carly_mummy2b
Vinnie's Mummy
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Hey
I think what im going to write is a bit crazy but...
My LO Vinnie was born nearly 10 weeks ago after a very long 67 hour labour that was in all honesty horrendous, after he was born he was a very difficult baby he is lactose intolerent which took 4 weeks to diagnose, the lactose in the milk caused him to cry with belly ache a lot
I think i had severe baby blues maybe even pnd, my HV did a questionnaire thing and i scored 16???
I know this will sound awful but i spend the first 5-6 weeks of his life horrendously miserable, found it difficult to bond with Vinnie and wondering why i had done this to myself, i was totally overwhelmed with everything and it scared me when it hit me that my life had changed forever and for the forseeable future my life would be unrecogisable, at my lowest point i wished that i had never had him, which believe me i deeply, deeply regret now.
I love my little boy and hate that i wasted the first few weeks of his life living in the grips of utter dispair, i missed out on my tiny newborn baby and i feel so guilty that it wasnt me doing everything for him, bathing him night feeds etc i just couldnt do it and i dont know how i can shift the guilt.
My friend had her baby boy today and i feel this overwhelming envy and jealousy and its really made me upset as it brings home just how much i missed out on with my little boy
Im not sure why i feel so so sad today because i have been feeling better over the last few weeks
Sorry for such a long post, its just i havent got anybody else i can talk to, admitting that at times you didnt feel like you should have towards your beautiful newborn baby is not something that everybody, maybe anybody can understand
If you made it this far thank you so much for reading my post
Carly x x x x
I think what im going to write is a bit crazy but...
My LO Vinnie was born nearly 10 weeks ago after a very long 67 hour labour that was in all honesty horrendous, after he was born he was a very difficult baby he is lactose intolerent which took 4 weeks to diagnose, the lactose in the milk caused him to cry with belly ache a lot
I think i had severe baby blues maybe even pnd, my HV did a questionnaire thing and i scored 16???
I know this will sound awful but i spend the first 5-6 weeks of his life horrendously miserable, found it difficult to bond with Vinnie and wondering why i had done this to myself, i was totally overwhelmed with everything and it scared me when it hit me that my life had changed forever and for the forseeable future my life would be unrecogisable, at my lowest point i wished that i had never had him, which believe me i deeply, deeply regret now.
I love my little boy and hate that i wasted the first few weeks of his life living in the grips of utter dispair, i missed out on my tiny newborn baby and i feel so guilty that it wasnt me doing everything for him, bathing him night feeds etc i just couldnt do it and i dont know how i can shift the guilt.
My friend had her baby boy today and i feel this overwhelming envy and jealousy and its really made me upset as it brings home just how much i missed out on with my little boy
Im not sure why i feel so so sad today because i have been feeling better over the last few weeks
Sorry for such a long post, its just i havent got anybody else i can talk to, admitting that at times you didnt feel like you should have towards your beautiful newborn baby is not something that everybody, maybe anybody can understand
If you made it this far thank you so much for reading my post
Carly x x x x