nasty baby group :(

[xemmax]

that's awful hun, silly women! don't let it get to you. where abouts in notts are you from?

 

[pink_rulez]

Sorry to hear you had a bad experiance , i dont understand why certain parents arer like this as they would have been in ur position at some point and squrely they go to the grouos to meet new peope n make friens?!?!, but don't let it put you off, i think you should go to baby massage its a good group to start with as well, as if your like me n struggle to start a conversation with new people at this you don't have to, but can still join in, by the second or third time I feel more confident n have a good chat have fun x

 

[ouchwithNo.2]

clicky clicky clicky.... I HATE IT!!
I never bother with anything like that, my first, now 6yrs or LO, 10mths.
HV kept trying to make me so I told her quite blunty why I was interested - because I am not into the competition crap or the laughing because you are supposed to nonsense.
I hate clicky groups - even at the school. It is so false so pathetic. I really think THEY are the insecure ones.
Ignore them - I haven't seen a HV in 4/5mths now and before that probably only 3 times just to get LO weighed whilst she was tiny and reflux-y.
I agree with mumtobeplus1 - I kept LO in vests and sleepsuits until she was about 7mths and totally over her throwing up. All those fiddly clothes when you are changing them all the time, why bother? my LO hates getting dressed as it is and I really am not into jeans and hooded jumpers on a 9mth old anyway.
Such a neglectful mother haha (yep - I have heard that before!!)

 

[bbyno1]

Don't let it put you off.
I started going to my local baby group a few weeks back.
The 1st time i went it was very clicky and i felt like some were a bit rude tbh.
The next week i went the 'rude' ones actually turnt out to be quite friendly.
I think its easy to miss-judge at these kind of places sometimes.
I bet alot of them thought i was rude for kinda just sitting there talking to Aliyah lol.
What they said about your LO's outfit was a rude comment thoughx

 

[anawi]

Oooooo what horrible people! Not all people and baby groups are like that, try not to let it put you off if you'd like to go to a baby group, just try and find another one and don't think another thought about those idiots.

And how bloody rude to comment on your babies clothes. I happen to think babygros are lovely for babies to wear, so comfy and easy. My Daughter is nearly 8 months she still often wears them during the day, they are nice and comfy for her to crawl in!

Take no notice of those people, seriously, they are clearly morons! It makes me so angry thinking of you (or anyone) being treated like that, I was really nervous about going to baby groups to begin with because I was worried about people being like that (but I found a couple of nice ones) - it just makes me mad!!

 

[Sniffa]

How horrible! So many baby groups are full of clicky people, I just don't understand it.

Sam is 9 months old and I still mainly put him in babygros, he has a couple of pairs of jeans and some tshirts for days out but 90% of the time he's in a 'gro. He just looks so snuggly and comfy in them. I get all the 'oh aren't those pj's nice' comments at baby group, but I just ignore them. He's a baby, not a mini fashion model.

Definitely would recommend baby massage, it'd be a smaller group and u can talk about the course, so it forces you to communicate with each other.

xx

 

[helesposito]

I often feel like that and I've been going to the same one for months! Everyone seems to know each other, and all the discussions seem to be about the hundreds of other groups they all seem to frequent during the week- ALL together! It just heightens my constant fear that Sebastian will end up with no friends and that I'm not taking him to enough of these things- but I honestly couldn't deal with more than one per week. It's nice for him to play with the other tiny people, but there is always an air of clickiness, competition, that sort of thing. It makes you doubt your social ability as an adult! Saying that, you can't choose who goes to these groups- you have to play the game sometimes...x

 

[chubbymonkey2]

I highly recommend baby massage, there were not to many in our group and i made a friend out of it. I've found loads of baby groups clicky more with my 6 year i just stopped going, i'm trying them again this time round any sign of clickyness i'm out of there.

 

[katy1310]

Aww, that sounds so awful I don't know why the people feel the need to comment on LO's outfit etc - I'd never dream of saying that to anyone! Babygros are so comfy for them, and so much easier when you have to undress them and dress them again. Our weigh, stay and play thing is quite scary - I always feel like most of them know each other already or aren't really wanting to talk to anyone new! I feel bad because Sophie loves to see other babies but I'm shy and I don't find it easy going to these things.

 

[Faerie]

kimmy25 - yes thats the one i thought they looked nice for daywear !!!

Alejandro has those too

He is often still in sleepsuits, I think the look cute, he's nice and warm with no gapes between trousers and socks and you don't have to worry about losing socks... plus my son is a flasher who likes to whip his trousers off if I put them on him!!

Someone said something similar to me at a babygroup with Sofia "oh, did you not bother to dress her today" and I just said "yes, in what she's wearing.. and doesn't she look cute". Silly woman.

Anyway, don't be put off, baby groups can be a great place. The first time I went to mine I honestly didn't think I would go back because when I walked upto the group no one said hello and they all seemed off... I found out later that it was pretty much the first time they'd ever met too so everyone was just shy or whatever. Two of the girls are very good friends of mine now.

 

[Mrs IKW]

Women can be so stupid and ignorant sometimes! I go to 2 baby groups and it really depends who is there whether I get spoken to or even acknowledged but generally the women are nice... I took a friend with me to one group this week (she has grown up kids) and it was lovely to have someone to talk to without having to bother if anyone I knew would be there.

