamp of approval. I asked him recently if he was on board with getting a SA soon, and he said of course. Seemed confused about the question. He was also a champ during my UTI, when he needed to "fill the soft cup" instead of the traditional method. But on the other hand, he's only nominally employed, is a bit hypersensitive, and is pretty messy. It's all a trade off, isn't it?

AFM, I'm 13 dpo and all signs point to AF within about 48 hours. Just waiting for the next opportunity to try....

Hope all of you ladies are having a fabulous Monday!

 

[shinyshoes]

Hi lovelies!

I've been lurking but not posting for a little while as my PMA did a runner!

AF played the mean trick of being late - due last Sat came Thurs. She's never late so just for a minute I got my hopes up even though I knew otherwise .........on top of that my sister had her baby this Sat and she's just the most dear little thing. I've been swinging between 'I can do this too' to a blind panic of 'what if I can't'! Last week was a struggle but I only allowed myself one really depressed day and then I picked myself up.

I'm determined to keep positive and believe that I can be a mum this year. So I've started the wheatgrass mix - why did no-one warn me how disgusting it is? I'm keeping up the regular orgasms (can't quite manage every day!), drinking grapefruit juice, doing my baby meditations and keeping the hope alive. Fancy trying acupuncture and chinese medicine too just not certain who to go with yet.

Pbl_ge - keeping fx for you.
Firebaby - I'm sorry your DH is being stubborn, is he afraid there might be a problem with his swimmers and avoiding confronting it?

It's only Feb, so there's a whole year ahead to enjoy and this baby making thing is just a part of it. I honestly believe positive attracts positive so we have to keep believing even when we feel things are stacked against us. I bet one BFP on this thread will set the ball rolling and we'll all be off.......any day now!

Happy Tuesday xxxx

 

[SweetMel]

It is strange how this thread became more about our husbands and less about us. OH is okay for now. He has been faithfully taking his vitamins, plus he also makes sure that I remember to take mine. He might go get an SA in a few months if nothing happens. I saw those at home sperm test at the pharmacy. I was wondering how reliable they are.

I finally found a new bbt thermometer to buy. I started using it the following morning. Today was the fourth day to use it and already I’m concerned that my temps are too low for the second half of my cycle. They are:
2/09 97.84
2/10 97.75
2/11 97.72
2/12 97.70
I compared those temps to other women’s charts on fertility friend, and they didn’t seem right. I have a low thyroid condition that could give me lower temps I guess. My dr. won’t give me a higher dose of synthroid. She insists the blood tests are “within range.” I am 12dpo.

Hi Shinyshoes. I was wondering about the wheatgrass. Is it as disgusting as I think it is? There is this drink at the store that I have been thinking about trying. I just can’t bring myself to try it.

 

[twiggers]

Sweet....my temps were also kind of on the lower side.

 

[pbl_ge]

Sweet, sorry your temps are not as expected. It is possible that you're not in the LP, for whatever reason. But, as you said, this also may be thyroid related. (At least, that's what I've heard as the explanation for low BBT. There may be other reasons?) I'm not an expert about this by any stretch, but I know that can really be a hindrance for TTC. Perhaps a second opinion is in order?



Shiny, thanks for the reminder: It's only February!!! Sorry AF came late. That's a nasty trick to play. Mine might be doing the same thing right now!

 

[SweetMel]

Ladies don’t give up. Happy Valentine’s Day.

Hi ladies. AF got me today. It was an interesting cycle. I learned a few things about myself. I had a 30 day cycle and ovulated on cd17. I bought a bbt thermometer and started charting which led me to discover that my thyroid needs adjusted to get my temps higher. I signed up for a fertility friend app on my Android. My new/old diet has made me think that I have an allergy to wheat. I have been wheat free for 30 days and feel better than I have in years. I bought preseed this cycle. It seemed great for cd19 but not so great for the days we used it since. Idk what that’s about. I added kelp (for iodine) and Omega fish oil to my vitamins. I managed to lose 11.5 lbs.

My plan for this cycle is to continue my diet, add more exercise (because truthfully I haven’t done enough), and finally quit drinking diet coke. A few things that I am considering doing: taking soy iso like it is clomid, using a progesterone cream post ovulation, and drinking a tea for fertility (such as red raspberry leaf).

 

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x

 

[Suzy_Q]

Hi all,

In an effort to remain positive (hard today, but I'm trying!), I need to think of all those with tougher challenges than me. I have friends with jobs they dislike, no jobs at all, and one with a child who is fighting cancer for the second time. There are people who have real life-threatening challenges they face everyday and others who live in environments that discount them as valuable contributors to society. I just have to keep perspective and not dwell...

Doing my best to remain positive!

 

[SweetMel]

I hate to hear that you have a cold sore twiggers. I haven’t had one in a while, but I know how bad they hurt. I hope the house is coming along nicely.

Give the positive mental attitude your best shot girls. We are all here to support each other.

So I’ve been looking into this wheat allergy thing. Now they call it Celiac disease or gluten intolerance. It can cause an inflammatory response in the body that will cause all kinds of nasty problems. I had no idea. I thought it was just a digestive problem, but it turns out that it is more than that. It can cause both male and female infertility, depression, migraine headaches, and more.

 

[twiggers]

x

 

[Elphabaa77]

It is strange how this thread became more about our husbands and less about us. OH is okay for now. He has been faithfully taking his vitamins, plus he also makes sure that I remember to take mine. He might go get an SA in a few months if nothing happens. I saw those at home sperm test at the pharmacy. I was wondering how reliable they are.

