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So I had my little boy 10 days ago at 14 days overdue and I'm just a pathetic wreck. I mostly manage to hold things together but at least once a day I'll have a big ole cry. I have absolutely zero appetite and frequently either forget to eat or really have to force myself to eat.

I had a pretty rubbish lead up to having him, I had contractions from the early Thursday morning and didn't have him till the Sunday morning, all on probably a couple of hours of sleep. I actually feel quite traumatised about the birth and the lead up and any time I see things I associate with the labour (the tens machine etc) I get a little bit breathy and dizzy, it's like some kind of post traumatic stress disorder!

My husband is amazing and wonderful and does more than his fair share and my little boy is good, but I just worry so much that I can't do everything I need to do for him. I get so tense when he just cries and cries and I cant soothe him. For the first few days I could always soothe him by feeding, but even that seems to make him fractious at the moment.

I just feel completely useless and tired. I want to be able to go outside and be 'normal', but it's just so overwhelming :(

Please reassure me this is normal and I won't always feel like this.
 
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Oh Hun, you sound sleep deprived and naturally hormonal after the birth, I was all over the place for weeks after the birth.

It does get better...timescale for me was improvement at 8 weeks, significant improvement by 12 weeks, absolutely totally and utterly loved being a mummy by 5 months (slightly ashamed to say it took this long, but it did...)

Ask for help, from everyone even if it's to cook a meal you can warm up at some point, or hold your lo for an hour in the afternoon so you can nap. If you're well rested its easier to cope when they cry. Get your oh to tidy all the birth bits away so you don't get that dread, and go easy on yourself. You sound like your being a great mummy xxxx
 
From my experience this is totally normal :hugs:

It's a massive change for you, you are already sleep deprived and exhausted from labour and then suddenly you are responsible for a whole other person. In the early days I cried a lot. I wondered if there was something wrong with me. As the days went in I began to feel better. Actually, my confidence only grew when hubby went back to work and I was alone. Then we kind of got into a routine and I got to know her a bit better.
Almost 7 weeks on for me and it is much better. I sometimes get emotional in the evenings when I'm overtired but generally I'm much less stressed and upset. Today my daughter woke up in an amazing mood and just kept smiling at me...made it all worthwhile.
It does get better, hang in there and just take one day at a time, you are doing great. Xx
 
awwww hun it can take a while for things to settle down i'm on my 5th and still feel over whelmed at times :cry: not getting enough sleepyour hormones are also all over the place, and someone to care for and think about 24.7 is such hard work :cry: but i promise you this will be a thing of the past soon enough :thumbup: are you bf hun? i suggest some camping out on the sofa or in bed with you baby :thumbup: stuff your face with lots of food and drink and just spend time chilling out :thumbup: relax!!!

leave the house and everything else cause all of that is really not important what so ever!!! and when you can get 30 mins to yourself take a nap or bath and just have some time alone ...this helps so much!!

it will get better with time having a baby is a big life change but believe me its all worth it in the end :hugs::hugs::hugs:x
 
This was me...for about 4 weeks. By 6 weeks you will feel like you're getting a handle on things. Get all the sleep you can and don't feel guilty about it! :)
 
Sounds normal to me. Those first few weeks are really tough. I focused on getting through each day and tried not to think further than that. As others have said, grab any opportunity you can for sleep, even an hour here or there. Try hard to eat something, even if it's microwave meals or something simple like fish fingers and mashed potato. I encouraged any visitors in the early days to bring or make food, it makes such a difference. As a PP has said, I found it a lot easier by about 12 weeks once I got to know LO a bit better and we'd got into a bit of a pattern. We still occasionally have more difficult days, if LO is ill or teething, but generally every day with her is fantastic and I feel so much more confident and happier. Hang on in there. Big hugs
 
I am glad you wrote this thread. I could have written it myself (except for your troubles with the birth). I have been feeling this same way. My son is 17 days old and we have only had him home for 5 nights since he spent some time in the Childrens Hospital after he was born. But, I cry all the time! A few times a day and over night too. I feel like there is something wrong with me, too. I'm glad these other women responded with such positive feedback...because I needed to hear, "it will get better", too! Hang in there! We will get through this!
 
It's pretty normal...you're totally sleep deprived, full of all kinds of crazy hormones and adjusting to the constant demands of being a mother.

If it continues or if you end up with harmful thoughts then definitely check into post partum depression and make sure you are getting the proper support
 

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