No child care when i have my baby ?? RANT

[johnoblueshoe]

I am starting to really worry that we havent got anyone that we can relie on to look after my older children if i go into labour...

I really wanted to try for a vba2c and i have even convinced my specialist to let me try for one... i was no happy... untill last night. my youngest was rushed into hospital with suspected Pneumonia, i took him docs with what i thought was an elergic reaction and ended up being sent straight to the childrens ward... both me and hubby wanted to go so we could be with ben so i franticly rang round family to sort child care for the others and no one could help all to busy really, i mean too busy for your own grandchildren... well anyway it turned out not to be Pneumonia thank god but we all spent 7 hours last night over at the childrens ward...me hubby and my 4 children...

well anyway this just proves that we have no one to relie on or trust if i try for a natural labour so i am thinking i will have to book in for a c section at 38 weeks and do it when kids are at schoold and book them into both breakfast and afterschool club....

Im so anoyed today and feel totally let down by family.... i would do anything for anyone but i am thinking that from now on my family are all that matters from hear on...

sorry just needed to rant
x

 

[austinsmom]

Sorry to hear hun... but I can relate. The closest family near me is 3 hours way. And there's a possibility that my DH may be deloyed when I deliever. Guess I'm looking at having my 5 yr old as my back up coach, LOL. I have yet to get a solid commitment from my family... and if I go into labor quickly, I suppose that won't even matter (being 3 hours away)

 

[hb1]

Could you speak to local childminders/nannies - whether anyone would be prepared to offer an emergency service for you?

 

[johnoblueshoe]

thanks ladies

 

[summer rain]

Sorry hun; we have exactly the same problem; to be fair my family live around 200 miles away but we have family on my OHs side living two streets away and they just don't help out at all, and the rest of them live within a 5 mile radius. I had to cancel my 34 week midwife appointment today (and the mw is being totally unhelpful about rescheduling; I only live around the corner from the clinic as well so she or one of the team could always pop in) because we couldn't find anyone to mind our kids while the appointment was on; and my hubby couldn't find anyone to swap shifts with. The cost of childcare in London is just a joke and we cannot afford it; especially not as a one off in an emergency. My husband has confronted his family many times and they say how bad it is that they never come or help out; but then they forget about it by the next day. It is throwing a spanner into our birth plans as well; there is no way any of them can be relied on to come here should I suddenly go into labour; or take me to hospital if we decide to go down that road.

 

[Chocciebutton]

my husband and I dont drive...the hospital is 37 miles away...all my family are abroad so I have this problem with my 2 children too when the time comes....Im not due until July but even so I am worrying

 

[sparkle05]

Hello

I'm so sorry you were in this situation. I do not understand how people can be to busy to help you in a situation like that.
I have family around me and we have all dropped things at the last minute to help each other out. Even if it means taking them in the middle of the night or taking a few extra with us on our travels. I mean your family are the most important part of your life.
I wish i could be of some help to you Do you have any good friends around you that could be on standby to walk the children to school or to collect them. Even if just for a short while ?

I hope you get to have the delivery you want. Lots of love

 

[johnoblueshoe]

Sorry hun; we have exactly the same problem; to be fair my family live around 200 miles away but we have family on my OHs side living two streets away and they just don't help out at all, and the rest of them live within a 5 mile radius. I had to cancel my 34 week midwife appointment today (and the mw is being totally unhelpful about rescheduling; I only live around the corner from the clinic as well so she or one of the team could always pop in) because we couldn't find anyone to mind our kids while the appointment was on; and my hubby couldn't find anyone to swap shifts with. The cost of childcare in London is just a joke and we cannot afford it; especially not as a one off in an emergency. My husband has confronted his family many times and they say how bad it is that they never come or help out; but then they forget about it by the next day. It is throwing a spanner into our birth plans as well; there is no way any of them can be relied on to come here should I suddenly go into labour; or take me to hospital if we decide to go down that road.

so sorry to hear this hun x its deff a worry and to know theres no one there in an emergency is kinda hurtfull x

 

[johnoblueshoe]

Hello

I'm so sorry you were in this situation. I do not understand how people can be to busy to help you in a situation like that.
I have family around me and we have all dropped things at the last minute to help each other out. Even if it means taking them in the middle of the night or taking a few extra with us on our travels. I mean your family are the most important part of your life.
I wish i could be of some help to you Do you have any good friends around you that could be on standby to walk the children to school or to collect them. Even if just for a short while ?

I hope you get to have the delivery you want. Lots of love

Thanks sparkle...
as well as doing a birthing plan i am also now working on a child care plan for the big day lol...
with a back up plan if i do go into labour early.

 

[evewidow]

i know how you feel too , glad your lo is ok btw

i keep joking that my 2 year old will be my birth partner while my 5 year old is at school , i joke but seriously it could happen !

hope it all works out for you

 

[ARouge]

That is really unfortunate. I bet if I had 4 little ones I would be in the same situation. Not many people can handle 4.

 

[summer rain]

so sorry to hear this hun x its deff a worry and to know theres no one there in an emergency is kinda hurtfull x

thanks hun and I really hope you're able to sort something out yourself. The really upsetting thing is my OH is the one who has taken various family members to hospital in emergencies (including being in labour) and to the airport at all hours when they want to go on holiday, and even driven various people to see relatives in Holland et al; yet when it comes to us there is always one excuse after another.

 

[johnoblueshoe]

That is really unfortunate. I bet if I had 4 little ones I would be in the same situation. Not many people can handle 4.

thanks joking apart though they were all soooo bloody well behaved last night at hoppital i was dreading it driving over but they were fantastic and i am one proud mummy.... just on way to tesco to get them all a little thank you gift x

 

[summer rain]

thats a lovely idea; I wish I could guarantee my boys behaving then I could have gone to my appointment today. They probably would have been able to; but my MW is so disorganised and last time I got seen well over an hour late; even though there was only one lady in front of me.

 

[Dizzymum]

I can't believe how selfish some people can be. I would always help out a friend in a situation like that, goes without saying. I'm gobsmacked.

Well, if you live near me, I'd look after your little ones!

 

[johnoblueshoe]

I can't believe how selfish some people can be. I would always help out a friend in a situation like that, goes without saying. I'm gobsmacked.

Well, if you live near me, I'd look after your little ones!

thanks so much hun x