I finally found a new bbt thermometer to buy. I started using it the following morning. Today was the fourth day to use it and already I’m concerned that my temps are too low for the second half of my cycle. They are:
2/09 97.84
2/10 97.75
2/11 97.72
2/12 97.70
I compared those temps to other women’s charts on fertility friend, and they didn’t seem right. I have a low thyroid condition that could give me lower temps I guess. My dr. won’t give me a higher dose of synthroid. She insists the blood tests are “within range.” I am 12dpo.

Hi Shinyshoes. I was wondering about the wheatgrass. Is it as disgusting as I think it is? There is this drink at the store that I have been thinking about trying. I just can’t bring myself to try it.

My temps rarely go over 97.8 post-O. Normally they are in the 97.7 range. I thought I may have a thyroid issue, but they checked it and TSH test returned within normal range. I still feel like my temps are on the low side though.

 

[shinyshoes]

Hi everyone - been lurking but not posting so promised myself time to sit down and catch up today.

Sweet Mel - the wheatgrass drink I got is an organic blend of wheatgrass, spirulina, apple juice and some other bits. It's bearable I suppose but I have to get it down quick!

Twiggers - cold sores suck my DH gets them when he's stressed, he gets a cream from the dentist which really helps. Yay on the house, exciting stuff!!

SuzieQ - you're right, there are always people worse of and it's good to keep perspective, just not always easy though................!!

AFM - Well went to visit my sister and her new arrival and actually had a great time. I was all prepared to get upset but I surprised myself and didn't! Her baby is just the sweetest little dear ever and my DH just loved her too. Somehow it's made me feel all the more determined and positive - my sister might be younger than me (2.5 years) but she'd been trying for 5 years (she didn't let on before now), she didn't give up and neither will I!

I still believe in this New Years Resolution and believe we can all do it - it won't be long before the BFP's starting rolling in!!

Love to all - keep positive!!!!

 

[SweetMel]

Ok. Confession time. I said I was going to give up soda, but I haven’t yet. I think I am prolonging it too much. I still drink 12 oz for breakfast of my diet Pepsi. I’m afraid of the withdrawals if I finally give it up. On the positive side, I am sticking to my low carb diet (about 15 grams of carbs per day). I’ve lost 13 lbs with 30 more to lose.

I’m keeping positive! All of this effort has to be going to something.

 

[Suzy_Q]

SweetMel - all you can do is your best! I have a confession as well, I'm back to 200mg of CoQ10 a day instead of trying to get to 600mg. At any higher of a dose I break into lumps under my skin and itchy skin... oh and constant headaches. So I'm not doing EVERYTHING I am supposed to do either but I'm doing my best.

 

[pbl_ge]

Hi Ladies!

Been very busy recently, so I haven't gotten on as much. Sorry! Glad to see we're all still trying to maintain this positive attitude. I confess it's been slipping for me, but that's mostly because work has been stressful, so it seems like all of life is stressful these days.

Suzy, I like your thoughts--focus on those who have really had to struggle for the basics. It's so easy to lose perspective in this journey. That's a helpful reminder.

SweetMel, my understanding about the wheat thing is that a small proportion of the population has true celiac disease, but another, possibly larger proportion has some sensitivity to wheat such that it makes them lethargic and/or causes digestive problems. It's just not clear how many people have that. Does that sound like you? There was a great NPR interview (on a mediocre show) about this recently:
https://www.peoplespharmacy.com/2012/04/21/854-the-blood-sugar-solution/
It's hard to give up stuff for this TTC thing. I gave up coffee--now only drink tea--but I do miss it so. It's my treat to myself during AF.

Shiny, that's great about the new addition to your family! Have you heard that thing that being around babies can make you more fertile? Who knows, although it certainly can't hurt! Congrats to your sister! Five years is a long time! Did she get any technical assistance?

Suzy, LOL about the CoQ10. I decided to compromise. For the pills that people tell me I should take 3 of, I've been taking 2. But I haven't had any negative side effects, EXCEPT that in the last two cycles my boobs have hurt throughout my LP, instead of just the last few days, like they used to. It's either the fish oil or the CoQ10, as that was the only thing that changed. It's really annoying!


Elphaba, looks like you just O'ed! Good luck, and lots of !!! When does OH get another SA?

So, this is supposed to be my last month trying before going to the FS, as per my plan on page 1. I'm thinking I might go ahead and make the appt, and I'm wondering when you ladies think is best: should I schedule for when I'll be in AF? Or the last few days of this cycle, so they can schedule me for early cycle blood tests? I don't know that I'm ready for any major interventions, but I'd like the blood panels, and that requires the visits.

In the meantime, we're starting SMEP tonight, although O is still likely a week off.

Much and to you all!!!

 

[SweetMel]

Hi everyone. I hope y’all are doing well. I’m CD11. I think hubby and I are going to BD every day for the next 4-5 days. I know he is game if I am. I haven’t felt any left or right sided cramps yet. My CM is getting watery but it is not EW yet. I could have swore it was pinkish at one point today. Hubby is losing almost a pound a day this week. He is down to 181 lbs. He wants to get to 170 and then work on building muscle. He is turning into quite the hottie. I on the other hand am having problems losing. I don’t cheat, but dang the weight loss is soooooo slooooow. I’m holding steady at 175 lbs. We will be going swimming at the Civic Center Monday night. So that will give me some exercise. It must have been pregnant day around town today. The baby bumps were EVERYWHERE! I hope it is contagious.