ExpectingK
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Has anyone's OH not quite lived up to your expectations as a daddy?
Before I decided my OH was the right one to have kids with I kinda sized up his potential to be a good dad, in all respects.....I'd seen him interact with my sisters young kids, he is caring, had a good job, capable around the house etc.
But now, 9 months on, he really hasn't been the daddy I expected. My OH always had a dream to run his own business (pub) and he refurbished and opened one 4 days after dd was born. I was fully aware the pub would be demanding of his time, but I'd always assume (and hoped) his family would be a bigger pull. Somedays I wonder if he stays at work just so that he doesn't have to come home and put his daddy hat on.
He's never bathed our dd and has only watched a handful of times - most of the time he's at work. He's probably changed less than 10 nappies, and they were whilst she was newborn, he doesn't dress her, feed her or put her to bed.
In the last month or so she's become much more interesting in his eyes. Crawling, cruising and babbling makes her much cuter and of course he's now beginning to interact with her. He still doesn't do any of the above but at least plays with her and talks to her.
I just kinda feel that he's let us down, and that he's lost out in some way. I would now never consider having another child because having my dd has been like being a single mum. My parents and sister have been wonderful to me, without them I'd have gone crazy - well I did for a while.
I guess I'm disappointed in him and feel like my dream has been tainted.
Before I decided my OH was the right one to have kids with I kinda sized up his potential to be a good dad, in all respects.....I'd seen him interact with my sisters young kids, he is caring, had a good job, capable around the house etc.
But now, 9 months on, he really hasn't been the daddy I expected. My OH always had a dream to run his own business (pub) and he refurbished and opened one 4 days after dd was born. I was fully aware the pub would be demanding of his time, but I'd always assume (and hoped) his family would be a bigger pull. Somedays I wonder if he stays at work just so that he doesn't have to come home and put his daddy hat on.
He's never bathed our dd and has only watched a handful of times - most of the time he's at work. He's probably changed less than 10 nappies, and they were whilst she was newborn, he doesn't dress her, feed her or put her to bed.
In the last month or so she's become much more interesting in his eyes. Crawling, cruising and babbling makes her much cuter and of course he's now beginning to interact with her. He still doesn't do any of the above but at least plays with her and talks to her.
I just kinda feel that he's let us down, and that he's lost out in some way. I would now never consider having another child because having my dd has been like being a single mum. My parents and sister have been wonderful to me, without them I'd have gone crazy - well I did for a while.
I guess I'm disappointed in him and feel like my dream has been tainted.