OH is harder work than LO. Update pg 1

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  1. Ferret

    Ferret Well-Known Member

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    Just need a rant.

    OH is getting on my last nerve, we are supposed to be leaving to take LO to the farm at 10 but he is still in bed, wouldn't mind but it was his bloody idea. He still thinks he can just get up and go and wonders why I end up stressed trying to get myself and LO ready.
    He obviously thinks the same fairy that comes everyday to do the washing and cleaning gets all lo's stuff ready as well.

    Really want a shower without having to sing the wheels on the bloody bus to keep LO amused, just 1 morning a week that's all I ask.

    Sorry for the moan bur he is driving me crazy and when I say anything he gets all disgruntled like he thinks he does everything.

    UPDATE: OH is going away tomorrow for a week. His words as he left for work this morning. "do you think I might get :sex: before I go? As you've not had much time lately and your always knackered.
    LMAO before replying "no s**t Sherlock (as in Holmes). Whatever do I do that could make me so tired???"

    TBH looking forward to him going away as it will be 1 less to tidy up after.
     
  2. shellie82

    shellie82 Well-Known Member

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    i always get stressy on the weekends tryin to eep lo quiet when oh is in bed so i know ow your feeling

    however if this outing was his idea i would take lo into the bedroom to wake him up and tll him your getting in the shower so he is to get her ready as you have to leave soon
     
  3. LJaydow

    LJaydow Jack, Elizabeth

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    Oh i have the shower problem too! I dont know what he thinks im going to do - get in the shower and never come back or something because i always get the disbelief expression. Yes, i really DO want a shower and NO im not taking LO up with me

    We regularly have the "i do everything argument" - i dont argue now, i know who is right!
     
  4. DanielleM

    DanielleM Well-Known Member

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    What I tend to do with my OH, because if I didn't he would be like your OH still in bed, I give him choices such as 'do you want to have the first shower or the second?' or 'do you want to feed the baby, or get Evan up and sort his breakfast'. I find if I give him choices of the things to do he has to pick one and he can't have the option of nothing. Bit of reverse pshycology always does the trick!! Try it, I swear by it!!! x
     
  5. Faffalina

    Faffalina Mummy

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    You're a genius. I will be trying this :happydance:
     
  6. Pixxie

    Pixxie Mum to 1 little girl

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    Tell me about it! I've been hinting for a lie in for nearly a month now (by hint I mean 'I wish I got a lie in every now and then'!!) and guess who stays in bed until at least 11am every day he if off work while I get up at 8am even though I've been up 2-4 times a night with LO? Yea, thats right, muggins here does! He spouts the whole I work harder than you crap but wont listen to the fact that he may work harder but he gets evenings and weekends off where as I have to be 'on call' 24:7 :dohh:

    It's worse when its 1pm, hes still in bed, I'm trying to get LO to nap and hes shouting me from upstairs to make him a brew :growlmad: Sometimes I feel like I have 2 children!
     
  7. littlestar85

    littlestar85 Wife and mother

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    After 8 months I've accepted that I will not get a lie in until we've had all our kids and they've left home - and also that no matter where we're going I will have to get up early to get everything ready - and that I cannot have long showers. If I tell myself that's just how it is then I'll stop getting so frustrated every time the weekend comes around! :cry:
     
  8. KayBea

    KayBea Mummy to Xanthia Lily

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    I give OH a choice.
    I say you can either cook dinner or get LO ready for bed..
    Most of the time he says neither so i say right you can do both im going for a bath..
    X
     
  9. CupboardLove

    CupboardLove Pregnant - 2nd Trimester

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    I'm in a similar situation.

    This morning I woke OH up and TOLD him to look after LO because I need a shower.

    It worked because he had no choice. :)
     
  10. Gen79

    Gen79 Well-Known Member

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    Someone else suggested this on a different thread but I think its great. Get someone (family member, preferably mum or mil) to come over so you could nap. When they see he's home it'll probably embarrass him enough to help. Do it a few times if you have to.

