Think this section is pretty quiet but thought I'd post here anyway as it fits the most. My 5yo (tomorrow) is at the very beginning of a referral for possible ASD and/or ADHD. This post will probably end up been a very long rambling post but just feel like I need to write everything down and I'm feeling a bit lonely right now as my friends try to be supportive but they don't truly understand how it feels. Ds was born at 40+ 6 weighing 7lb 7oz and was a perfectly happy and healthy baby. There were absolutely no early signs of any potential issues. His development was always on track. I can't remember exactly when he hit each milestone but he was walking well and had words by age one and was a very sociable and happy boy. From around age 2 he became slower at hitting milestones and although he was never technically behind he was doing things at the later side of normal. Things like toilet training were all pretry average but he struggled with things like holding a pencil and cutting his food. He also had difficulty concentrating at things like song and story times at playgroups but I just put this down to his age/personality. Fast forward to now and his main issues are - very low concentration levels - finds it hard to follow instructions -appears not to hear/ignore you - no sense of danger - immature emotional development, he has meltdowns over small things and can't control his emotions - impulsive - can't sit still, always figiting -can't read body language - bad social skills He's very friendly and loves playing with other children. He is very imaginative and loves role play but he can't read social situations and finds it hard to follow rules of play and can be over friendly with children which they don't like. He is on track academically but his teacher said as work gets harder and they are expected to learn more and play less that's when he will start to fall behind and he will struggle to concentrate on the work. He has a SEN support plan in place and has been referred to the school nurse who refer him on. A contact of my MIL is supposed to be coming to see him in the next few weeks and assess him and give him an unofficial diagnosis (this is her job but not from any where near our area) and give us some ideas for support etc but I just want every thing official so we can get steps in place to help him. Don't really know what I want from this post just wanted to get it down, feel like every thing is sone slow. We have been told anything upto 2yrs from referral to diagnosis which just seems forever.