Okay im so bloody furious!

[NetsaBaba]

Ive been meaning to post this today but was pre occupied with other things but basically the other day i went to see my midwife and she basically insited on me having a epidural when im in labour incase of an emergency C-section.
We are now on the same ground that i arent going to have one unless its a great emergency or they can just put me under anesethsia.
But its the way she went about it first she was trying to convince me over and over and when she realised that it wasnt working she went on to telling my husband.

Lets just say me and my midwife havent got a very good relationship now.
Ive never liked her but this is the straw that broke the camels back.


I've spoken to my Doctor at the hospital though and he says as long as they are in the correct position then there is no reason that an epidural would be necessary.

Anyway there is something else im wondering.
When you give birth there is the ring of fire where you vagina stretches would you feel this less so with twin B than A as im not sure.

 

[Dancingkaty1]

hi i have been told too that an epidural is going to prob be given to me what ever way i deliver incase they need to rush me in for a c section.

to be honest im glad...i had an epidural with my daughter who is 4years old now & it was fab!! think i had a mobile one as could still slightly feel contractions & was able to push & didnt need any help with getting her out ( forceps etc) & i managed to get up & walk an hr later!! im hoping this type of epidural will be given to me again & then if they do need to rush me in for c section they can just up dose to make it a full blown epidural!

id be interested to know too about the 'ring of fire' thing...i never had this experience cos of the mobile epidural but if i dont have any epidural im hoping that u only go through it once as heard its nasty xx

 

[Laura2919]

Ive been meaning to post this today but was pre occupied with other things but basically the other day i went to see my midwife and she basically insited on me having a epidural when im in labour incase of an emergency C-section.
We are now on the same ground that i arent going to have one unless its a great emergency or they can just put me under anesethsia.
But its the way she went about it first she was trying to convince me over and over and when she realised that it wasnt working she went on to telling my husband.

Lets just say me and my midwife havent got a very good relationship now.
Ive never liked her but this is the straw that broke the camels back.


I've spoken to my Doctor at the hospital though and he says as long as they are in the correct position then there is no reason that an epidural would be necessary.

Anyway there is something else im wondering.
When you give birth there is the ring of fire where you vagina stretches would you feel this less so with twin B than A as im not sure.

Have you ever experienced the complete chaos in a delivery room when they realise you need to have a section? I have. I was put to sleep for my section and it was the worst experience ever!! I never got to see my girls be born and I woke up in intensive care. Id never ever ever want to have it done again and your just saying well they can put me to sleep. They offer you the epidural because they prepare you incase you have a problem. They never gave me an epidural and I had to be put to sleep because they didnt have enough time to get one in me before all 3 of us died!!!
They are doctors and nurses and are specially trained, maybe people should listen to them more!

 

[mammyy]

i had to have a emercancy section and be but to sleep it was awful. i didnt see them be born, partners cant come in. i didnt have any labour so didnt have the chance, but would of had the epidural.
xx

 

[lizziedripping]

The risks are so much greater when delivering twins vaginally or via section, that it just makes sense to have an epidural as a precaution, especially when it's a first baby and you don't know how you will labour.

I've had 4 epidurals for various modes of delivery, and I can assure you hun it is fine - not ideal, but relatively trouble-free. Childbirth is one of those things you are clueless about until it happens, and if things get complicated it does make you realise all you can ever do is to keep an open mind, and try not to plan too much. That way you avoid disappointment.

Aim for a smooth vaginal delivery with a view to intervention if it is safest for you and babies. As for ring of fire, I can testify to the fact that it is real, but have no experience in vaginally delivery twins. I've read that twin 2 emerges easily and less painfully due to twin a already "paving the way" so to speak. I'm sure some other twin mummies will be along to give a more accurate account xxx

 

[RebaMc]

Ive been meaning to post this today but was pre occupied with other things but basically the other day i went to see my midwife and she basically insited on me having a epidural when im in labour incase of an emergency C-section.
We are now on the same ground that i arent going to have one unless its a great emergency or they can just put me under anesethsia.
But its the way she went about it first she was trying to convince me over and over and when she realised that it wasnt working she went on to telling my husband.