    I sympathise with you all, I don't know if I'd be able to cope without DH's help.
     
  11. Ferret

    Ferret Well-Known Member

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    Update: didn't get to the farm as by the time he got up it was raining. So has plonked himself on the sofa and asked what's for lunch!!
     
  12. KayBea

    KayBea Mummy to Xanthia Lily

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    Say 'dunno, what you making?'..

    Or do what i do and go and make my own lunch then when he looks at me in discust (sp?) i say 'breads in the kitchen, butters in the fridge' and carry on eating.. :p

    Ide love to be a bloke and just do feck all abd then still find it appropriate to turn round and say 'whats for lunch/dinner'? Or a common one i get 'what have done all day for you to be tired'?

    Urghhhh!!!!

    Xx
     
  13. xnewxmummyx

    xnewxmummyx Mummy, Daddy and Isobelle

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    This is my OH to a T ! I ask him to do 1 thing and he goes off on one like he goes to work then comes home and sorts bub out etc but he dont!! grrrr, men dont understand that having a LO to look after is a 24/7 job.

    Oh and he is the most bone idle person EVER!! He gets out of bed 3mins before we have to leave the door and we always late because of him and I manage to get up, dress/fed myself and Isobelle and all while he is the lad of nod!!

    argh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    xx
     
  14. xnewxmummyx

    xnewxmummyx Mummy, Daddy and Isobelle

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    Oh thats my OH's favourite and I say "errm look after our daughter all day, and myself and that friggin dog!! oh and the house"

    xx
     
  15. KayBea

    KayBea Mummy to Xanthia Lily

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    Ha i turned round the other day and said 'oh just watched the faries do all the housework and cook dinner, they also cleaned my car for me and did my tesco shop'
    Lol
    He wasnt happy!!
    X
     
  16. Ferret

    Ferret Well-Known Member

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    Just asked why I don't seem very happy today. Urmm maybe something to do with the fact I've been rushing round cleaning, cooking etc all day as well as entertaining a 9 month old.
    Got a nice shock when he said he would do dinner. He has ordered a curry!!!

    I suppose the thought was there.
     
  17. Pixxie

    Pixxie Mum to 1 little girl

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    Sorry but :rofl:

    I asked OH to put the washing on the maiden when the washer had finished, he moaned about being asked to do something :growlmad:

    We should all go on strike for a day so they see exactly what it is we do all day!
     
  18. sunshine114

    sunshine114 Well-Known Member

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    I do this too!!!! :haha:
     
  19. Mrs-C

    Mrs-C Mummy to 1 DD & 2 dogs

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    I either give a choice, like "do you want to do this feed or the next?" or "I'll do this one, you can do the next one". Then when the time comes I say "your turn, there you go".

    I also say things along the lines of "look, Daddy has missed you while he's been out all day, he's going to change you and give you your bottle. We know you're bored of mummy looking after you all day long". Hard to argue with that :haha:
     
  20. QueenMummyToBe

    QueenMummyToBe Mummy to Amelia & Tristan

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    I often have this problem with husband.
    And when he does get up, he will make himself breakfast, at this point I would've changed both children, gave tristan a bottle, gave Amelia breakfast, got Amelia dressed, hairbrushed/teeth cleaned, sterilised bottles, done any washing up and put a load of washing on. Not had breakfast myself though and he rarely asks or offers.
    He then eats it at the computer, or playing his ps3 (oh how I would love to throw that off a very tall building)

    We often have the I do everything argument and I get, well I go to work. Or 'You go do a full time job and I will stay at home' I laugh every single time he says that as he could not cope with all I do.

    What really grates me is, when husband has a shower/is getting himself ready (he straightens his hair and everything) I have the children with me, he gets ready in peace.
    When I have a shower/getting ready I 90% of the time have Amelia jumping about all over the place, trying to play with all my make up and being crazy.. he would be fuming if it was the other way around.

    Giving him choices sounds like an excellent idea.

    It is nice to know it isn't just my husband that can be a lazy sod!

    xXx
     

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