No one in the room through second stage of labour?

[lushious09]

Well i dont want the babys father (my ex) in the delivery room with me so he will be either waiting outside or arriving after hes born... my close friend and my mum will be the ones who ill call when i go into labour... now im happy to have them there through the first stages hell i dont even mind my ex been there through the first bit, but i dont think i want them there through the second (where i push him out) id be much happier just the midwife been there as i dont want them to see me in that state...

...Am i been silly for this? or do you think its perfectly the norm? x

 

[Anxiousmom2b]

I don't think I'd want to do it on my own. I think I'd be ok with my Mom in room but she is about the only other person apart from my hubby. See how you feel at the time but its whatever you feel most comfortable with!

 

[DivaSatanica]

It all comes down to what makes you comfortable. I'm still not sure if anyone will be with me. My family all live out of town, so it will depend on how long it takes them to get to the hospital. My best friends all have little kids and husbands that work shift work, so it will depend on if they have someone to stay with their LOs. The FOB will likely be at the hospital, but I don't want him in the room.

 

[kmac1975]

I think if that's what you are comfortable with go for it. The last thing you want to be worrying about is other people. I think you should mention it to your midwife, i bet you're not the first to want it like that.

 

[Pearls18]

You've got to do what makes you feel comfortable, if that's what you prefer you will birth better and feel better. Perhaps have them close waiting in the wings so if you change your mind you can call them back in. I personally want someone with me, but we're all different x

 

[emmalj80]

I want to be left on my own through the entire thing, i actually contemplating a home birth, i stay much more in control if im on my own, the more people i have fussing around me the more tense i am.

 

[xpinkyperkyx]

it's completly up to you and what makes you feel most at ease. i coulsn't have done the second stage without my DH encouraging me and reminding me that i didn't want an epidural even though i was shouting for one at the time! was really glad he kept me going but i reckon of the mum's as relaxed and as calm as possible then they labour'lll be smoother so you be on controll and tell everyone what you want! x

 

[emmi26]

im hoping to be on my own with the mw!! i just dont like people fussing over me i would rather be alone !! my sister wants to be there but tbh i might say i will call her when ive been checked over then not ring her till hes here !! im very independent !!!

 

[Faerie]

There are no rules, it's whatever you feel like. Be upfront with your Mum and friend. Last time I had my DH, 2 sister, Mum and Dad all in the hospital. I wasn't sure if I'd want anyone, or just my DH or just my Mum or sister or what.... in the end I had them all in there (apart from Dad, he was asleep in the coffee room!). I just made sure everyone knew that they might be told to get lost.

 

[Jojo-Mummy]

I would say if thats what you want go for it. Make sure their on hand though incase you change your mind when you in labour x