Neighbour Rant...WWYD? **UPDATE**

[RJsMum]

DH and I moved into an old cottage 6 months back. It used to be one big property and the landlord split it into three - ours being a two bedroom on the one end. In the middle bit is a flat/apartment where the landlord's 25 y/o son lives and the 3rd bit isn't yet occupied.

About 2 months ago the son had a roommate move in and since then it's been a bit awkward. Her room shares a wall with our bedroom, where our 8 month old is now...asleep as I type. The issue is, before she moved in, the son was rarely ever home and didn't make a peep...but now that she's there, she stomps up and down the steps and plays her music loud enough that it can be heard through the wall. I don't think she is doing it deliberately, but despite texts from my husband to the landlord's son explaining we have a baby that we're trying to get to sleep, it's still happening. In fact right now I can hear her singing.

My husband and I both are pretty non-confrontational...but I'm putting on my mama-bear hat now and this chick is waking my cub through the night and making it otherwise hard for him to sleep (naps during the day as well). To top it off he's having a miserable time teething so it's twice as hard without having to deal with neighbour noise.

My husband is now apprehensive to say anything more to them because he "doesn't want to be the complaining neighbour." They're already acting a bit funny with us by being generally evasive, but what are we to do when it's affecting our child and his sleep/well-being?

Thoughts?

 

[bluebaby]

There is nothing worse than a noisey neighbour. Your home is meant to be your santuary. I would go to the door and just politely say that you have a young baby sleeping in the room adjoining their's and your finding it hard to get the baby to sleep because of the noise and if they could be a bit quieter it would be appreciated.

I wouldn't not say anything because they wont know their loud and you will just keep suffering

 

[JellyBaby1]

I'd try and go direct to the landlord with this problem. You and your family are entitled to live in peace.

 

[Pessimistic]

I know you are not confrontational people hun, but I would personally go over there yourself or your husband. If the complaint is going from your landlord to his son - you don't know how he is putting it, could have just simply said 'keep it down'.
If you just pop over and explain, you don't want to be one to complain but you do have a bubba who is asleep in there and is awaken by the noise. They could be very apologetic and didn't realize?

 

[Sam9kids]

you have to say something! We get on very well with our neighbours and although her partner works nights, on a friday and sat night when hes off, they stay up all night with friends drinking in the back garden and they are forever getting bouncy castles that are still whirring away at 4am!!!

Ive finally had enough and i complained last time and they were very good and apologetic

 

[Pessimistic]

Sorry just noticed you said he text the landlord's son.. I would do it face to face definetly.

 

[RJsMum]

Sorry just noticed you said he text the landlord's son.. I would do it face to face definetly.

No worries.


Yeah, I think I'm going to have to take the lead on this one and say something directly myself. My husband is a lot more passive on this issue, but he also isn't the one having to tend to him most of the time when he is waking.

Thanks, ladies.

 

[Scooby12345]

Our neighboure attached there tv to the wall and we could here it in our house pretty loud. I didn't want to say anything but after coupke wks my hubby popped round and said sorry to be pain in bum but could they turn it down. They were so good about it. Moved speakers off the wall and came round to check it was ok. I'm so glad we said something! Hope it works out for you. I agree face to face his best.

 

[jaybee]

By law, your neighbour is not allowed to make antisocial noise between 11pm and 6am..which includes loud music and any 'bumping' noises!! (Its the same idea that emergency vechiclses cannot use their sirens at the same time)
So, if this continues at night, you can contact your council and they will advise on the next step.

However this is a major step, if you have not spoken to the woman. She may be unaware of the problem and be wiling to take you into consideration in the future. You don;t need to be confrontational about it, just go round for a 'friendly' chat.

If the worst comes the absoulte worst, you could look at putting some kind of noise reducer on the wall! ! (bit extreme though maybe!)

Good luck, and let us know how you get on.

 

[RJsMum]

By law, your neighbour is not allowed to make antisocial noise between 11pm and 6am..which includes loud music and any 'bumping' noises!! (Its the same idea that emergency vechiclses cannot use their sirens at the same time)
So, if this continues at night, you can contact your council and they will advise on the next step.

However this is a major step, if you have not spoken to the woman. She may be unaware of the problem and be wiling to take you into consideration in the future. You don;t need to be confrontational about it, just go round for a 'friendly' chat.

If the worst comes the absoulte worst, you could look at putting some kind of noise reducer on the wall! ! (bit extreme though maybe!)

Good luck, and let us know how you get on.

Only once has it been late, but my husband sent a text then. Usually it's within "reasonable" hours...but say right at 9pm when he's going down for bed...or in the day when I put him down to nap. It's not them being deliberately inconsiderate (at least I don't think), but it just happens at inconvenient times.