Lets just say me and my midwife havent got a very good relationship now.
Ive never liked her but this is the straw that broke the camels back.


I've spoken to my Doctor at the hospital though and he says as long as they are in the correct position then there is no reason that an epidural would be necessary.

Anyway there is something else im wondering.
When you give birth there is the ring of fire where you vagina stretches would you feel this less so with twin B than A as im not sure.

Have you ever experienced the complete chaos in a delivery room when they realise you need to have a section? I have. I was put to sleep for my section and it was the worst experience ever!! I never got to see my girls be born and I woke up in intensive care. Id never ever ever want to have it done again and your just saying well they can put me to sleep. They offer you the epidural because they prepare you incase you have a problem. They never gave me an epidural and I had to be put to sleep because they didnt have enough time to get one in me before all 3 of us died!!!
They are doctors and nurses and are specially trained, maybe people should listen to them more!

^^ I agree entirely with what Laura said. They are suggesting this in everyone's best interest. The risks with general anaesthetic are probably far greater than epidurals/spinals.

I took me my whole pregnancy to get over my spinal/epidural fear, but in the end I had to convince myself, as it became increasingly more likely that I'd need a section. And when the time came I didn't think twice about it and just let them get on with what they needed to do.

 

[NetsaBaba]

Im not scared of the epidural but i dont want it. These are the only children im going to have probably and tbh i actually want to feel what it is like.

I will have one if needed but if the babies are in position i dont see the need to. And i have read that they can leave some people paralised, im sorry but i really dont want to take the risk of being in a wheel chair for the rest of my life. I would prefer to be cut. Also to me its just for the doctors benifit to make their lifes easier some would disagree but then again it is just my observation and opinion, of corse not every doctor is like that but the vast majority are.

 

[_Vicky_]

Ohh believe me you feel it - i had an epidural and was totally present for the whole experience. Fynn was delivered by forceps and jeez that hurt even with the epi and it saves the whole local anaesthetic in your bits if you need stitching too. Sorry to sound a bit off but anything that makes the doctors lives easier who are bringing my babies into this world gets the thumbs up from me xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx but as you say personal choice.

 

[NetsaBaba]

Ohh believe me you feel it - i had an epidural and was totally present for the whole experience. Fynn was delivered by forceps and jeez that hurt even with the epi and it saves the whole local anaesthetic in your bits if you need stitching too. Sorry to sound a bit off but anything that makes the doctors lives easier who are bringing my babies into this world gets the thumbs up from me xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx but as you say personal choice.

Thanks, and its just i need the feeling of being in control and being not able to move properly from the waist down would actually terrify me. Im scared of being put under but not half as much as that. So i guess it is part fear.

 

[_Vicky_]

Ohh believe me you feel it - i had an epidural and was totally present for the whole experience. Fynn was delivered by forceps and jeez that hurt even with the epi and it saves the whole local anaesthetic in your bits if you need stitching too. Sorry to sound a bit off but anything that makes the doctors lives easier who are bringing my babies into this world gets the thumbs up from me xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx but as you say personal choice.

Thanks, and its just i need the feeling of being in control and being not able to move properly from the waist down would actually terrify me. Im scared of being put under but not half as much as that. So i guess it is part fear.

ok is this your first? Now I DONT want to scare you at all and believe me I was so where you are BUT in childbirth you DONT control it - your body does. You make NO conscious decisions at all your just obey your bodies instincts nothing for me anyway felt conscious or intentional. For me the epidural GAVE me control as I wasnt in pain so I was able to concentrate on pushing and keeping still when they needed to put a monitor on Fynn head while he was inside. It gave me the control I needed to deliver my boys, at one point they thgouht I would need a c-section and rushed me to the theatre and gave it one last shot with forceps - that wouldnt have been possible or comfortable without an epidural as time wouldnt have allowed it. Again totally my take on my personal experience and its all so very personal I dont want to come off as 'knwoing it all' at all - big hugs xx

 

[NetsaBaba]

Ohh believe me you feel it - i had an epidural and was totally present for the whole experience. Fynn was delivered by forceps and jeez that hurt even with the epi and it saves the whole local anaesthetic in your bits if you need stitching too. Sorry to sound a bit off but anything that makes the doctors lives easier who are bringing my babies into this world gets the thumbs up from me xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx but as you say personal choice.

