CaptainMummy
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We live in a semi detached house, and next door is a little girl (3.5, a few days older than Ella) This little girl used to be very physical and hit out alot, but has calmed down alot and actually plays quite nicely with my girls (most of the time, she can still be very possessive of things and does still hit sometimes)
Anyway, my problem is that any timer my girls are outside, she comes STRAIGHT over. We have scaffolding up just now and they had to take a bit of the fence down so she can literally walk right in. My two little ones like her coming over most of the time, my eldest doesn't seem to bother much.
She makes a mess, tries to come into my house, doesn't listen when I tell her to stop digging (at the side of my grass there is a bit that is just earth, and she keeps pulling at it and stones going all over my grass). I don't mind her over sometimes, but I just hate the fact that she is forced upon me when I would rather not have to watch every two minutes to make sure she isn't hitting one of the girls. The thing that annoys me most is that she comes into my garden to play when we aren't even outside, plays on all the girls toys and the trampoline etc.
The fence will be fixed soon, so I'm hoping it will stop, but she can climb over and her mum seems to just assume its fine for her to be here all the time. She and her friend were out in my front garden and throwing toys over the fence onto the pavement...
If I tell her 'no, you can't come in to our garden to play today' she just looks at me blankly, and stands there not moving. If she does go back to hers, she is round again after 10 seconds trying again. It doesn't help when my 2yr old is saying 'Hiii, you can come in to play if you want!'
My girls do go into her garden to play sometimes but I would never allow them to disrespect anything of hers, and I am still keeping an eye on them, whereas her parents send her out, close their door and don't have a clue what she is up to.
Am I being mean? I just feel like I have a hard enough time trying to keep the peace between my own girls, without having an extra little person to look out for, who doesn't even listen to me
Anyway, my problem is that any timer my girls are outside, she comes STRAIGHT over. We have scaffolding up just now and they had to take a bit of the fence down so she can literally walk right in. My two little ones like her coming over most of the time, my eldest doesn't seem to bother much.
She makes a mess, tries to come into my house, doesn't listen when I tell her to stop digging (at the side of my grass there is a bit that is just earth, and she keeps pulling at it and stones going all over my grass). I don't mind her over sometimes, but I just hate the fact that she is forced upon me when I would rather not have to watch every two minutes to make sure she isn't hitting one of the girls. The thing that annoys me most is that she comes into my garden to play when we aren't even outside, plays on all the girls toys and the trampoline etc.
The fence will be fixed soon, so I'm hoping it will stop, but she can climb over and her mum seems to just assume its fine for her to be here all the time. She and her friend were out in my front garden and throwing toys over the fence onto the pavement...
If I tell her 'no, you can't come in to our garden to play today' she just looks at me blankly, and stands there not moving. If she does go back to hers, she is round again after 10 seconds trying again. It doesn't help when my 2yr old is saying 'Hiii, you can come in to play if you want!'
My girls do go into her garden to play sometimes but I would never allow them to disrespect anything of hers, and I am still keeping an eye on them, whereas her parents send her out, close their door and don't have a clue what she is up to.
Am I being mean? I just feel like I have a hard enough time trying to keep the peace between my own girls, without having an extra little person to look out for, who doesn't even listen to me