Okay, I know this guy for 13 years. He's best friends with someone else I know for 13 years. Let's just say all 3 of us went to Jr HS together. They both have a thing for me but they know I'm married and they respect me (well, one of them do). The other had asked me out about 2 months ago and I of course said no. The next day he was dating my good friend. They met, had sex and he left and now he's in Afghanistan. He won't be back for another year or so. My friend knew he had asked me out first and when I said no he asked her out. She was okay with it. She said she fell for him. He told me he doesn't really love her the way she loves him. She also knows that but doesn't seem moved by it. He broke up with her today because he knows he won't be coming back for a very long time. Now, I'm hearing from our friend (the other guy we know for 13 years), that he talks a lot about me to him. He says things like "ooh, the things I'd do to Christina's ass". I always knew he liked me in some sorta way but I think if you're going out with my friend you shouldn't talk like that. I feel like he started dating her just because he wasn't gonna be with me anymore. I know my friend loves him but I don't want to see her crying pointless tears. Should I tell her what I know or leave it be? The reason I'm hesitant in saying anything is because this tends to happen a lot. My friends BF's and husbands end up liking me and then I end up being in the middle. I almost lost my BFF due to this. What should I do?? I don't think it'd be right to let her cry her eyes out day and night over him meanwhile he isn't even worth it. Even our friend think she should know. He feels he asked her out because I said no.