OH not happy we are having a girl :o(

[winbig82]

The title says it all really - We found out we are having a girl and suddenly my OH just doesnt seem interested He really wanted a boy and now im terrified hes not going to love her when she gets here - Has anyone else ever experienced this and its turned out alright? xx

 

[youngmommy2]

Men are weird sometimes.. Since he cant see her in person or have that attachment of growing her inside of him, its often the case where they fall inlove when they are born. Trust me once he sees her for the first time, the gender wont matter

 

[bubbles19]

he will fall in love when he see's her i wouldnt worry too much x

 

[winbig82]

Thanks girls - God I hope so, its not like hes angry or anything, just doesnt seem fussed anymore, hes even trying to get out of going to our next scan like now it doesnt matter as its a girl - I know hes quite laid back about doing things anyway but would have thought these things would have been important to him xx Just puts a bit of a downer on it all really xx

 

[Minnyb]

I've thought that way five times over, knowing my hubby wanted a little boy and worrying desperately about his disappointment. We're on our fifth girlie now and I can honestly say that he seemed more relaxed about it when we found out than I was and adores his little women so much! Men often seem a bit 'separated' from the whole thing anyway until reality hits home and baby is here, so try not to worry and rest assured he will completely fall in love with her, infact it's a beautiful thing to watch happen as little girls simply adore their daddies too!

 

[Gretaa]

my OH wanted a girl so badly as he grew up in a men surrounded family but when it turned out we're having a boy he was just as happy. It depends on men i think and how they look at pregnancy. Maybe after baby's born, your OH will look at her differently.

 

[Locksley27]

My Oh really wanted us to have a boy for our first and was really excited to find out. WHen we found out it was indeed a boy he was over the moon for the rest of the appointment. After that he didnt seem to care much about the pregnancy, but when he got here he loved him instantly. I think guys just dont really think much about the baby until it is actully here. I bet he will be in love with the LO. I know with this pregnancy which is actully a girl after 3 boys he was really happy but just could care less about any other ultrasounds. His comment ( we already know its a girl, its not going to change) LOL. Guys are just strange sometimes.

 

[MummytoSummer]

I remembering worrying about this when I was pregnant with my daughter as I'd always assumed my husband would want a boy. Turns out he had no preference and now he absolutley idolises our daughter. She's a real daddy's girl and infact he says he'd love another girl, he thinks they're more loving than boys.

He'll fall in love with her and be totally smitten the second he sees her!

X

 

[truly_blessed]

DF preferred a boy and already had visions of fishing, cricket and rugby with his son so when the sonographer said it was a girl I saw the slight disappointment on his face but he's so happy now and excited about his little princess. He keeps putting the latest scan pics on FB saying ' my daughter ' He, like me, just really wanted a healthy baby. It won't stop him frm taking his baby girl fishing etc

 

[Redclaire]

My OH has 3 girls and 1 boy with his ex wife...this is our first 1 i thought he would like a boy more but he reckons its all gravy! not bothered as long as its healthy and as he always says
Mothers and sons, fathers and daughters, mammy's boys and daddy's girls! Daddies melt when their golden girls throw a smile at them!
I wouldn't worry too much, he'll be all gushy and as proud as punch when his princess arrives!

 

[Lisa83]

I think all men deep down want a son to share all the boys things with, and he may be a little dissapointed at the min but as soon as your daughter is born, or even before then he will realise that the sex dont really matter as long as your baby is healthy and arrives safely he will instantly fall in love with her xxxx

 

[gills8752]

My oh actually sulked for the whole day after we found out we were having a girl. He really really wants a boy but after that he came around and now he's totally in love with our daughter and she is such a daddys girl. I'm redundant as soon as daddy comes in the door.

He'll come around soon enough, maybe not with the newborn but once your lo grows a personality - he'll be head over heels for her!

 

[Nikki B]

My brother in law was convinced they were having a boy, he comes from 3 generations of all boys, and my other brother in law has had 3 boys. When he found out he was having a girl he was super dissapointed, which obviously bothered his gf. Since she was born he's a great dad and spoils her rotten, although he does make comments about wanting a boy someday. And when we told him we were having a boy he said 'what did I do wrong?' I guess I'm saying just because he wants a boy doesn't mean he will be disinterested/uninvolved with your little princess!

 

[xCeex]

My oh wanted a boy, he had his heart set on her being a boy. He convinced his self that she was a he.

We found on sunday we're having a princess his face dropped lol... I think hes getting used to the idea, since girls are all for their daddys .

 

[kosh]

it was the other way around for us - my dh wanted a girl really really bad and he was tiny bit dissapointed when we found out it's a boy. i got upset when i saw his reaction and started to worry he would not be as involved etc etc, but his dissapointment lasted less than 48hs! he's soo happy now and can't stop talking about all the things 'they' (not me!) will do.

of course every man is different, he probably needs a bit of time time to process the news. try not to worry too much - i'm sure she'll love her to pieces!

 

[shortnslow]

After having 2 girls when we were pregnant with our third baby my OH wanted a boy. The day we found out she was a girl, he walked out of the sonogram room and never went to another sonogram or doctors appointment. The day she was born it all changed and he fell in love with her just like the others.

This time around I am scared to find out the sex. I am afraid of another reaction like that and I feel like regardless of the sex we should celebrate because the baby is healthy. We have planned to find out, mainly because if it is a boy we would have nothing. We are making it special too. I booked a private scan so all our girls can be present and we are going to find out as a family together. Hopefully if we get another princess, he won't take it so hard this time.

 

[Lara310809]

My OH wanted a boy desperately. We already have a daughter, and throughout the entire pregnancy he made it clear that he wanted a boy more than a girl, and that we would only have one child, because that's all he wanted. When she was born, of course he loved her, but he still wanted a boy, so we TTC another baby. I always wantged two kids, so I was chuffed. I knew he loved our daughter more than anything, and before we TTC another I told him that if this baby was a girl too, he had to be okay with that, and he had to love her no matter what. He said that of course he would.

We had a gender scan and it is another girl. I could see his disappointment, but he accepted it. He went to work and when he got home he picked up our daughter and cuddled her and said "I don't care if we're having another girl, because you're so amazing that I know she will be too".

In the end it will be okay, you will see. It's good that you know you're having a girl, because it gives him time to get used to the idea before she's born. It's harder for the dads I think because they don't feel the baby like we do. We usually bond through their kicks etc, which we feel all day long, but our partners only feel them when they put their hand there; it's a lot harder for them. My OH admitted that he didn't have a bond with our daughter until she was born, and it will be the same for this baby too, but I'm sure he will have a good bond once she's here.

 

[Emma&Freya]

This is one of the reasons why I am not finding out. OH keeps sying that its his little boy growing in my tummy but Im adament its a girl (instincts maybe)

But, I no when baby is born he will be fine with whatever it is

 

[eulmh82]

He will love her I promise. My dad was devastated when my sister was born as she was the last and that meant they had two girls. It took him several weeks to bond with her as she had colic and was always crying at the time he got home from work. She soon turned into a daddy's girl I think men develop a protective streak over their daughters. It's just hard for them to bond until they are born I don;t think. My husband has said that he will be disappointed if it's a girl and I was semi hoping it was a boy for his sake but I know once it's here be it boy or girl he will love it just as much

 

[babyhopes2010]

men prefer boys my dh wants a boy,im sure if if its a girl he will adore her when she comes out