Newbie-Introducing myself

[ellieraine]

I've been a bit of a lurker for a week or two and thought that I should really introduce myself......I am a little hesitant about being on here as I don't want to get my hopes up and have them shattered, but I guess that having somewhere to let off some steam and speak to people in similar situations may help.

Anyway, 34, engaged and have a toddler.....very settled with OH and will hopefully begin planning our wedding in the next few months. We are living in a house and area we love and are now in the process of making it a lovely little home for our little family.

My LO was not planned but was very much wanted and I can't imagine life without him. I have always been worried that I may not be lucky enough to have children as I suffer from Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS), so when my little miracle arrived I couldn't be happier.

Since then we have unfortunately suffered a MC which hit me like a ton of bricks, when it happened and also what would have been my EDD.

I am desperate for another baby and OH is happy to try although he has admitted he is also happy with our family as it is, so he isn't as concerned as I am.

We have agreed to wait until next year before we TCC, giving us time to sort our finances, house and hopefully wedding...

The reason I am hesitant is because I worry about having another MC and whether the PCOS will prevent me from getting pregnant, especially as I will be over 35 by then. So although I am desperate to talk to people and get excited about planning to TCC I am also scared of setting myself up for a fall....

Anyway, that's a bit about me - hello everyone!!!

 

[kelsey111]

hi welcome to bnb sorry for your loss, speek to your doc and see what he says about trying for another baby, x

 

[Kimberly28]

Welcome to BNB! I'm sorry for your loss. I can understand and sympathize with your situation. I too, have pcos and have been blessed with 2 beautiful boys and had a missed miscarriage back in June of this year which also hit me like a ton of bricks as well. At first when I found out that I was pregnant, I was scared and worried as I wasn't sure I was ready for another baby just yet as my LO was 9 months old. But just 24-48 hours later, I knew I wanted it and was then very happy about it and I let myself get attached and excited about it. A few weeks later was when it all went wrong (but that's another story for another time).

Hubby and I are about to TTC our lil girl in October to complete our family. My oldest son was unplanned but wanted none the less. My youngest one was very much planned and we had a hard time having him. I came off of the bcp and for 2-3 months I didn't have a period and because we were TTC I kept taking tests hoping for that bfp. Which never happened. I went back to my doc and he then did blood work and determined that I wasn't ovulating and diagnosed me with pcos. So the next step was to induce my period with medication and then start on clomid beginning on day 3 of my next cycle through cycle day 7. It was then that I finally began to ovulate. However I didn't get pregnant as somehow we missed the egg even though DH and I were going at it like rabbits. For 3 more months still no bfp. At that point my doc wanted to follow my cycles closely by doing ultrasounds on me every week to check my ovaries and my follicles to see if that was causing a problem. But at this point we were coming up on December and I was emotionally drained from all of it. So I told my doc we were gonna take a break as that was what I felt I needed. And that after the holidays I'd come back in and we'd get the ball rolling again. Well apparently a little bit of relaxing and not worrying about ttc or timing or anything else was EXACTLY what I needed. On christmas eve I realized I was 4 days late for AF (period). At first I thought nothing of it and figured I hadn't used clomid that cycle so I likely didn't ovulate was all. My best friend was convinced that I was preggers and talked me into taking a test. Low and behold, much to my shock and amazement, BFP!!! Matter of fact, the test line came up before the control line and was tons darker than it too! lol!! Well now my little man is a year old.

So I guess what I'm trying to tell you is that since you managed to have one child, another one is certainly possible and there are meds out there and technology that can help. Don't be afraid to ask for it and I too would talk to my doc about this and see if you need clomid or anything too. Meanwhile, I'd go ahead and get started taking folic acid 3 months before TTC if at possible as it greatly helps reduce risk of neural tube defects. I can also understand being afraid of another miscarriage. I too am certainly terrified of that. It's my worst fear. But I also know that if I don't take the plunge and try, then I'll never know and my greatest wish will definitely never come true. Try, is all we can do and we shouldn't let our fear hold us back. Afterall, our little angels wouldn't want that and I'm certain they'd want their mommies (us) to be happy. I'm certain my little angel will come back to me once I conceive. And I'm sure yours will too. Good luck hun and I'm sorry for the long reply. I'm here if you ever need to chat, feel free to PM me.

 

[ellieraine]

Hi Kimberly, thank you for your lovely message and welcome. I am sorry that you also suffer from PCOS and have suffered a loss.

It is lovely to hear that you have your 2 boys though especially after having all of the problems TCC #2. I have been told that often trying too hard can go against you, so it sounds as though relaxing and going with the flow definitely helped you both. I will definitely remember that when my time comes.

We have recently moved house so need to switch doctors, but I am planning to ask my new doctor for an MOT and get myself registered with a specialist for my PCOS, so hopefully that will get me on the right track. At the moment I am taking Metformin daily without any type of checks to make sure that I am ok, so I want that sorted and I want to be monitored.

You have a great way of looking at the future and the chance of having another LO and I will keep that in mind, it is better to try than to always wonder what could have been. I'm just terrified of losing another baby.

I want to get myself in shape, lose some weight and generally sort myself out so that I am ready to TTC. At the moment I feel a bit of a mess. I guess that will give me a focus.

I would love to PM you, is there a message system on this site to use, or do you mean via email?

x

 

[princess_bump]

welcome to wtt i am so sorry to hear of your loss. i too am a fellow pcos, we were lucky and it only took 9months to conceive our little girl. we're now wtt till she's a bit bigger, though i do often worry about how long number 2 will take us xxx

 

[Kimberly28]

Hi Kimberly, thank you for your lovely message and welcome. I am sorry that you also suffer from PCOS and have suffered a loss.

It is lovely to hear that you have your 2 boys though especially after having all of the problems TCC #2. I have been told that often trying too hard can go against you, so it sounds as though relaxing and going with the flow definitely helped you both. I will definitely remember that when my time comes.

We have recently moved house so need to switch doctors, but I am planning to ask my new doctor for an MOT and get myself registered with a specialist for my PCOS, so hopefully that will get me on the right track. At the moment I am taking Metformin daily without any type of checks to make sure that I am ok, so I want that sorted and I want to be monitored.

You have a great way of looking at the future and the chance of having another LO and I will keep that in mind, it is better to try than to always wonder what could have been. I'm just terrified of losing another baby.

I want to get myself in shape, lose some weight and generally sort myself out so that I am ready to TTC. At the moment I feel a bit of a mess. I guess that will give me a focus.

I would love to PM you, is there a message system on this site to use, or do you mean via email?

x

Basically, you just click on my name and it will take you to my profile. Then if you look immediately below the name on the profile you should see "Status:" and then below that it says "send message". Click that and select "send private message". It's not hard, I promise.

 

[DorryBird:)]

Welcome Ellieraine!

I am new here myself.

So sorry for you loss!

I am hesitant to about starting TTC, as my health conditions means I have a huge increase in MC, as it is a "side affect" or "symptom."

I hope you find the support you need here!
xx