People telling my mom about my fertility

[sheilarae07]

This is frustrating. I don't want to be like "hey mom, I may not be able to give you grandchildren" This is just a subject that has never been talked about. My husband and I have actually been TTC for about 20 months and my doctor is going to start me on Clomid next month. I have only told 2 of my close friends. Well my mom has asked me a couple times about having kids and I brush it off. Today she asked if I was taking pills to get pregnant. I was so mad. No one has the right to tell my mom about that. She thinks I am too young for a child and I just don't want to start that war. It makes me mad that my friends think it is okay to run and say something to my mom even thought I specifically said she did not know. What would you do?
I know I should be honest and tell my mom the truth but she would just say... Your too young...

 

[magicvw]

How old are you chicken? No, nobody has any right to talk to your mom about that, (unless you are underage which you are clearly not!!), but don't get yourself down too much. If you are young then you definitely have time on your side, and you are on the route to success if you are starting on the clomid

 

[Ew68j5]

Hey,
I don't really have an answer but didn't want to read and run!
If you don't want people to know don't feel you have to "own up" to anything - its nobody's business but your own. If you think your mum will be judgemental you should trust your instinct and tell her to stay out of it.....and tell your friends not to break a confidence, no matter how well intentioned - your secrets should stay that way. Just think positive about the clomid - it'll happen and when it does I bet your mum will be thrilled!

 

[ebony2010]

***hugs***

Aww how old are you? Age shouldn't matter... its when you feel ready and if you've been trying for so long i'm sure you're more than ready!!!

Friends should keep your secrets, not blab but maybe they thought it was in your best interest???

 

[sheilarae07]

I am 21 and I have been married for 2 years. I just honestly think it's no one's place to judge me. I know some people want to wait until they are 30, that's fine... just not for me. My mom is the typical loving mom. She is harsh and strict, so she isn't all excited about becoming a grandma like most women are.

 

[magicvw]

You're a married woman in your twenties - it really shouldn't matter what your mom thinks! If you are worried about your friends spilling the beans may be you could sit down with your mom and have a heart to heart - it would be better coming from you. Good luck

 

[janeybaby]

21 is young but by no means too young to be thinking of starting a family (I had 2 by the age of 21). If you and your DH are ready then that is all that count's. It's not like you are underage or not in a secure relationship. You are a "married woman"

Your friend had no right in telling your mum your business That is for you to decide as you know your mum best and would know if she would be a good support or not.

Maybe have a word with your mum an just say that you have been thinking and talking about starting a family. Sound her out! If she is negative just be strong and say.... I am happily married and the choice is ours if and when it happens we hope you can be happy for us........ This way you haven't given a yes or no about TTC. She may surprise you Its only natural for a married couple to thing about starting a family!

Good luck to you hun.