OMG serious seperation anxiety! Help!

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My LO is 8 months old and used to be amazing at going to bed at night and if she ever woke in the night would just stick dummy back in and she would settle herself to sleep again.

Now is a totally different story!!!!! She barely even goes off on her last bottle at night! Also if she wakes up at all at night which she dies at least once, sh will start crying and it will get worse and worse until I pick her up.

She doesn't want bottle, juice or dummy just cuddles but it takes ages to get her off in my arms and sometimes even pushes me away bit then still screams when i put her down!

Urgh it's a losing battle and ireckon it's seperation anxiety!

She's ok in day until I leave the room then she will crawl after me and try to climb up me winging till I pick her up.

Any advise on her to get thru this?

I'm back at work in 3 wks and she will be with my mum but I'm terriied!
 
I think you are approaching wonder week 37 :) I remember it too. Just be patient - I think she'll be okay in 3 weeks.
 
lol well maybe 3 days who knows!! But I don't think it will last that long. We went through this phase too, I think for about a week
 
What I did, was I'd go in twice, reassure him all was ok, tuck him back in, put his mobile on to play it's tune again and leave. I never went in anymore than twice because I knew he was wanting to sleep but was fighting it and wanted my attention also, and I didn't want to fall into a rut with it, especially at bedtime.
I know some parents don't agree with the CIO method, but I did it and it worked and I never have a problem at the moment *touch wood* with getting Ethan to sleep at night. But that's just my personal stance and experience on it.
 
What I did, was I'd go in twice, reassure him all was ok, tuck him back in, put his mobile on to play it's tune again and leave. I never went in anymore than twice because I knew he was wanting to sleep but was fighting it and wanted my attention also, and I didn't want to fall into a rut with it, especially at bedtime.
I know some parents don't agree with the CIO method, but I did it and it worked and I never have a problem at the moment *touch wood* with getting Ethan to sleep at night. But that's just my personal stance and experience on it.
 
What I did, was I'd go in twice, reassure him all was ok, tuck him back in, put his mobile on to play it's tune again and leave. I never went in anymore than twice because I knew he was wanting to sleep but was fighting it and wanted my attention also, and I didn't want to fall into a rut with it, especially at bedtime.
I know some parents don't agree with the CIO method, but I did it and it worked and I never have a problem at the moment *touch wood* with getting Ethan to sleep at night. But that's just my personal stance and experience on it.


I've tried leaving her to self settle when she cries but I just can't listen to her cry for too long, especially when it gets to the point she's so upset she's holding her breath. I just can't do it. :-(

If she's winging then I do let her get on with it and she sometimes settles.

It's just got to to the point where I'm scared to go into her if she wakes as I know when I do, that's it! She will be in a state when I go to leave and I'll end up picking her up and bringing her into our bed. Even then though it takes het hours to settle ! :-(
 
id stop using the dummy and try a comforter so that she can grab it and self settle if she wakes,
 
id stop using the dummy and try a comforter so that she can grab it and self settle if she wakes,

Ha ha I've tried using a comfortor. I give het a teddy or her comforter blanket to cuddle as she falls asleep and she just grabs it and swings it around her head and then lobs it across her cot lol!

She has a taggy blanket so am guna try it with her naps today and asain tonigt see how it goes. ;-)
 
She sounds like the spitting image of Aliyah!
Whats the wonder week?x
 
OK, a thing I did is, when I picked Ethan up, if he stopped crying, I knew he just wanted me. So I'd give him a quick cuddle and put him back down.
If however, you pick her up and she continues to cry, theres probably something else going on, but usually, you'll find that picking her up with make the crying stop because she has what she want's.
Theres nothing wrong with giving your baby a quick hug but personally for me, once Ethan had a quick kiss and cuddle, he'd be back in his cot again to go to sleep.
Like I said, I did this twice, I'd have some protesting again, but then after about 10 minutes, he'd drop off to sleep.
I'd find his pattern of crying like this....He'd whinge....stop for a few seconds....whinge....ramp it up a bit....stop....whinge....ramp it a bit more....stop....whinge...ramp it up one final time...then stop and give in to sleep.

It was incredibly difficult to resist the urge to want to go in and scoop him up and cuddle him more, but I'd been in twice and he slept fine and always had a smile for me in the morning so all was forgiven. You don't have to do this method if you don't want to. It's just what worked for me.

:flower: xxx
 
It does get better angel aiden had it for about a month or so i couldnt even dish up dinner without him shreiking - just fell on my week back to work after ML too... it is stressful!!!!! xxx
 

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