Nervous about telling my work

[BabiNo2]

..... I'm such a big baby I know. Once its done it'll be fine but I'm freaking out. I have my scan next week and just feel weird if I turn up to work with a scan photo and announce I'm pregnant, considering telling her this week.

Its not great timing either, girl I work with is just coming back to work from her mat leave on monday and another girl has just had her baby!

Eek! What you girls doing about your work? x

 

[Chocoholic123]

I'm terrified too! Got a way to go yet although Im a temp and they are due to make me permanent in dec/jan - bet that won't happen now, bad timing but I might end up confessing before 12 wkd if they offer me the job, I'm too honest!

 

[beautiful_day]

me too - my job is safe but the atmosphere in the office is horrible, and several people I work with are extremely b*tchy...I have seen two other women get treated quite badly while pregnant or just back from maternity leave. The sort of people that would actually be happy if I miscarried....

And my boss has told several of us that women should not be doing the job at all because they have babies and then cannot work all hours.

maybe I'll go on maternity leave and never come back....

 

[LittleSpy]

maybe I'll go on maternity leave and never come back....

That's actually my plan exactly.
I won't be telling my supervisor that though.

 

[oldmamamia]

ive just told my boss today, ive been really ill with ms aswell as medical problems and the strain of keeping things a secret at work were really stressing me out. hubby said all he cared about was my health and baby and somehow we will manage finacially, broke down in tears today and boss was nasty said i might aswell go today! packed up my stuff and left and im so relieved, its going to be tough managing on just 1 wage but hubby is right health and happiness are way more important.

 

[booflebump]

Chocoholic - you are under no obligation to tell them until 25 weeks, so I would be waiting till you are offered your permanent post so your maternity rights and benefits are better x

 

[SugarFairy]

ive just told my boss today, ive been really ill with ms aswell as medical problems and the strain of keeping things a secret at work were really stressing me out. hubby said all he cared about was my health and baby and somehow we will manage finacially, broke down in tears today and boss was nasty said i might aswell go today! packed up my stuff and left and im so relieved, its going to be tough managing on just 1 wage but hubby is right health and happiness are way more important.

WHAT!!! I am shocked! And so angry for you. What an arse!

 

[1sttimemama2b]

I told last wek after hearing the h/b. I was in a good mood and she was asking about if my hours were too much and I just blurted it out. She was really excited. I would say get it over with and do it at a time when you are happy, maybe after your scan. Don't worry about other other people at work, you can't plan your family around when other people are taking maternity leave. Hope it goes well!

 

[hannahmroman]

i'm nervous too, and i'm going to leave it until i am 12 weeks (only 5+5 at the mo). The reason i'm nervous is that my friend and colleague is 2 weeks ahead of me and when she is out of office i cover her work - with the 2 of us on mat leave at the same time, not sure how boss is going to feel about that - just got to remember that it's not our problem, we're entitled to have a family as well as a career, we have rights (even though we are sometimes pressured not to take advantage of them!!) good luck everyone!!

 

[tanya]

I told my work today as I have to go on light duties, they were absolutely lovely, then I phoned my new job which I had just been offered and told them I wouldn't be coming, didn't want to do that but mat pay would be rubbish if I changed jobs now and tbh I'd rather be around collegues I know and not have the stress of tribg to fit in knowing I'll be leaving soon. They were really nice and promised to keep the job for me so as soon as I'm ready I can start work for them
It all went better than I expected so don't worry it will turn out well in the end.

 

[BabiNo2]

I'll probably just tell her the day before or day of my scan then (which is Wed)... nice to know I'm not alone. Don't know why I'm so nervous about it though!! lol Good luck to all you ladies x

Your boss sounds really nasty oldmamamia - really shocked, hope your ok!!

Hope you still get your permanent post chocoholic x

 

[CeeCee2010]

I didn't really have a choice in the matter... I work in a very small office and after suffering from horrific morning sickness and suddenly having the urgeto drink tea (I only drink green tea not normal tea) my boss who has three kids asked me if there was something I wanted to tell him lol. He's taken it very well though. I think at the end of the day if you do have bitchy people in your work place then you have to ignore them and remember that certain things happen for a reason - maybe in 9 months time the company will go bust and you wouldn't have a job anyway? Or maybe this isn't your dream job and that after having your bubba you will have the ambition to go out and find it. Or alternatively you'll have the best job in the world by staying at home with your Bubba. Remember whatever happens that it's your life and you have two people to consider and take care of now. Good Luck and I hope all goes well for you all X

 

[Chocoholic123]

I hope it all works out for us all at work and I can't believe there are still some employers treating pregnant women so badly for going on maternity leave ! With laws as they are, I can't believe they can get away with that, its terrible !

 

[nugget80]

i told our business manager by email a couiple of days ago, mainly as i am now on my 3rd week off and my sick note actually reads pregnancy, nausea and vomiting! she was lovely and offered congratulations and wished me well soon and said on my return she needs to do my risk assessment...!

 

[squeal]

I am absolutely bricking it.

I only started my job a month ago and I have six months worth of training to get through. I will then have to be on restricted duties.

I will have to tell them soon as I think I have a fitness test at the start of December and obviously I don't want to be participating in that.

I have no idea how they are going to react and I really am worried about having to tell them.

It is a god send that this pregnancy has been easy so far, I rarely feel sick at work etc, if I did it would be so hard, I can only hope it stays that way.

Good luck everyone xx