Overwhelming Jealousy towards preg ladies

[babyhopes2010]

OK so hoping im not the only one
iv been ttc 22 months now and its finally starting to destroy me

Iv become so bitter.....especially towards pregnant women.
i see them everywhere!!! everyone has bumps or pics of kids on there desk and what do i have! NOTHING!
I cant even be happy or try to be for them anymore.

Elven ladies gettings bfp's here is making me feel bitter on especially ones that have only been trying few months.
im not proud of this and i hate feeling this way just need to let it out

people say 'oh u will get pregnant' 'relax' 'itll happen'
Oh why dont u walk a mile in my shoes and see what u say then!!

i can say ntnp in gods time!! well its hard to believe it the whole thing is bullshit! and iv had enough!!!!!

Rant over ! im going off to

 

[mrs_lukey]

Hunny I feel exactly the same. Bigs hugs xxxxxxx

 

[susan36]

i know how you feel , iv been trying over 3 years and it just gets harder , my 17 year old cousin is preg with her second i cant even talk to her , esp when she splashing scan photos all over facebook , we will get our bfp soon , evry month is a month closer

 

[mrsessex]

Oh babe

I know its hard, i truely DO. I've been wanting a baby for about 5 years and couldnt have one so i DO know how you feel. I go out of my way NOT to be around babies ( i know its bad) We are in the same boat as you it might happen for me & hub ....it may not but can only trug on

Do you think you'd be best away from here again? for a bit?

But DO cry ...let it out.
x

 

[babyhopes2010]

iv been on here a lil less lately. its helped.
i just see people getting bfps and they havent been ttc a month
this lady had a huge bump was rubbing it i had to look away

the whole office were talking about there kids.they said how old are yours!
i said i havent got kids.....iv been trying years! it made them feel guilty which was unfairbut made me feel better! x

 

[MountaineerWV]

Oh babyhopes. I know how you feel.
I'm 28 and decided to go back to college. You should see the pregnant girls here. It makes me so mad. I overheard one say that they really didn't plan it and sort of didn't want it. I wanted to scream at her. I got disgusted and walked away.

I see pregnant women everywhere. It's like since I have been married, I see them more, and everywhere! I get jealous and cry.

My family and friends keep badgering me when me and DH are going to have babies. We have been trying all along. I guess they think we don't want any kids yet. I am kind of too embarrassed to tell them that I have fertility issues. What can they do about it anyway?

If you ever need someone to talk to, rant to, whatever, I'm here. I think I shed tears every day over this. ~Mandy

 

[mrsessex]

for all the ladies at this tough time...it doesn't get easier as the months pass does it

x

 

[babyhopes2010]

Thanks mandy

i just used to be this really happy person and now ttc is all i think off.
i have great jobs they are training me up and all i care about is getting pregnant
iv joined slimming world so hopefully thatll help me get bfp
i also gave up smoking 3nd oct

 

[babyhopes2010]

i got false bfp at 8dpo
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every test has been negative since
this as made me feel 10 x worse then i ever felt before

 

[Nat0619]

Hi Ladies

I too completely understand this. It just seems so easy for everyone else doesn't it? I have a confession - I haven't phoned or tried to get on the webcam to my best friend in New Zealand since she went back in July after her visit here. The reason being, she said she was planning to start trying for her second child when they got back and I dread that she might announce she's pregnant if I call her. How bad is that? I told her in July that we were trying so, to be fair, she's probably wondering if I'm pregnant too We e-mail regularly but I know she probably wouldn't tell me on e-mail, did it over the phone last time. So I dread a call from her too - I'm horrid

Also, on the subject of ladies who just don't seem happy to be pregnant, I've been on a work induction today and two girls there are pregnant. I heard one ask the other one "are you excited?" (the one who asked did seem to be). The one who answered (who already has a 3 year old too incidentally) said "not really, we didn't really want it to happen this soon to be honest." I felt like shaking her to make her realise how lucky she is!!

 

[mrsessex]

Im so totally shocked you got a false bfp.. i really am, ive never even heard of that

Its so brilliant though that you have given up the cigs, can only be a good thing and losing weight may help, who knows cant hinder things put it that way!

I hope you are enjoying your job though, as it sounds like you really wanted it x

 

[MountaineerWV]

Nat - They don't realize how lucky they are! I just hope and pray that the girl who said she didn't want it, will love it and treat it good and not as like it's a burden.

We all will get our BFP soon! I just know it!

