No pregnqncy in almost 4 years - possible PCOS

[sequeena]

I am so confused and upset. It took 2 years to conceive Thomas. I thought something may have been wrong then but I fell pregnant and didn't persue it. We haven't used any sort of contraception since Thomas was born and I haven't fallen pregnant once. I laughed It off and just thought oh We are not having as much sex but really... 4 years... I should have gotten pregnant.

I went to my doctor today about my acne. I had It as a teen but in the last few years It has gotten really bad. It is all over my body and nothing gets rid of it. I expected a specialist cream or facewash but my doctor asked me a few questions and he now believes I have PCOS. In his words unprotected sex for 6 years and only one pregnancy. Something isn't right. I am going for bloods tomorrow for PCOS, thyroid issues and diabetes (hypothyroidism and both types of diabetes runs in my family). I am also being referred for a womb scan to look at my ovaries. PCOS would make a lot of sense.

I am in limbo right now as We dtd this month and I worked out I was just in my fertile period. No period which was due today lots of on and off cramping and other 'symptoms' nausea, aversion to food, heightened sense of smell etc. I will laugh if I am pregnant it's just how I was with T. It just feels so random. I did a test today but it was invalid. I have clearblue digitals arriving tomorrow.

Is anyone in the same position? I feel such an idiot for not going to the doctor sooner.

 

[jules87]

I'm not in the same boat, but I"m sending good vibes and baby dust your way!

 

[sequeena]

Thank you jules, lots of baby dust for you too xxxx

 

[minties]

We had unprotected sex for 8 years before I had Thomas. For most of it we were loosely TTC but more so me than OH. I knew something was obviously wrong with one of us but ignored it. I also never used protection with my previous partner from age 16 to 19 and no pregnancy. You think you are so fertile as a teen but never even had a scare. He broke up with me over it (we were engaged and he wanted kids).

I had an IUD briefly last year but had it removed. We have had sex often in my fertile period since Sophie was born and nothing. I think my kids are some sort of freaky miracle and think of myself as infertile.

I was told PCOS years ago but never had any testing. Do you have a regular period? Mine is totally random but I do get get ovulation signs.

I was also told it was my weight but losing weight has not helped to regulate my cycle.

 

[tommyg]

I am so confused and upset. It took 2 years to conceive Thomas. I thought something may have been wrong then but I fell pregnant and didn't persue it. We haven't used any sort of contraception since Thomas was born and I haven't fallen pregnant once. I laughed It off and just thought oh We are not having as much sex but really... 4 years... I should have gotten pregnant.

I went to my doctor today about my acne. I had It as a teen but in the last few years It has gotten really bad. It is all over my body and nothing gets rid of it. I expected a specialist cream or facewash but my doctor asked me a few questions and he now believes I have PCOS. In his words unprotected sex for 6 years and only one pregnancy. Something isn't right. I am going for bloods tomorrow for PCOS, thyroid issues and diabetes (hypothyroidism and both types of diabetes runs in my family). I am also being referred for a womb scan to look at my ovaries. PCOS would make a lot of sense.

I am in limbo right now as We dtd this month and I worked out I was just in my fertile period. No period which was due today lots of on and off cramping and other 'symptoms' nausea, aversion to food, heightened sense of smell etc. I will laugh if I am pregnant it's just how I was with T. It just feels so random. I did a test today but it was invalid. I have clearblue digitals arriving tomorrow.

Is anyone in the same position? I feel such an idiot for not going to the doctor sooner.

This isn't the most active part of the forum but you are in a similar boat to me. Join the over 35 & ttc 2.5 years thread don't worry about the age part. Its not really relevant.

I have been ttc for 3.5 years.

 

[sequeena]

Thank you tommyg I will pop over x

As It turns out I do not have PCOS, an underactive thyroid or diabetes. I'm very happy but also confused. Sean is going to go and get checked over

 

[Lou229]

Hi,
your story is very similar to mine. We tried for exactly 2 years for my daughter. I decided to get checked out but ended up with BFP that month so never thought anything of it. My daughter is now 4 1/2 and just started school. We haven't used contraception since before we were trying for my daughter and not even the slightest hint of another BFP. 1 pregnancy in 7 years (although only actively trying for some of that time). We both got checked out over a year ago and they couldn't find anything wrong so told me to lose weight and diagnosed unexplained secondary infertility.

Thing is my life was on hold. I didn't want to change jobs in case I fell pregnant and needed mat leave, I felt like getting tests my tell me I couldn't have more kids so I could put it to bed and move on. Now I feel like I am in limbo. I don't know if I will ever have another baby but I don't know if I will either. I keep talking to my DH about giving up and just deciding to forget about it. I am even starting to get rid of all the baby stuff I kept. Yet I still have that niggling instinct every month to test and I just can't bring myself to use contraception.

I totally why you are feeling upset. I have gone the emotions of anger, failure, sadness. I think I am now numb.

I truly hope that things work out for you and that you can at the very least get some closure. I wish that I had closure at this point.

 

[tommyg]

Lou it is one of those things, I'd recommend getting tested to see what is wrong. But it wouldn't stop me moving jobs etc, you only need to be in a job before the cycle you fall pregnant to get SMP, if you happen to move the month you fall pregnant you still get MA, only diffrence is you get the Goverment basic from the beginning rather than 90% for the first 6 weeks then the basic.

 

[sequeena]

Hugs Lou xx very similar situations. I am also slowly getting rid of baby things. I'm cleaning up T's pushchair for my friend. My SIL has had lots of baby things as my neohew is 18 months old. I can't bring myself to get rid of his pram, swing or jumperoo. My cousin is pregnant with her 4th due christmas and I am really struggling with it.

I have my scan on september 2nd. I am kind of hoping they find something... I don't like limbo and the explanation of oh you are just fat... but of course it is great if I'm fine. Ugh.

I'm just finishing my period so fx this is the month.

 

[sequeena]

Just to update everyone I had a scan today. Both my ovaries are enlarged and I have cysts on both ovaries.

 

[Mrs W 11]

Hi ladies, do you mind if I join you? My DD has recently turned 3 and we've been ttc no 2 for 2 years now. Had a mmc early on and nothing since. We had all tests done and sadly I have a low ovarian reserve as I lost an ovary years ago. We've had one failed ivf and last time we tried I didn't respond to the drugs they give you to grow eggs. I just can't believe this might never happen for us. After getting pregnant easily with my dd I just assumed I'd have 2 or 3 children.

Sequeena sorry to hear about your scan results, have the drs given you a treatment plan to try and help you?

 

[sequeena]

Hey Mrs W! Sorry to hear about your ttc journey I hope you are able to fall pregnant x it's hard knowing that you did it once but may never do it again

Not yet. I am going to see my doctor next week x I don't know the full results yet x

 

[Mrs W 11]

Thank you! Yes it's really tough. I've watched everyone who had a baby at a similar time to me go on to have no 2 and we are still waiting. I keep hoping!

Good luck with your full results. X

 

[sequeena]

I know the feeling someone I know had a baby 4 months after me and has gone on to have another 2!