Usually, when OH is not working, we sit at the breakfast table and discuss what we will do that day. OH's plan usually is "I need to do X and Y this morning, and Z this afternoon. I'd really like some time off too. Oh... and then I'll take care of the baby at some point so you can have a bit of time off." Of course, the taking care of the baby rarely really happens. He'll put her down for naps, and hold her for a few minutes here and there, but that's about it. For me, all my plans (usually housework) revolve around the baby's schedule. If the baby lets me, and if she takes long naps, I'll do things. Yesterday, I just broke down. We got into a big fight and in the end, OH agreed that he needed to do more with the baby. So he told me he would take care of the baby 100% yesterday and I could just rest or do whatever. I told him one day is not what I wanted, but he wouldn't budge. Fine. I'll take it. So yesterday, he decided that on top of taking care of the baby, he needed to clean up the kitchen, make pickles from our leftover cucumbers, do some work outside, etc., etc. So for half the day, I ended up having to distract lo because she wouldn't let OH work. Apparently cooking with a clingy baby isn't easy. Who knew? Then she made a huge poop in her diaper and OH was super busy with other things, so he kept putting off changing her. So I changed her. He put her down for a nap, but he was outside when she woke up, so I went to pick her up, changed her diaper and kept her in my arms until he came back inside, half an hour later. Then after dinner, he was finally going to change her and get her ready for bed. He ended up needing help with the diaper and lo was too squirmy for him to change by himself. And then putting on a pyjama is complicated, so he asked me to do it. Then he put her to bed, she woke up 10 minutes later and I went up to get her back to sleep. At the end of the day, he kept complaining about how exhausted he was, and his back was tired (he recently hurt his back, so he's not supposed to strain it). I told him he didn't need to do all that work, but he told me it needed to be done, and he really wanted to take some weight off my shoulders. Meanwhile, I have never been so tired after a "day off" Next time, I'm leaving the house, even if it's just to hide in the wood.