Thanks, and its just i need the feeling of being in control and being not able to move properly from the waist down would actually terrify me. Im scared of being put under but not half as much as that. So i guess it is part fear.

ok is this your first? Now I DONT want to scare you at all and believe me I was so where you are BUT in childbirth you DONT control it - your body does. You make NO conscious decisions at all your just obey your bodies instincts nothing for me anyway felt conscious or intentional. For me the epidural GAVE me control as I wasnt in pain so I was able to concentrate on pushing and keeping still when they needed to put a monitor on Fynn head while he was inside. It gave me the control I needed to deliver my boys, at one point they thgouht I would need a c-section and rushed me to the theatre and gave it one last shot with forceps - that wouldnt have been possible or comfortable without an epidural as time wouldnt have allowed it. Again totally my take on my personal experience and its all so very personal I dont want to come off as 'knwoing it all' at all - big hugs xx

Yes it's my first and GOSH .
I know not everyone is the same and im very good with pain but i can imagine it being very hard of course. But my mum gave birth to me and my twin brother and my older twin brother and sister naturally. But she gave birth to my younger twin sisters with an epidural and said it wasnt very good for her, and i know that i could be different but tbh once it has happend you cant take it back and i dont want to just make that decision unless i have to. If they are both in position is there really any reason that i will have to have one?
And no you havent scared me it is nice of you to take your time to talk me through your experience.

 

[_Vicky_]

OMG your mum had three sets of twins???????????? wow

I really enjoyed the whole thing and have a new found respect for my body and what it can do - also bear in mind epidurals have come on such a long way in that time. Have you met your consultant yet? I think for me once I met her I trusted her and went with her recommendations xxxxxx

 

[Kitty23]

Im not scared of the epidural but i dont want it. These are the only children im going to have probably and tbh i actually want to feel what it is like.

I will have one if needed but if the babies are in position i dont see the need to. And i have read that they can leave some people paralised, im sorry but i really dont want to take the risk of being in a wheel chair for the rest of my life. I would prefer to be cut. Also to me its just for the doctors benifit to make their lifes easier some would disagree but then again it is just my observation and opinion, of corse not every doctor is like that but the vast majority are.

Its completely your decision childbirth is such a personal thing! My advice is to be open about things, if your twins are in a good position then dont have an epi, I had to have an emergency c section due to eclampsia ( never went into labour) so I know how you feel about wanting to feel the birth. And I agree with you some doctors do suggest c sections and epidurals to make their life easier and to stop people sueing them lol!

Just keep an open mind about epidurals as they arent that bad, but the eventuality is that you wont have to have an emergency c section and won't have to be put under general xxx

 

[NetsaBaba]

Im not scared of the epidural but i dont want it. These are the only children im going to have probably and tbh i actually want to feel what it is like.

I will have one if needed but if the babies are in position i dont see the need to. And i have read that they can leave some people paralised, im sorry but i really dont want to take the risk of being in a wheel chair for the rest of my life. I would prefer to be cut. Also to me its just for the doctors benifit to make their lifes easier some would disagree but then again it is just my observation and opinion, of corse not every doctor is like that but the vast majority are.

Its completely your decision childbirth is such a personal thing! My advice is to be open about things, if your twins are in a good position then dont have an epi, I had to have an emergency c section due to eclampsia ( never went into labour) so I know how you feel about wanting to feel the birth. And I agree with you some doctors do suggest c sections and epidurals to make their life easier and to stop people sueing them lol!

Just keep an open mind about epidurals as they arent that bad, but the eventuality is that you wont have to have an emergency c section and won't have to be put under general xxx

Thankyou hun and i will make sure to do so. As i said i will deffinitely consider it if both babies aren't in the correct position.

