oh I just dont know what to do anymore :(

[sophsoph23]

I dunno what is safe and what isnt safe in the first trimester and its really starting to do my head in. Is it okay to have dry sex like where the girl is on top rubbing?
cause i dont know if it would like jolt the baby around abit and cause it harm or something

and also, I get really bad moodswings that ive always had, even before i was pregnant, and I just go really angry and find it hard to control what I do, and when I finally come out of my mood swing I feel really guilty and like im not good enough and Im gonna make a really bad mum

Ive suffered from anxiety and depression in the past and it just comes and goes, Im starting to wonder if I should go back on my anti depressants but then I dont know if thats safe to do during pregnancy either!!

I really want my baby to be okay and I dont wanna do anything to harm it in anyway but I just feel like im not doing a good enough job.
I feel like a really bad person.

Please give me some advice!
xx

 

[lousielou]

Sex is fine hun, unless you've been specifically advised to abstain for medical reasons. The baby is well cushioned and protected, and sex won't cause it any harm.

If you're worried about your mood, and have had bouts of depression or anxiety before, I'd have a chat with your GP. There are some antidepressants that are safe to take, but you might find that your moods settle down on their own.

You're doing a great job hun

xx

 

[24/7]

Sex is fine, were just carrying on a normal. xx

 

[Peril]

Sex is fine! Just be aware of what your body is telling you... Mood swings are normal, i too am a long term sufferer with anxiety / depression. If you feel that you need that little bit of help there are plenty of safe drugs that can be prescribed. I know that the situation we are in can be overwhelming and worrisome, just make sure that you keep in good contact with your GP / MW and any other professional help / support that you can.

On a related note, I have been referred for Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, which gives you coping skills mechanisms to help cope with the situation we are in, as i have found myself getting very anxious! Maybe your dr could refer you to something similar for support etc.

Good luck and best wishes xxx

 

[Tigerlass]

Like the other girls have said hun, Sex is fine...Just dont go TOO rough lol. Me and my OH still carry on like normal, but now I just dont even feel like it haha!

Mood swings are normal, So try not to think its just the depression, I have suffered with severe mental health problems for the past 5 years now and when my hormones kicked in I was an emotional wreck thinking I wouldnt be a good mum etc, but all those feelings have gone now. I stopped taking ALL my medication the minute I found out I was pregnant which of course didnt help but I still see my mental health nurse, Talking really helps...and you should talk to your OH too about any concerns. Try not to rush into anything and think you need tablets because it is natural for you to feel the way you do. Your hormones are going wild....

The bad moments do pass I promise! Just go with the flow...If you need to cry, then cry and if you need to rant and rave then do it! You ARE allowed and it does not make you a bad person!!
I'm sure you will make a wonderful mummy....I found buying things for the LO helps as it keeps your mind off the negative stuff and keeps you focused on the positive! Keep smiling

 

[PrincessJenna]

See your doc or mw and explain they should b able give u some guidance

 

[Lauraaraa]

sex is fine - but i have told my partner that i dont want to have sex until i am past 12weeks - way past 12weeks - as i had a miscarriage last august - and dont want to risk it - but i have been told it wouldnt cause any more risk to m/c but thats just my personal preference - had sex a few times after i found out i was pregnant and i didnt enjoy it, i felt horrible after wards and paranoid something was going to happen to baby coz of it.
my partner is fine with it though.

mood swings are normal - ask my partner he has been getting alllll of them from me!!
i just keep saying it is the hormones - the other day he said he knew i was going to blame it on the hormones!!!! haha! oopsie! it is true though

regarding the depression - defo go to your doc as it may worsen if not which wont be good for you or your lil bambino

i was worried i would get depressed due to havin an eating disorder in the past - i though tthat gaining weight and getting a belly and all th changes would stress and depress me - but it is the total opppsite! i love it! i have a blaotd belly already and i love it!!! lol!! have also put a few pounds on - but i dont have scales in my home - which the midwife was pleased at. i really dont care how much weight i put on as i have got the rest of my life to get back to how i was.
this baby is the most important lil person to me right now. and i will do anything to ensure he/she is healthy and happy.
i was taking anti depressants before i bacame pregnant - but i went away for 3 weeks and forgot to take them with me, and oddly enough i am fine without them!!! i dont get any bulimic thoughts!! i actually look forward to making my meals! i think hmmm food for the baby!

please do go to speak to your doc and make sure you keep speaking to your partner and family. i hadnt spoke to my mam for a while properly, she called me last night - i cried (hormones again!!) and afterwards i felt and still feel so much better and positive!!

sorry for ranting on there!!

i tend to talk lots!

if you need advice or someone tot talk to feel free to speak to me

xx