 

[babyhopes2010]

Hi Ladies

I too completely understand this. It just seems so easy for everyone else doesn't it? I have a confession - I haven't phoned or tried to get on the webcam to my best friend in New Zealand since she went back in July after her visit here. The reason being, she said she was planning to start trying for her second child when they got back and I dread that she might announce she's pregnant if I call her. How bad is that? I told her in July that we were trying so, to be fair, she's probably wondering if I'm pregnant too We e-mail regularly but I know she probably wouldn't tell me on e-mail, did it over the phone last time. So I dread a call from her too - I'm horrid

Also, on the subject of ladies who just don't seem happy to be pregnant, I've been on a work induction today and two girls there are pregnant. I heard one ask the other one "are you excited?" (the one who asked did seem to be). The one who answered (who already has a 3 year old too incidentally) said "not really, we didn't really want it to happen this soon to be honest." I felt like shaking her to make her realise how lucky she is!!

i had the same thing,a heavily preg lady at work said to me oh this bumps a pain wish id never opened my legs then she laughed
i lookedhe right in the eyes and said 'count your blessings' 'some women cant seem to get pregnant' and you never know who ur moaning too!

 

[bethenasia]

I too know how that feeling is.

My husband and I went to a wedding the end of July, beginning of August for one of his best buds. All the bride would talk about was how she would be pregnant within a month now that they were married. She wasn't at the time of the wedding. Well, hopefully not, since she was getting extremely drunk.

About a month later, my husband told me she was pregnant. I am staying off of Facebook because I don't want to see her ultrasounds and updates. It's been a couple of months now.

Husband doesn't understand. He says I am being selfish and bitchy and unfair to them by not wanting to hear updates. They live several states away and I never talked to them anyway.

This thread has shown me that there are others like me out there. I'm not alone in avoiding the dreaded announcements from those who don't understand that it's not always so easy.

 

[MountaineerWV]

I am at school checkin BnB and facebook between classes. One of my friends just posted on facebook that she is pregnant. I had to run to the bathroom to cry. Does this ever stop?

 

[seoj]

I'm sooooo sorry hun... I'm sure the longer your at it the harder it gets. I truly hope it happens for you soon!!!! I understand your frustration...

I know it may sound strange.... lol... but have you thought about trying something "out of the norm"? Like acupuncture, or hypnofertility? Maybe even something silly and fun like a baby spell? Sometimes little things that give us faith and hope, no matter how crazy it is, can do a lot in terms of our positive mental attitude... and that certainly can't hurt At this point, what do we have to lose really?

Best of luck and tons of baby dust coming your way!!!!

 

[babyhopes2010]

m trying soy next cycle and we shall see. my dh is on lots vitamins now

 

[Braven05]

I guess I have strong feelings about this...I know how you feel to a degree, but not quite as bad, as I have only been trying for 5 months...but I too have watched girls pop on here and within weeks have their BFPs and it does sting a little. I'm not trying to offend in any way, my only goal on this site EVER is to give and receive support from others who are going through similar situations.

I used to have a best friend. She had a daughter, who is turning 6 in a few days. We have since grown apart and haven't spoke in 7 months. She started experiencing secondary infertility and had 2 m/c and has been TTC with her husband for about 3 years now. She started to get really really bitter towards pregnant people and even when people we liked found out they were pregnant she'd say, "I hate them." and on rare occassion (if she didn't like them) "I hope they misscarry."

Wow. Really? I lost a lot of respect for her. I would never want anyone to wish ill of me and my unborn child because they were jealous because of their own infertility. It made my skin crawl when she would get on a rant about it, because its not the other people's faults. I've wanted to be a mother since I was 5 years old and now I'm finally trying, it does hurt to see babies and bumps.

When I was still friends with this girl, I was TERRIFIED that I would get to a point in my life where it was time to start trying because I didn't want to hurt her if I ended up pregnant before she did. I was secretly willing to not start trying until she got pregnant just because I thought it would be horrible if I got pregnant straight away. I don't really think thats normal. A friend shouldn't be scared to tell their friend they're trying/pregnant. Its not really fair to them, they have just as much right as anyone else.

I know its a horrible feeling and can only imagine after such a long time that it gets worse, but just watch that you're not being unsupportive to the important people in your life. Their experiences shouldn't be diminished by your unhappiness. Hope you get your BFP soon!!

 

[katiekittykat]

I have actually deleted people from Facebook who keep going on and on about being pregnant.

There's one girl who obviously is, but has decided not to make it official until 12 weeks....and instead of either saying something or not saying something, every day she updates her status with her pregnancy symptoms! Beyond annoying. And I know she wasn't trying - she only has a very casual relationship with her 'boyfriend'.

 

[babyhopes2010]

its awful theres people out there blessed with a child and just dont know how much.

@ Braven- 5 months or 5 years it still hurts us doesnt it.
i love given people advice and support i just cant feel really happy for any bfps unless trying for ages,its not that im unhappy with others bfp its just iv been waiting so long along with others and feel its about time.
My supposedly best mate had a 'u know what' then later that year got pissed fell down stairs and lost baby.its awful but what the hell was she thinking getting drunk when pregnant!

@mountaineer-- lol i deleted at least 5 people of fb in last month

@mrsessex its crazy i know none of the other tests in batch gave me bfp b4 that one 8dpo. iv never heard of it

@bethen it may seem like a mean thread but i think its good for everyone to feel this is normal and it doesnt make u bad person
@seoj.iv tried some craxy stuff
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