 

[Laura2919]

Im not scared of the epidural but i dont want it. These are the only children im going to have probably and tbh i actually want to feel what it is like.

I will have one if needed but if the babies are in position i dont see the need to. And i have read that they can leave some people paralised, im sorry but i really dont want to take the risk of being in a wheel chair for the rest of my life. I would prefer to be cut. Also to me its just for the doctors benifit to make their lifes easier some would disagree but then again it is just my observation and opinion, of corse not every doctor is like that but the vast majority are.

Both my babies were head down. Chloe was engaged and she still couldnt be born naturally.. I didnt even get to push thats how bad things got for me. I think its silly to go into this thinking that everything will be just fine and dandy. You are carrying twins, the risk is greater than that of a singleton pregnancy. The doctors are doing the best for you and your children not to make their life easier.
I wished I had been able to have the epidural cos I'd have been able to have my c section awake and not asleep and miss everything.
These may very well be the last children I have but it certainly doesnt mean I want to risk it.

 

[msfoxymax]

I had to have an emergency section with my baby after she got stuck and thank god i had an epidural during labour as i seen her as soon as she was born. I would rather have an epi and see her being born than not to have one 'to experience the pain' and end up having to have a general anasthetic if anything major happened. It is up to you in the end but doctors don't usually reccommebd an epi if not needed because of the risk to the mum (no matter how tiny) and it can sometimes slow labour down. Have a good think about it again and go with an open mind xxx

 

[chetnaz]

Ive been meaning to post this today but was pre occupied with other things but basically the other day i went to see my midwife and she basically insited on me having a epidural when im in labour incase of an emergency C-section.
We are now on the same ground that i arent going to have one unless its a great emergency or they can just put me under anesethsia.
But its the way she went about it first she was trying to convince me over and over and when she realised that it wasnt working she went on to telling my husband.

Lets just say me and my midwife havent got a very good relationship now.
Ive never liked her but this is the straw that broke the camels back.


I've spoken to my Doctor at the hospital though and he says as long as they are in the correct position then there is no reason that an epidural would be necessary.

Anyway there is something else im wondering.
When you give birth there is the ring of fire where you vagina stretches would you feel this less so with twin B than A as im not sure.

Hi hun, yes you do feel "the ring of fire" less with twin 2, at least i did anyway. Twin 1 BURNED!! Twin 2 slid out and i just felt a little pain but no burning with him. Good luck, hope all goes well for you. Let me know if you have anymore questins xxx

 

[DaretoDream]

I've known way too many women who have had terrible problems from the eppy- and i wouldn't get one myself.

 

[Cheryl xx]

Hi hun, i'm not expecting twins, but have had a c-section under general.

I know exactly hat your saying about having an epidural and i feel the same way. If i have natural delivery this time i want to be in control and i just don't think i would like not being able to move around and do what i feel like if i was restricted by an eppidural. I also have the same feelings towards them and don't think i trust them, i can't explain why, it's just the way i feel.

If i needed a section this time i would ask for a general and i don't have a problem with that.

Do what is best for you xx

 

[hayley1982]

your babies may be in a good position now but things can really change when your waters go and youre in labour.both my boys were in good positions up untill my waters broke and then one went transverse and into funny position so went for a cection as it was better for babies and me.there is always the case of you may deliver one nat with nothing then need a csection for the second baby anyway.there are all sorts of different options.its up to you if you want an eppi but me personally i would have had one anyway because there is no way i would have wanted to miss the birth of my boys in a case of an emergency accuring.yes you may deal with pain but when youre in labour its a whole different story.your body will take over and do what it needs todo but youll be feeling all the pain going with it.i think i was personally lucky i didnt have proper contractions with the boys just really bad back ache.glad i went for csection aswell as i didnt have the pain of giving birth.i heard enough about the pain it would be by the women screaming right through my wall where my bed was lol if i went though labour again id take all the drugs possible lol