Pain/Discomfort During Intercourse?

[dreamastarr22]

So, I am just about to enter week 23 in my pregnancy. So far, it has been a rough one with all the pregnancy symptoms, though they have eased up greatly over the last few weeks.

I noticed around my 12th week of pregnancy that intercourse during and even after have been very painful and causes great discomfort hours afterwards. It seems that as my pregnancy progresses, the pain and discomfort during and after becomes worse and worse. I have not had any bleeding, though there has been a light mucus discharge normally directly after intercourse. My doctor said that the pain and discomfort is normal for most women during pregnancy, but it has me worried.

I feel that it should not hurt that bad unless something was wrong with either me or the baby. So far, the baby seems to be fine and I can feel her kicks and movement daily. Is anyone else having any problems similar to this?​

 

[pansorie]

Yes, and my pain and discomfort started at 18 weeks, on the dot. Before that we were flying off the chandeliers doing it like cats, but now he has to be very careful or it's too much for me. My doctor told me it is extremely common, and to basically find a comfortable position and stick with it, but that we can still do it as often as we like.

 

[Etoiles]

I have had the same thing with my first pregnancy and it was very unpleasant to say the least. I breastfed so it even lasted throughout breastfeeding. After I slowed down the amount of breastfeeding I was doing and LO was eating more solid food then my body went back to normal again.

This time it's the same way. DH and I just do other things that are more comfortable. He's very understanding about it.

 

[BabyCleo]

Same for me too. There is no pain, but certainly discomfort. Its fine for a little, but if hubby is "taking his time" it gets real uncomfortable, then im uncomfortable afterwards.

Maybe find "other" things you can do that are still fun!!

 

[pgfairy]

I'm pretty sure that it's all part of that whole increased abdominal blood flow thing that I keep reading about. From what I can gather it makes everything more sensitive down there, which seems to have one of two effects. Either it makes things feel better or it makes them uncomfortable.

We've found that for me using some extra lubricant seems to help tip the scales from ouch to ooh so might be worth a try? But as others have said, think it's pretty normal and not something to worry about.

 

[Perplexed]

I think this is common. For some women it's caused by dryness I think.

 

[babyplease01]

I've had NO sex drive my WHOLE pregnancy, and now when I do give in it's so uncomfortable. And I cramp after. It doesn't really hurt other than the ligament pain , but it's definitely not any fun and I feel so dry down there even in the shower. :/ and he wants it all the freaking time!!!! Ugh!!! But the most comfortable way I've found is to get in the shower, from the back. If you get the right angle it's not so bad.

 

[dreamastarr22]

That is how it is so far with this pregnancy. I've always been an overly sexual person. My sex drive seemed to be a lot higher than most, though once i got pregnant my sex drive started to decrease. Besides the actual discomfort and whatnot, the thought of intercourse seems more than unappealing to me. The thing is, my boyfriend also wants it all the time. lol

 

[nflores77]

I've been okay unless like another commenter stated ... if they take too much time. If that happens we try to switch positions.

 

[babyplease01]

That is how it is so far with this pregnancy. I've always been an overly sexual person. My sex drive seemed to be a lot higher than most, though once i got pregnant my sex drive started to decrease. Besides the actual discomfort and whatnot, the thought of intercourse seems more than unappealing to me. The thing is, my boyfriend also wants it all the time. lol

Exactly!! I'm SO not interested. To the point that him touching me makes me feel violated. Aggressively not in the mood. And every day he's all "I want you." I say "you're breathing, I know you want me. Now stop touching me." with all the love in my heart, of course.

 

[MNgirl1991]

I wish I had the same problem you ladies have. My husband doesn't want sex enough and I want it ALL the time. It's gotten worse since I got pregnant. He's more disinterested and I'd give anything to have him say he wants me all the time. I'd be one happy momma!
It seems that there is always one partner who wants sex more than the other during pregnancy. Kind of a stinker.

 

[ReynoldsV]

I am having a similar issue! Husband wants it all the time, and I cannot. I was fine all the way through pregnancy #1. But with this one, I am like "dry" down there ( ugh, sounds so yucky ) but anyway, has anyone found a remedy to this? I feel bad denying hubby of it, but its just so ugh. And it hurts afterwards and I cannot get comfortable. It frickin stings! So much TMI, sorry! I just have been looking for second thoughts on this.
I used a water based lube, maybe a silicone one would work better?