 

[jaybee]

By law, your neighbour is not allowed to make antisocial noise between 11pm and 6am..which includes loud music and any 'bumping' noises!! (Its the same idea that emergency vechiclses cannot use their sirens at the same time)
So, if this continues at night, you can contact your council and they will advise on the next step.

However this is a major step, if you have not spoken to the woman. She may be unaware of the problem and be wiling to take you into consideration in the future. You don;t need to be confrontational about it, just go round for a 'friendly' chat.

If the worst comes the absoulte worst, you could look at putting some kind of noise reducer on the wall! ! (bit extreme though maybe!)

Good luck, and let us know how you get on.

Only once has it been late, but my husband sent a text then. Usually it's within "reasonable" hours...but say right at 9pm when he's going down for bed...or in the day when I put him down to nap. It's not them being deliberately inconsiderate (at least I don't think), but it just happens at inconvenient times.

IMO, i think u should go and have a quiet word then. maybe explain what times are bad and see what happens.
xx

 

[iceylou]

def say something even if u have to bite ur tongue at first. my neighbours arent loud its just the damn houses are built of tissue paper so we can hear everything from their tv, when they use the ensuite toilet, to them giving out to their kids. but they constantly apologise but then its not their fault really.

 

[linsayp]

This is really difficult & we had the same problem before we moved house. Personally I would speak to your neighbour & explain the problem, if it doesn't improve I would then go to the landlord & ask him to have a word and if THAT doesn't help I would go to the council. I think it's the environmental health department where you complain about noise pollution. I don't think it matters if it's within 11pm & 6am as such, if it is bothering you they will look into it. I spoke to the police about the problem we were having ( music blasting so loud all day that I couldn't hear my tv!) and they said the council can give a noise abatement order a bit like an asbo if people are being inconsiderate. If it's enough to wake a baby then I think it's too loud! It isn't hard to have a but of consideration for your neighbours, especially if you know they have a baby!
Sorry rant over x

 

[star2002]

Okay I am gonna be the devils advocate here. I used to be single and enjoyed playing my music while cleaning or having a few friends over. I believe that all you can do is ask politely and hope she is simpathetic. Other wise you might have to come up with something else. She doesn't appear to be breaking any laws. If it continues maybe you need to look for another place to live.
My DH likes to listen to his music fairly loud on a weekend and Stella sleeps through it.

 

[RinnaRoo]

Say something while shes there. Im sure if she has any moral fiber she would understand and tone it down some.

 

[tinyme77]

Get the landlord to come round and hear it for himself

 

[RJsMum]

My husband and I returned home about 10pm from his sister's tonight (much later than usual) and we discovered the neighbour's roommate (the one making the noise) on our patio smoking.

She saw us come in the gate (we enter our property via the rear garden) and she immediately apologised for being on our patio. We could tell she was drunk and she had some company over. She said she would keep the noise down.

Shortly after putting our son down, about half-past, I hear her come out the back conservatory again and shout.

Next thing we know, we hear more people arrive and as I type (at 11:36PM) there are loads of people over. The music is loud enough for us to hear in our front room but we turned an oscillating fan on upstairs to try to drown out any noise. A couple times we have heard doors slamming and loud bangs, but thankfully the baby is still asleep.

I have warned my husband that if they wake the baby, I will be the one to go tell them off. We've tried being polite about it and they're just being down-right rude.

It's not even the landlord's son who is being loud (I don't think he's home this weekend)...it's this dozy cow that's doing it. ARGH!

I wonder what her definition of 'keeping it down' is?

 

[linsayp]

I think you definitely should say something. Is she quite young? She maybe doesn't realise how noisy she's being. Good luck x

 

[kermie219]

I would definitely say something directly to her! try being polite though at first......maybe at 8am the next day I hate that! I am a believer that you can do whatever you want in your own home in the day but when you share a house you should definitely have a bit of respect after like 8pm! Our neighbours have woke up Reagan a few times around bedtime by banging around (unintentionally though) still very annoying

 

[caleblake]

Im gonna get shot for this, i do think your last update she is in the wrong as its so late but i remember before i had caleb and i used to hear our next door neighbours new born crying at all hours. I wouldn't complain about that so why should a single person have to change their lifestyle to suit your new life? You should be considerate to your neighbours and if they take the mickey then by all means take it further but i dont think you can say much if its at a reasonable hour. You say you have 2 bedrooms can you not move the baby into the other room during the day to sleep? Not having a go just putting another point to it. My friend has a similar problem that her neighbour has complained about her 2 children being noisey during the day which im totally in arms about as you can't silence them. But just wanted to say you should speak to her but remember her priorities are different from yours. Good luck x