carlyjade86
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My sons father is a complete jerk. He always has been and always will be. We do not get on in the slightest after years of him lying to the courts about me not allowing him contact with my son when he was havin contact all along! It's as though he just used the Family Court as a way to try and hurt/annoy/control?? I dunno... And expensive way to get my attention but that's what he did until the courts wised up to it last yr and told him to grow up!
Everything with him is for show! He has my son every other weekend and by "has" I mean picks up and drops to his mothers on a Friday. Sisters on a Saturday and brings him home on a Sunday.
He gives me £28 a week which covers Elliot's petrol too and from school.
I used to send him up in his nice clothes and trainers and they used to come back purposely ruined... As if becoz he had new trainers on, my ex would take him puddle jumpin! Now i send Elliot up with clothes that are tidy, but not tidy enough that he would wear them when with me. And he wears his "out playing trainers". At one point my ex said to Elliot "it's about time ur mum bought u new trainers" and Elliot told him straight "i got 4 pairs of new trainers I'm not allowed to wear to urs" - he even sent him to a christening in those scruffy trainers - is it really that hard to go an buy him some nice ones to keep at his house, even if they are just £6 dappers from asda?!?
Bit of background to what hes like but... Anyways... In our order it states that I am to allow my EX to take my son abroad for one week during the summer holidays and hand over his passport etc... Not happy about it but I accepted Elliot is growin up and I have to deal with that.
His girlfriend, who I do get on with fine, called me on Wednesday and said they've booked a caravan holiday in March half term and can elliot go. It's not in the "summer" as the order stipulats but it's during a break in school so I'm fine with it. She then goes on to say that they are lookin to book Turkey for the beginning of May and could Elliot go. I said his school doesn't allow children to be taken out during term time unless a valid reason but i would spk to them when he goes back and think about it in the mean time.
I explained to Elliot about this possible turkey holiday. Told him I'd rather he didn't go on that one and that we will take him away in the summer so he isn't missing out. His reply "that's ok mum. I'd rather go with u anyway"
I had a txt off the Ex this morning to say His GF was going to book today. Elliot was cryin last night because he wants to go and I won't let him... He pure slated me for being selfish and spoiling it for him by not letting him go!
So I phoned my mum to spk to Elliot (he wanted to sleep there after tea with his 'dad') and my mam said Elliot had come back and mentioned it. He said it would be nice to go but he don't care if he don't. He's rather stay home with me and that my ex made him watch a video on the computer of the hotel an the holiday which, Elliot stated "he only did it to make me want to go more but I don't care. I want to do what my mum wants. And she said I can go to the caravan and I like caravans more"
His constant game playing winds me up so much!! If my 8yr old is starting to see thru his actions, then surely that comes to something?! Elliot already told him i didn't want him to go yet he had to try and make Elliot feel worse about it and make me out to be the baddie?! Maybe if for the other 51 weeks of the yr he stepped up and showed he can provide an look after him maybe I would be more comfortable with him going but he can't and never has done that!
Lucky for me Elliot is MY boy and will not have anyone say anything bad about me, not even my mum, but the fact he still tries to poison my son against me makes me want to punch him in the face!!!
Elliot will never miss out of be begrudged of anything so long as I live. How dare he call ME selfish while all MY money goes on feeding, clothing, entertaining and loving Elliot and all he spares is £28 a week! He works in London mind so pretty sure he's earning more than minimum wage...
Sorry about the long rant... I'm just so sick of him tryin to look like number 1 dad and totally messing with my sons head!!
Everything with him is for show! He has my son every other weekend and by "has" I mean picks up and drops to his mothers on a Friday. Sisters on a Saturday and brings him home on a Sunday.
He gives me £28 a week which covers Elliot's petrol too and from school.
I used to send him up in his nice clothes and trainers and they used to come back purposely ruined... As if becoz he had new trainers on, my ex would take him puddle jumpin! Now i send Elliot up with clothes that are tidy, but not tidy enough that he would wear them when with me. And he wears his "out playing trainers". At one point my ex said to Elliot "it's about time ur mum bought u new trainers" and Elliot told him straight "i got 4 pairs of new trainers I'm not allowed to wear to urs" - he even sent him to a christening in those scruffy trainers - is it really that hard to go an buy him some nice ones to keep at his house, even if they are just £6 dappers from asda?!?
Bit of background to what hes like but... Anyways... In our order it states that I am to allow my EX to take my son abroad for one week during the summer holidays and hand over his passport etc... Not happy about it but I accepted Elliot is growin up and I have to deal with that.
His girlfriend, who I do get on with fine, called me on Wednesday and said they've booked a caravan holiday in March half term and can elliot go. It's not in the "summer" as the order stipulats but it's during a break in school so I'm fine with it. She then goes on to say that they are lookin to book Turkey for the beginning of May and could Elliot go. I said his school doesn't allow children to be taken out during term time unless a valid reason but i would spk to them when he goes back and think about it in the mean time.
I explained to Elliot about this possible turkey holiday. Told him I'd rather he didn't go on that one and that we will take him away in the summer so he isn't missing out. His reply "that's ok mum. I'd rather go with u anyway"
I had a txt off the Ex this morning to say His GF was going to book today. Elliot was cryin last night because he wants to go and I won't let him... He pure slated me for being selfish and spoiling it for him by not letting him go!
So I phoned my mum to spk to Elliot (he wanted to sleep there after tea with his 'dad') and my mam said Elliot had come back and mentioned it. He said it would be nice to go but he don't care if he don't. He's rather stay home with me and that my ex made him watch a video on the computer of the hotel an the holiday which, Elliot stated "he only did it to make me want to go more but I don't care. I want to do what my mum wants. And she said I can go to the caravan and I like caravans more"
His constant game playing winds me up so much!! If my 8yr old is starting to see thru his actions, then surely that comes to something?! Elliot already told him i didn't want him to go yet he had to try and make Elliot feel worse about it and make me out to be the baddie?! Maybe if for the other 51 weeks of the yr he stepped up and showed he can provide an look after him maybe I would be more comfortable with him going but he can't and never has done that!
Lucky for me Elliot is MY boy and will not have anyone say anything bad about me, not even my mum, but the fact he still tries to poison my son against me makes me want to punch him in the face!!!
Elliot will never miss out of be begrudged of anything so long as I live. How dare he call ME selfish while all MY money goes on feeding, clothing, entertaining and loving Elliot and all he spares is £28 a week! He works in London mind so pretty sure he's earning more than minimum wage...
Sorry about the long rant... I'm just so sick of him tryin to look like number 1 dad and totally messing with my sons head!!