summer rain
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I'm booked for a homebirth but I've only seen my specific local midwife once at 28 weeks (had a different one of her team for booking appointment; and then different ones at hospital for 16 week appointment etc) and I couldn't make it to my 34 week appointment as the time wasn't suitable and she wasn't able to offer me anything else. I phoned her less than four days later and she asked the same qs she asks every time; I know shes probably dealing with a lot of patients but she asked me first off if I'd had my baby; then she forgot what hospital I am booked at, or that I am booked for a homebirth. She then mumbled vaguely about how they can get the homebirth sorted for me; but I'm just not feeling confident. It seems these midwives don't deal with homebirths despite my GP booking me in with this team of midwives specifically because they do; whereas my GP said the other team of midwives in the area only deal with a specific hospital and don't do homebirths. Also I want to discuss whether I'd be able to have a homebirth here; should we not be moved yet (we're going through a homeswap atm) because this development does have restricted parking and no visitor parking at all; as well as it being down quite a long private road; and thus the midwives may have to park further away than they are comfortable with. Also at my last ante natal appointment I had to wait 2 hours, the mw turned up really late and was running around like a headles chicken; which wasn't explained; and by the end of it I felt really anxious; and then the appointment was so rushed I wasn't able to do anything except get my HIP form filled, blood pressure checked, and fundal height/heartbeat. In my old area it was the same NHS trust and a completely different system, they had a team of midwives and while you didn't see the same one each time; appointments were always on time and not rushed, and rebooking was easy. My OH is really supportive of homebirth but he is now saying he doesn't feel confident either and he is thinking we should just go to the nearest hospital (not the one I've been with) as its between 5-20 mins drive away if traffic is ok. Just not sure what to do....
I'm booked for a homebirth but I've only seen my specific local midwife once at 28 weeks (had a different one of her team for booking appointment; and then different ones at hospital for 16 week appointment etc) and I couldn't make it to my 34 week appointment as the time wasn't suitable and she wasn't able to offer me anything else. I phoned her less than four days later and she asked the same qs she asks every time; I know shes probably dealing with a lot of patients but she asked me first off if I'd had my baby; then she forgot what hospital I am booked at, or that I am booked for a homebirth. She then mumbled vaguely about how they can get the homebirth sorted for me; but I'm just not feeling confident. It seems these midwives don't deal with homebirths despite my GP booking me in with this team of midwives specifically because they do; whereas my GP said the other team of midwives in the area only deal with a specific hospital and don't do homebirths. Also I want to discuss whether I'd be able to have a homebirth here; should we not be moved yet (we're going through a homeswap atm) because this development does have restricted parking and no visitor parking at all; as well as it being down quite a long private road; and thus the midwives may have to park further away than they are comfortable with. Also at my last ante natal appointment I had to wait 2 hours, the mw turned up really late and was running around like a headles chicken; which wasn't explained; and by the end of it I felt really anxious; and then the appointment was so rushed I wasn't able to do anything except get my HIP form filled, blood pressure checked, and fundal height/heartbeat. In my old area it was the same NHS trust and a completely different system, they had a team of midwives and while you didn't see the same one each time; appointments were always on time and not rushed, and rebooking was easy. My OH is really supportive of homebirth but he is now saying he doesn't feel confident either and he is thinking we should just go to the nearest hospital (not the one I've been with) as its between 5-20 mins drive away if traffic is ok. Just not sure what to do....