I decided to plan my own baby shower since me and my OH relocated after college and our family lives states away. I know I cant rely on friends since were all pretty young and I dont feel like I can depend on them well enough. I am planning EVERYTHING (maybe a bit OCD) I ordered the decorations, planned out the favors and game prizes. I also have a bakery for the cake. I read on alot of sites about planning your own shower and etiquette... but I say WHATEVER it's 2011 and were in a sucky economy so if you want something done its best to just go ahead and do it yourself. Family is helping out with food, I have a friend hosting it, another friend handling music, and some other friends helping to decorate. As this is my first baby I dont want to be disappointed and I understand that someone just fully hosting a shower for me could be a hardship on them. So I am accepting help when offered and I have no problem asking for help. Just wanted to give a little motivation for the mums frustrated with shower blues.