I wrote a thread a while ago about this aswell, me and my ex split up this time last year and he moved 6hrs away for a job. My DD has always been for her dad and took us splitting up really hard she has a bad attitude towards me and most days I honestly think she hates me. Since her dad moved out she has constantly gone on about wanting to live with her dad. Today my ex told me that he would happily have her live with him as words getting back to him from friends etc. About how I'm struggling with her (which I am) and how she has no respect etc. Last week i caught her whispering in her little brothers ear telling him no one likes him and no one loves him i ended up shouting at her she seems very jealous of James aswell and i dont kbow why as i have girly days with her etc. Without James and i treat them the same. DD is over the moon that daddy has told her she can go live with him of she wants and she doesn't seem bothered that she'd only see me during school holidays and some weekends. Her going to live with her dad though means splitting the kids up as James is very much all for me. I have read so much online very mixed messages some saying their to young to make that decision or know who they want to live with and others saying that if it's what they want they should let them. I am trying to work out what's best for her, and how it could effect her mentally if I say no or if I say yes. Part of me wants to tell my ex to leave it another year and see if she changes her mind or if I can fix my relationship with her but I'm so confused so much going through my head 🙁 what I don't want is for her to go then change her mind.