Is is so wrong of me to want a fantastic honeymoon? Something where we were pampered and have all inclusive drinks and food and beautiful beaches and money for activities (which I might add, he said would have to be a must!!!). I want to go on an all inclusive (which is literally £100 more than half board) somewhere lovely that does not resemble Benidorm and has a beautiful white beach. Holidays such as this including most of the spending money for 10 nights for 2 people in a NICE hotel would cost around (if your lucky) £1000 each. My OH thinks this is rediculous. He obviously has NO idea how much these things cost and he thinks that spendning £1000 each on a honeymoon is REDICULOUS. I'm starting to feel like he has no clue what this wedding means and he hates the fact that he's had to save up for this instead of something he really wants (he's still saving to go f*cking snowboarding before hand though!) and I'm bloody furious with him. Is this selfish of me? Considering Ive paid over double of what he has for the wedding. I told him this is a once in alife time opportunity and he replied "no it aint" well it is as this is our only honeymoon. For gods sake why cant he just understand. Everytime I tried to explain to him what sort of holiday it means we could have he butted in and said "nope, £1000 is too much" and that we should rely on the money our guests are giving us- how can you rely on this when you dont know how much they'd give? He didnt even let me finish what I was going to say. He said we should wait untill very last minute before booking the holiday as thats when the best deals are (even though its the middle of bloody summer) and I suggested that we put a deposit down now as they have winter sales. But nope, he said we must wait untill his job tells him if he's going to get a full time contract or not as they might not give him the job if he knows he has a holiday. Its not just a f*cking holiday its our marriage! Why cant he put us and our happiness first instead of him being tight fisted and selfish? I dont usually demand this- but we're not gona get the opportunity to do it again. If it was up to him we'd spend a week in a hostel eating from pancake stands each day in Yugoslavia! update Ive been thinking. I can see our 1.2 punto needing alot of work done to it. Ive already taken it to the garage twice and its still sounding like poo- and most cold mornings it wont start Plus... our house needs some work done to it. We've not paid rent because my MIL let us off to save for wedding and the bathroom, spare bedroom, kitchen and hallway all need decorating and I think it'll be lovely to make it a lovely home to live in and when we leave, it'll be worth a bit more to my MIL. So I've made a desicion. Its not been an easy one because oh how I long to sip cocktails out of coconuts and be fanned but.. if we sell the Punto for £1000 (its only 6 years old and a new battery some cleaning and fix the window wiper it'll be good for a first time driver) and.. If we both continue to save £1000 each for the honeymoon and... if our guests continue to give us cash gifts We'd have at least £3500. I really think the best thing to do is to spend £2000 on a more reliable and efficient car and tax it and insure it for the year. Have £1000 for the honeymoon and go somewhere hot and sunny for a week (it can still be just as romantic) and the guests cash gifts can go towards home improvements- maybe decorate a potential nursery in the spare room? Either way, although it would be lovely to blow all the money we had on a luxury honeymoon, its not very practical or fair when we have no money and need improvements. What are your thoughts? We could just spend £500 getting the car back into shape, spend £1000 on a honeymoon and have £1000 to start our new lives with and decorate?