Nursery

[UkCath]

My mum has been giving me a real ear ache about my plan to put the baby in to full time nursery at 8 months so I can get back to work. She seems to think it's bad for the baby and me and I will regret it.

My job is a full time job, I have to be at work full time.

To be honest I haven't even looked in to a nursery yet, I was going to get past 12 weeks and start to do that kind of planning.

Does anyone else plan to go back full time, and if so when?

 

[HippyMumma23]

I started uni when ds was 8 months old, he went to nursery 4 full days a week. It isnt quite full time but near enough. It was hard but Ive no regrets.

Admittedly it would have been nicer to stay at home with him a little longer as I wasnt ready to give up breastfeeding so early (my milk dried up being away from him). But he is a happy content and well adjusted little boy so I know it wasnt a bad decision.

You and your child will be fine, and if you have the baby and change your mind, then so be it.

 

[welshmummy2be]

im planning on return to work as soon as i can after baby is born (need money its not really an option not to work) my partner will look after baby when he is not working and when he is my MIL will x x

 

[Tadan]

I'm currently swaying towards going back full time, but I don't know how I'll cope because i hate it lol. My OH is a student but he should have finished by the end of my ML. IF he gets a good job then I will consider part time work somewhere else, if not I won't have much of a choice but to go back full time. MIL said she would babysit two days a week so will have to think about the rest when time comes. But we've got until at least August next year to think of all this.

 

[mich1122]

hi, my dd is 4 years old now, and i went back to work full time when she was 6 months old, and put her into a nursery.

she was totally fine, and now after three and a half years there she is like part of the furniture! everyone in there knows her and she is so happy/content there. also i can see the difference being in nursery brings between her and my nephew who hasnt been to nursery yet,

do what feels right for you, i never had the option but it worked out well.
michelle x

 

[natz123]

I hope not to have to go back to work. I would rather bring up the baby myself and if we need the money I hope to do something even like deliver Avon catalogues to bring a bit of money in. I hope to take my baby to lots of mums and baby classes so that my baby is socialised. But these days nursery is so expensive we really won't be very much better off by me going back to work. Unfortunatley both of our parents still work so we won't get any help there while I work.

I think nursery is a decision each woman has to make herself, after considering financial reasons and their partners feelings. Only do what is right for you and don't let your mum pressure you into anything xxx

 

[libbymarks198]

i'm an early childhood teacher i know that in nz our centres are very different to those in america, if i lived in america there would be no way i would put my child in a place like that. but i love them over here my baby will be in one about 3 days a week 9am to 6 pm from 3-4 months old,, i guess the good thing is i can go visit them when ever i want as i will work in the same building. the other day my grandparents will baby sit and i will only work 4 days a week

 

[lisaf]

I have no choice but to go back to work after only 6-8 weeks or so.. my job might let me stay home for a couple more, but its a finance issue as I am the primary breadwinner.
I have a feeling I'd eventually go crazy being at home all day as much as I would love it at the same time (thats just me though, not a criticism of anyone!).

We hope to have MIL watch the baby for a while... if she's up for it. If not, perhaps we will find another mom who wants to stay home who will watch our LO along with hers for a fee.

My mom did that with me... I was always treated well when in home daycares and even the bigger daycares when I was older. There are always going to be crazy stories that make the news, but I firmly believe those 'bad' daycares are the exception rather than the rule.

The only issue that EVER came up is when my brother was 11 and the summer daycare lady didn't believe that he was lactose intolerant ... she thought he was just trying to get out of drinking his milk. She didn't force him to drink it, but told him she'd check with his parents and if he was lying he'd be in big trouble. Nothing criminal there.

I was a terribly shy kid despite being in daycares throughout my infancy/adulthood. I think its because my parents were shy though and it took me until I was a teen to grow out of it.... now you can't shut me up!