 

[Samemka]

Ugh, so sorry you had a bad experience. What annoys me about it is all those cows who were horrible to you would have been in the same situation themselves had they not known someone/had someone to go with & it's a shame they couldn't remove their heads from their arses for long enough to remember that!!

Have you tried going onto netmums (sign up to your local page) & look at the meet a mum section? That way you could meet some mums who you could go along to baby group with. That's how I met two of my best mummy friends

 

[MrsNovBaby]

Ignore them hun, it took me a while to find a lovely group. Try your local library - that is where I go, unfortunately they don't do weighing.

I still dress Logan in babygrows sometimes - it is up to me what he wears - I am his mummy! If anyone has a problem with it - tough.

Hope that you find somewhere nice soon xx

 

[Wirral_Kitty]

Hi, i hated my experience of playgroup with my baby when she was about 8 weeks old. No-one spoke to me, i felt like everyone was giving me the evil eye when my baby was the only one crying..i hated it and felt soo isolated. I came out crying and blaming the baby for making me feel like that. I also just had my LO in her sleepsuit and felt like the 'bad mum'. But it was a sure start centre and they ran other courses and i went on one called the lifestyle and weight management and I have just made 3 of the best friends ever and because our babies were in the creche next door for the 2 hours we got to bond first. I still dont think I would go back to that other group though without my new-found friends x

 

[emmi26]

It actually took alot for me to go at all
i had anorexia back in 2008 im fine now well over it but a tiny bit of me hates going anywhere i dont know people and feel like im being stared at so you can imagine it wasnt good, it upset me more cause harrys such a sociable baby he loves people he smiles and coo's at everyone and was looking round at all the babies and mums and one woman even looked round at him and turned back again he just looked at her confused hes used to people saying hello to him, i wanted to cry then and there !
i dont want to be put off but i really dont think i can go on my own again yet, i will have a look for some different ones maybe for when harrys a bit bigger and try and pull the courage to have another go maybe see if anyone i know with kids can recommend one.
xemmax - im in retford hun x

 

[Dizzymum]

Don't worry hun. I've had the same thing in the past. I really don't care this time round, if people want to be like that, then that's their problem. I just go in, get lo weighed, and if anyone talks to me, then I'll be friendly and have a chat.

Don't let these people bring you down, it's pathetic 'playground behaviour'. They should be teaching their children how to socialise nicely, but aren't capable of it themselves lol

 

[GypsyDancer]

sounds horrible..i dont get why people need to be so nasty

as for baby grows..my lo is nearly 7 months and i still dress him in babygros in the day he does wear jeans ect sometimes but he gets through so many clothes its pointless dressing him up constantly..and theyre only babies for a little while id rather him be comfortable and cosy x

 

[secretbaby]

I went to one with my first son (born in 99) and it was horrid, no one talked to me - they all seemed to know each other from there older children and we so clicky it was unbelievable. I then went with my friend to her weigh in group (otherside of town) and they invited me to weigh my baby and I said I wasn't from the area they were like 'oh that doesn't matter' went there every time after that they were so nice.

Try a different one in your area (think its the same you can still go to any) alot of childrens centres have new parents things, many of them you can get bubs weighed at.

If all else fails you can do what I do when I want to weigh the cat - weigh yourself then weigh youself holding bubs - not as accurate as going to clinic but can give you a rough estimate!!!

 

[Lena]

It actually took alot for me to go at all
i had anorexia back in 2008 im fine now well over it but a tiny bit of me hates going anywhere i dont know people and feel like im being stared at so you can imagine it wasnt good, it upset me more cause harrys such a sociable baby he loves people he smiles and coo's at everyone and was looking round at all the babies and mums and one woman even looked round at him and turned back again he just looked at her confused hes used to people saying hello to him, i wanted to cry then and there ! i dont want to be put off but i really dont think i can go on my own again yet, i will have a look for some different ones maybe for when harrys a bit bigger and try and pull the courage to have another go maybe see if anyone i know with kids can recommend one.
xemmax - im in retford hun x

Awwwe, I hate when stuff like that happens. It has happened to me a few times. I was at Starbucks the other day with Nate and i was starving so i got a coffee and muffin to go but decided to eat it before i left and Nate was just happily playing on the chair looking round and he seemed fixated on this one man that was behind us and kept staring at him, smiling at him and just trying to get his attention. The man was soooo rude and kept rolling his eyes and finally said to me 'do you mind?' as if Nate was eavesdropping on his conversation He's 9 months, he doesnt bloody understand what you're saying. Finally I said 'c'mon, Nate, lets go sit somewhere far away from this mean old man' loud enough so he could hear me.

 

[shellie82]

Dont worry i still dress my lo in sleepsuits most days, just because hes
asleep more often than not and i think they are more comfortable for him.
Also he has reflux, so from a washing point of view, one sleepsuit
and one vest, verses vest, top, trousers, cardi/jacket, socks ect...Think ill
take the suit! lol

my lo is nearly 5 months and he is baby gros most days, they are more comfortable for him to play and nap in