Natrual vs pain relief rant

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  1. katlin

    katlin Mom of 5

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    I just wanted to rant im so pissed i just had someone tell me that because i had an epidural during my last labor it makes me less of a mother. I dont think ive ever been so damn mad how the hell am i less of a mother because i wanted to be comfortable. I didnt hurt myself, i didnt hurt my son, hell i didnt hurt anyone. This came from a lady who had a 4hr labor and delivery and did it naturally. She doesnt seem to realize how lucky she was and is. I was induced and given to fast of a drip because i had an intern so i went straight into hard labor contractions back to back. Never mind i had an 11hr labor and went 7 hours without anything not so much as the gas. Even after i had my epidural i still felt my contractions it just took the edge off because of were it had to be placed because of my tattoo. On top of it i pushed for an hour and had to get 39 stitches. I dont know how someone can be so damn rude saying "oh well im more of a mom because i didnt take drugs during my labor" like wtf were can people get off saying this kind of crap especially when i was the one beside her those 4 hours because her family was still in commute from out of town. I feel so betrayed :( and let down and no longer feel she is a friend and it just sucks.
     
  2. hollyrose

    hollyrose Well-Known Member

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    i also had an epidural which didn't work properly, and a long labour. my daughter was 9lbs 4 1/2 ounces and had shoulder dystocia so had to be delivered very urgently with forceps.
    i think ur friend is being very insensitive. every womans experience of childbirth is different and no way is right or wrong. i suppose u have to have gone through a hard time to understand. but she still should be more supportive.
    take care. xo
     
  3. moomin_troll

    moomin_troll mummy to zane and corey

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    first off big hugs.
    just because shes given birth once doesnt make her a specialist so dont let her and a fairly easy birth get u down. it was a totaly stupid thing to say and unfortunatly thats really what some people think :(

    i gave birth with just gas and air, also had stitches but a epidural just wasnt for me and i wont judge anyone who uses them.

    i would of fallen out with her too if that was my "friend" ive had afew mates trying to out do me in the how they handled labour. it just so happened my son was bigger then theres.

    ur sons name is great, ive got a zane too :)
     
  4. famof6

    famof6 Well-Known Member

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    Don't let them get to you!You can get negative comments about everything you do from someone.Some people think if you didn't do it their way then you did it the wrong way!I had 4 epi's so I guess I should be waiting on my Worst mom of the year award.

    Whats this about the tatoo?I now have one on my lower back is that going to cause problems?
     
  5. katlin

    katlin Mom of 5

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    they cant put the needle through the ink because it will deposit particles into your spine they have to find a spot were there isnt ink.

    N ty ladies for helping me feel better i just hate, hate, hate people telling me that i did something bad/wrong because i didnt do it there way.
     
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    famof6 Well-Known Member

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    I didn't know that.I guess my epi days are over!:haha:
     
  7. Beccy23

    Beccy23 happy mummy

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    i had a epi with my 1st and it was the most beautiful labour i laboured for 45 hours and had my epi at 39 hours b4 that not using anything so mine was the result of exhaustion but i wouldnt change it for the world - however with my 2nd i had just gas and air and believe me this time i will be requesting the epi because i was in so much pain i couldnt concentrate on the birth of my beautiful baby and i was sooooooooo relieved tht the pain had stopped i didnt even realise he was there that was a 36 hour labour
     
  8. girl19722

    girl19722 Well-Known Member

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    OMG I hope I don't meet her I had no labour at all just a c section with my DS .lol. Seriously ignore her only an idiot would think that; let alone say it. (((hugs))))

    x
     
  9. Marlarky

    Marlarky Mommy&Expecting!!!!!!!!!!

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    I had a 9 hour labor that I didnt need an epidural for and I thank God every day for that!! I can only imagine how hard it is for some women and I would never dream of calling someone less of a mother for getting it. My bf's mother said that to me my whole pregnancy that if I get the epidural I shouldnt have even bothered getting pregnant. Thankfully I didnt need it therefore I didnt need to hear her rant about it. It's just like BF vs. FF. So much hype and controversy. Dont listen, hun- you do what you want. It's YOUR type of parenting!
     
  10. katlin

    katlin Mom of 5

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    in my case my ink isnt consistant all the way through my tattoo so he was able to find space through my tattoo. Guess im glad i apperantly flawed tattoo lol!
     
  11. katlin

    katlin Mom of 5

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    Ty ladies your amazing im starting to calm down and breath now i wanted to knock her through the front room window.
     
  12. mamalove

    mamalove mum to 3 girls and a boy

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    There is NOTHING wrong with having pain relief during labour!

    I had failed epidural with twins because it was recommended by doctors,thing is people were shocked i was in PAIN ?! because it has to work every time :)
    i loved gas and air,and would never have an all natural labour because having a little of something to take the edge of made it enjoyable for me :)
     
  13. katlin

    katlin Mom of 5

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    exactly different things make labor more enjoyable for different women i was just so darn mad n i dont regret my decision at all
     

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