Officially a Single Mom

[mamashakesit]

Hi Everyone,

Just wanted to introduce myself and my situation. I don't want to go into full details...you can read those here:

https://www.babyandbump.com/pregnan...ome-help-advice-its-long-but-please-read.html

But I will do a recap. Caught my BF, who I have been with a very short amount of time of a dating website emailing MANY women. Up until yesterday, it was up in limbo as to what would happen with us and the baby, but I confronted him on every single lie I caught him in and he FLIPPED the f**k out. Told me I was psycho for going through his emails, I needed mental help and he was NOT the father of his child and he didn't want anything to do with me or anything that came out of me.

He also threatened me via text message several times, telling me that I have a reputation to uphold (I'm somewhat of a public figure) and: "I WOULD BE CAREFUL! I have a lot of time!" (he's unemployed).

I felt overwhelmed about being a first-time mom before, but now I'm really, really scared...about money (I don't earn a lot at my job), about getting everything I need, about going through the birth all alone, all of it.

Please tell me how you managed to get through it if you were in a similar situation. My family lives 1800 miles away. I moved here for my job and I'm all alone. Thanks.

 

[littlekitten8]

Hi hun. I don't really have any advice about your situation as I split with FOB when James was 3 months old. Just wanted to say you can do this. Is there any way you can transfer with your job? Move back near your family? I'm not sure what you are entitled to over there but in the UK as a single parent there is government assistance which you can claim to help towards costs. We also have a Surestart grant for £500 during pregnancy to buy pram, cot etc. Hope you manage to sort things out.

 

[purpledahlia]

Yeah i would look into if you can move closer to family fro support. I also dont know what the government help is over there, or if there is any? I would keep any texts that hes sent just incase. as proof! x

 

[scottishgal89]

i have also been in a similar situation..
found him on a dating website
he had a violent temper
emotionally and mentally abused me until i felt like i didnt want to be here anymore
we broke up when i was 20weeks pregnant and i went threw my pregnancy alone (had from the start really anyways) and to be honest- me and my little girl are so so much better for it ending up like this.
even though it doesnt feel like it now if he is going to treat u like that then u have to prioritise ur lo and protect them at all costs- the only thing they need is their mummy!!!
i would try to move closer to your family, my mum has helped me so much and was also my birth partner.
if u want to chat or have any questions or want advice feel free to pm me!!
sending massive
keep your chin up