I am absolutely seething..... Some of you may have read that FOB keeps mithering to come up and see me (he lives about 2.5-3 hours away). I've told him on numerous occasions that I don't want to see him before the baby is born, I've explained that if he wants to discuss baby arrangements or anything then we can speak on the phone or even online. I just don't feel comfortable seeing him until I absolutely have no other choice. I've told him this about 5 times - no exaggeration there either, literally FIVE times. I've also told him twice (could be three.....I forget) that I don't want to get back together. He's only wanted to get back together in the last few weeks since he suddenly realised that there is an actual baby on its way. So ever get the feeling you are talking to a brick wall??? Well, thats exactly how I feel today. He has just text MY MUM, I've already asked him not to include her because its not fair on her, mind you I only told him once which clearly isn't enough for him. So he text her saying that he wanted to come here tomorrow to SURPRISE me with an xmas present and he wanted to talk. Mum replied saying she didn't think it was a good idea and he should just come up when baby is here as planned. He then replied saying "I really want to speak to her though about getting back together" Mum has replied saying "Now is not the time to be talking about that, speak to Sue when the baby is here but I personally can't see you being anything other than friends"..... I just want my mum to tell him to FUCK OFF!!! But I know she can't do that lol. I'm so annoyed. I don't know what to do. Shall I leave it and pretend I don't know? Shall I ring him and have it out with him? Shall I text asking him not to include my mum? He was also speaking to my friend and birthing partner on facebook on saturday, I feel like he is trying to get to me through my friends and my mum and I reeeeeally don't appreciate him doing that when a, I've asked him not to and b, I've told him myself enough times so why does he feel the need to go to them. Ironic thing is, although there is absolutely no chance on earth of us getting back together, he is actually making things worse for himself by doing stupid things like this. I mean, why would I want to get back together with someone that needs to be told something five times (and still doesnt get it!) and someone that will go behind my back....its kinda sneaky in my opinion. By doing all this he's making me hate him so much more. He is actually trying really hard for us to get on...and I know I need to make the effort for the sake of baby but he's making me so angry, I can actually feel my blood pressure rising!!! I'm already suffering with high BP...I've got an appointment tomorrow and I'm scared that he'll have made it sky high, if he has it might mean me being induced. (I know I'm being a bit OTT here but I was told if my BP got any higher in the next few weeks they'd induce, not what you want on xmas eve eve!) Sorry for the rant...thanks for reading!