I just wanted to get mine off my chest. So DH and I had a plan that we would spend the first week at home with just us and the baby and no visitors. In fact we also decided not to schedule any people to come visit until after we feel comfortable. We are first time parents, so we want to be able to adjust and bond with the baby, and we will have a lot to learn in the first week alone. So here is my vent... apparently family and friends are planning to visit us within the first week without even asking us. We heard that 2 family members happen to be in town on our due date and are planning to see the new baby, but they haven't said anything to us. Then friends are emailing my saying they will be in town the week we are due and will be visiting the baby. I never invited them, in fact I was open and honest saying that we didn't want any visitors for a while and then they still email this. WTF. Now my in-laws have stated they they might be at the hospital or waiting on our doorstep for us as we get home. I told them that we weren't wanting any hospital visitors and we will call as soon as we get settled in a bit to have them over. Since when is it polite to just invite your self over someone's house? At least Dh and I are on the same page thank goodness, and he will be making sure his side of the family is covered. Then there's my family. Never in the past 5 years that I have been married and in this house have they ever wanted to visit (they are only 30 min away). In fact I was always talked about as being weird because they all had families and hubby and I liked travelling and didn't even speak about starting a family. They would say "something is wrong with me". They frequently go on picnics and shopping not 5 min away from me, and I always used to say "please stop by for lunch'. But they never were interested. I always tried to make plans with them but I would get from my mom "No I am busy with your sisters. We get together a lot during the week'. Yeah that's really nice. I don't get calls or emails ever, not even on my birthday. I got very rude comments when I announced I was expecting (about my baby just being an accident, or oh it's about time because I was so weird), and after that and then pretty much them not giving a crap, I just decided they aren't worth the stress and I am going to start limiting my interaction with them to perhaps just major holidays like Xmas, Thanksgiving, etc... But now all of the sudden 3 weeks before my due date, I get calls and emails saying they can't wait to visit after the baby. I am just so pissed because they never cared before and now they are trying to get in good with me just to see my baby. Well too little too late I say. I just needed to vent because this stresses me out. Thanks for reading.