loeylo
1DD, 1 pup, WTT#2
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Does anyone else have a partner who smokes? Mines smokes about 10 a day so not a heavy smoker (he usually only smokes half a cigarette too) but he has done so for 10-12 years. He has never smoked in the house and now doesn't smoke in the car either so passive smoking isn't a massive concern to me, but obviously having him smoking and me being pregnant is a concern now!
For the first time ever, he has shown an interest in giving up. He is the sort of person who worries about failing, plus he is currently in a phased return to work after being off for a few months with depression and anxiety. He is on beta blockers and antidepressants, has been on beta blockers for a whole but the antidepressants are new and he is keen to get off them ASAP, so he doesn't want to do any of the medicated approaches to stopping.
He is considering a vapouriser as a few of his friends have weaned off nicotine this way and only use flavours now, with the view to stopping permanently. I think this is probably a good route as he can still keep his "routine" of going outside for a few draws whilst weaning himself off nicotine, plus it won't stress him out thinking he isn't getting any if that makes sense?
We spoke to be nurse at the doctors surgery and she was as useful as a chocolate teapot! She just shunned him off and didn't really offer any advice, or point us in the right direction.
I have my booking appointment tomorrow (finally!) - will my midwife ask about his smoking? Will she offer help for him stopping? Heis too nervous to bring it up to the nurse/doctor because of the nurses reaction last time, but I also hope the midwife doesn't approach it in an aggressive manner as he need a softly-softly approach.
As I have never smoked I feel I can't really help him as much as I would like, I have given up lots so far this pregnancy and been fine with it but I have never been properly addicted to something so I understand it isn't that easy for him.
All I'm looking for is:
A) what support do midwifes offer for partners who smoke?
B) is vapourising a reliable way to stop? Aside from potential safety concerns which we are both aware of.
C) what can I do?
For the first time ever, he has shown an interest in giving up. He is the sort of person who worries about failing, plus he is currently in a phased return to work after being off for a few months with depression and anxiety. He is on beta blockers and antidepressants, has been on beta blockers for a whole but the antidepressants are new and he is keen to get off them ASAP, so he doesn't want to do any of the medicated approaches to stopping.
He is considering a vapouriser as a few of his friends have weaned off nicotine this way and only use flavours now, with the view to stopping permanently. I think this is probably a good route as he can still keep his "routine" of going outside for a few draws whilst weaning himself off nicotine, plus it won't stress him out thinking he isn't getting any if that makes sense?
We spoke to be nurse at the doctors surgery and she was as useful as a chocolate teapot! She just shunned him off and didn't really offer any advice, or point us in the right direction.
I have my booking appointment tomorrow (finally!) - will my midwife ask about his smoking? Will she offer help for him stopping? Heis too nervous to bring it up to the nurse/doctor because of the nurses reaction last time, but I also hope the midwife doesn't approach it in an aggressive manner as he need a softly-softly approach.
As I have never smoked I feel I can't really help him as much as I would like, I have given up lots so far this pregnancy and been fine with it but I have never been properly addicted to something so I understand it isn't that easy for him.
All I'm looking for is:
A) what support do midwifes offer for partners who smoke?
B) is vapourising a reliable way to stop? Aside from potential safety concerns which we are both aware of.
C) what can I do?