Now unemployed and can't stop crying....

[rubberducky88]

So I posted on here that I had quit my job on Monday as the commute was too stressful for me, and I was hoping that my 2nd job would be kind and give me more hours.

It turns out, they won't, and they're terminating my contract as of next Friday as I was only temporary.

So i've gone from 2 jobs, to none, and I am so terrified and worried and I can't stop crying

I know this stress is no good for bubs, but I can't help but worry. My OH doesn't earn enough for both of us to live let alone 3 of us xx

 

[tung]

hun... I'm on the same boat as you. In May I miscarried. It was my second. The doctor said a lot of times women miscarry because of stress. I then found another job in August... and found out I was pregnant. Perfect timing. 3 weeks into the new job the boss didn't think i was "right" for the position. So I left... and now i'm unemployed as well..

Please don't stress it isn't good for the baby. I've been job hunting for almost 2 weeks now.. and had no luck...

Just think about it as a break for us to have a healthy baby... what's more important right now is a baby not your job..

Today i'm going for my first ultrasound at 6 weeks 5 days because the hcg levels aren't as high as they're supposed to be.. and i'm very nervous right now...

Good luck hun....please dont stress...

 

[luckybreak]

hmm you know usually this is the time when people come up with a business from home, is there something you wanted to start on your own? sell on ebay? i did ebay part time was making about $1200 every 2 weeks or if you are good making stuff you can sell your stuff on Etsy.com, design t-shirts on zazzle.com you just design them and they print them and ship them for you etc etc good luck!!

 

[rubberducky88]

I hope your scan goes well hun.

I'm so worried about money, that we won't be able to afford to keep my car or anything let alone buy anything for bubs

I need a magic fairy to come and help me x

 

[Jennifurball]

Could you not try something like becoming an Avon rep? Not a stressful or demanding job and the money can become really good.

Things happen for a reason. If you hadn't quit, you would still have had the stressful commute. Still not good for baby.

 

[CharmingBeake]

We are in a similar situation. I just put in my two weeks notice at work because the work is stressful and makes me sick to my stomach, but my bosses are not being considerate of that fact and put me on the most stressful shifts.
However, at the same time, my husband is being medically discharged from the army, and will soon only be making a disability check. We planned to move back home, buy a house, and get ready for baby, but we're not sure we're going to be able to afford that anymore.
Hang in there though, things have a way of working out. I'm sure everything will turn out all right for the both of us, and anyone else in our situation!

 

[tung]

Could you not try something like becoming an Avon rep? Not a stressful or demanding job and the money can become really good.

Things happen for a reason. If you hadn't quit, you would still have had the stressful commute. Still not good for baby.

I was just thinking the same thing. Avon Rep. Where I live, there's a lady that comes by every 2 weeks and drops off her avon catalogs. She leaves her number and email address for me to order stuff from her. Maybe you can try that.

How about babysitting children at your own home? Don't worry hun.. just think about the beautiful baby that's in your tummy right now. Tomorrow is a new day.

 

[nautegesocks]

awww sweety i totaly feel where your coming from i found out i was pregnant the same week as i found out i was being made redundent and my oh isnt a high earner either . i have been offerd a new job but will be 12 weeks when i start so wont be able to keep it a secret for very long and cant say i only just found out either im praying they let me keep the position throughout my pregnancy but who knows just incase they dont i did a little reaserch and this is what i found.

the good news is you will still be able to claim maternity allowence £125 a week after about 28 weeks if you have worked at least 26 out of 66 weeks leading up to your due date so as long you worked 26 weeks earning at least £30 a week before you got pregnant your good as pregnancy is only 40 weeks. you will also get £20 a week child benefit as every one gets this also once baby is here your partner will be able to top up his earnings with family tax credits , working tax credits or child tax credits this can be a fair amont of money if your oh is in a lower earnings bracket you may also be entitald to housing benifit to help with rent


sorry for the long post im wishing you the best of luck hunni

 

[bumpbear]

Do you have a good relationship with your first employer? They might consider letting you take back your resignation letter? (long shot, but worth a try perhaps?)

 

[rubberducky88]

Thanks everyone, it just seems this wasn't the way we planned it.

Unfortunately, due to money, we had to move back with our parents - so i'm screwed there as well.

Keep thinking we're selfish for wanting to bring a child into this But, as you all say, things will work out!

I would consider being an Avon rep but we already have loads where I live! There's a lady that covers my street as well so would be really hard to get the business

xx

 

[Digby]

I've taken back a resignation before - if you're super nice to them, explain you've had second thoughts and worried you acted to hastily and they haven't hired someone already it might work out. A stressful commute no doubt a better situation for you xx

 

[tung]

Thanks everyone, it just seems this wasn't the way we planned it.

Unfortunately, due to money, we had to move back with our parents - so i'm screwed there as well.

Keep thinking we're selfish for wanting to bring a child into this But, as you all say, things will work out!

I would consider being an Avon rep but we already have loads where I live! There's a lady that covers my street as well so would be really hard to get the business

xx

My husband and I actually moved back with my parents when I was pregnant until my son was 1 and a half. There is no shame in asking for help. I actually found it helped my pregnancy and mood to be around people who cared about me.

Sometimes life doesn't go as planned... but that is life.. and you and your OH will get over this speed bump... You're not selfish at all... not to worry

 

[ifoundmysoul]

i believe that things happen for a reason and whilst it may not seem that way now im sure it will all work out the end - we are stronger than we think!

 

[Crannog]

I echo what the other poster said - is there any way you could get your first job back? Even if you could stick at it for the remainder of your pregnancy,it would ensure that you'd qualify for statutary maternity benefit and take the heat of your little family financially for a while.
If this isn't an option I'd imagine you'd be entitled to Jobseeker's Benefit, but you may need a letter from your first employer advising that they laid you off rather than that you left of your own accord.
Also...remember ..you're most likely due a tax refund, and a fairly hefty one at that because you had two jobs. Another thing, you may like to check if you have a PRSI refund, as you should be paying PRSI on a second job at a lower rate and may have been overpaying. Good luck!

 

[Cazlabump]

Hey hun, I am sorry to hear about this. As you know I have been unemployed since I found out I was pregnant, and I have struggled to get a job ever since. Again my OH doesnt earn enough to support all 3 of us, BUT we are making it work. It was really stressful and i did break down alot about it, but Im starting to get my head around things and learning where to cut back on spending. Were living with my parents at the moment, and not planning to move out till 3 months before bubba is due so that we can get as much money behind us. I receive JSA payments, and we dont touch them so that is just building up in my account to help us buy things. We also buy one or two items a week for bubs so that we can slowly get stuff together.

I know it seems like the end of the world at the moment but there are ways around things. I also know its not very ideal and is definitely not the situation that anyone wants to bring a child up BUT what you have to remember that is people have coped on a lot less then what you are going to be on. And there are ways around things even if it doesnt seem like it now.

Sending you lots of hugs and loves from me and bubs, and you know where I am if you want to chat. xxxx

(sorry if none of that made no sense I sorta got a bit carried away when typing xxxxx)