not enough bedrooms...advice please

[hippobaby]

hi ladies...just wanted to hear some views on our situation.

My OH and I live in a 2 bed house and my OH has a 9yr old son who lives with his mum - the spare room is his, with all his toys and decorated as he liked it. Now we are expecting my OH and I cannot decide what to do, we've totally changed our view from when we discussed what we would do hyperthetically, i said he'd have to lose the room and my OH wasnt keen and now its really happening I dont want him to lose the room but my OH does. We havent told OH's son (we're telling him tomorrow hopefully - just about having a bro/sis, we wont discuss the bedroom issue til later dont wanna scare the lad!).

anyway advice would be appreciated..oh we have 2 lounges so to speak and we may consider converted it to a cool play/games room for him with futon or something, he doesnt stay much at the mo (but thats a whole other story) so we're worried if we put him downstairs that may reduce his visits further which we dont want

what do you think? (ps we cant really afford to buy a 3 bed house at the mo)

 

[Cat lady]

Difficult one really. I think the spare lounge as a cool games room is the best plan. Explain it as because he is a big boy you didnt think he would want the room next to you and his dad and his little brother/sister would need you more.
Good luck
xxx

 

[rubixcyoob.]

I agree with catlady. The lounge change into a games/sleeping room would be nice. It will give him a sense of independence knowing you trust him enough to have a new 'big boy' room and that you don't feel he needs to be babied anymore. It may also make him want to stay over more if he has a - presumabley - large, more grown up room all for himself.

 

[holywoodmum]

Yeah I think if you can afford to convert one lounge in to a special place for him, then I think so long as you 'explain' it in the right way, you should be on to a winner like the others have said Good luck!!

 

[wantingno.2]

We had the same problem when we had our son ... oh has a son who also lives with his mum and only visits on school holiday as he lives 300 miles away so it's not realistic to have him stay more often..... we lived in a 2 bedroom flat back then and although oh's son had a bedroom to his self we had to re-do the bedroom to fit them both in, we had no choice really. He was 6 at the time and was fine with it.

Now 3/4 years on we live in a 3 bedroom house and have the same problem again...... our son will now be moving into oh's sons bedroom which is the larger room and we will be getting bunk beds. youngest will be 4 eldest 10.

 

[hippobaby]

thanks ladies - i was kinda leaning that way, just dont want his mum suggesting we're pushing him out. he loves computer games and while it goes against my principles we may get him a games chair for his birthday (2 weeks before lo is due) for his 'new' room. doh...havent long decorated it so may have to re-do but thats good i think as he can pick what he wants (within reason of course..hehe)

many thanks...

 

[divadexie]

I think converting the lounge into an area he can use is a great idea!
You could get him really involved in it and help out so its how he wants it, make a big deal of him getting a grown up space he can use.
Then the bedroom can be just for sleeping.

 

[Saranna80]

My DD stays in the bedroom right next door to ours and it's always been in my head that if we were to have another, I'd want to have that room as the nursery and move DD into the other bedroom (which is actually way bigger anyway). I was worried about what to do cause I didn't want to kick off any jelousy issues or make her think she was being pushed away. Well, she stunned me to the core. She came with me to the dating scan and on the way home told me that she wanted to give up her room and move into the other bedroom so that the new baby can be close to me and daddy if he/she needs us through the night...I nearly cried! :0)
Just wanted to say you never know how your OH son might react when you tell him! Good luck and I'm sure it'll work out.
Oh, as for your options - I think utilising the second lounge as a cool play room would be really appreciated by him!

 

[wantingno.2]

My DD stays in the bedroom right next door to ours and it's always been in my head that if we were to have another, I'd want to have that room as the nursery and move DD into the other bedroom (which is actually way bigger anyway). I was worried about what to do cause I didn't want to kick off any jelousy issues or make her think she was being pushed away. Well, she stunned me to the core. She came with me to the dating scan and on the way home told me that she wanted to give up her room and move into the other bedroom so that the new baby can be close to me and daddy if he/she needs us through the night...I nearly cried! :0)
Just wanted to say you never know how your OH son might react when you tell him! Good luck and I'm sure it'll work out.
Oh, as for your options - I think utilising the second lounge as a cool play room would be really appreciated by him!

awwwww that is the cutest thing i have ever heard.

When we told DS he would be moving upstairs, he was very excited he thinks he's such a big boy now.... he's really still my baby!