Please help. Can the doctor give me anything or am I on my own?

[Noodles]

I'm a complete wreck. Dylan is starting nursery tomorrow as I'm back at work and I don't think I'm going to be able to go back. I've been in floods of tears all day so much so I've been sick twice. I've taken some Kalms tablets and they haven't helped. I can't even hold him without bursting into tears again, he must think that I'm a total nut job.

If I went to the doctors do you think that he could give me something to calm me down? My heart breaks at the thought of him doing something 'first' in nursery like walking and me not being there to see it.

 

[jojo2605]

Oh hun, I'm so so sorry, my heart is breaking for you I'm really not sure if your doctor would give you anything, I would imagine that a more fundamental anxiety disorder or the like would be the sort of thing they give medication for (not that I'm trying to undermine how you feel AT ALL) but it's certainly worth an ask? I think hearing from a few people on here who have had to leave their LOs and how they coped might help, I have read about a lot of moms that have gone through this lately so hopefully they have some words of encouragement for you.

Massive hugs to you hun, I really feel for you xxx

 

[loopdido]

I'm not sure if the docs can/will give you anything!

But one thing i can say is I am in exactly the same boat - back to work tomorrow....although kids are staying at home with daddy so not the same as going to nursery! I know what you mean about worrying about missing their 'firsts'

I;m alright as long as i don't think about it too deeply - i just put mirren to bed and said 'Mummy has to go to work tomorrow, I'm gonna miss you' and felt a lump in my throat!

Have you tried rescue remedy? you can get it from supermarkets. I hope you can find a way of coping tomorrow! Try to be strong and think about Dylan - he's gonna have a great time - it's us that misses out.

Hopefully you'll only be back for another 8 months!

 

[Noodles]

It was worth a try. Just me then!

 

[Nimbus]

i'm feeling the same. We have chosen to use a childminder and she's lovely, but i do confess to feeling like i'm competing with her... and it's only been 3 days. Sending big hugs to you

 

[MNORBURY]

I can't imagine how you must feel , if you go in work and can't handle it then come home, they can't 'make' you stay and I'm sure they would be understanding of your situation, looking at it another way is there no way you could manage with being a SAHM? I know it doesn't answer your worries for tomorrow but something else to think of x

 

[Seraphim]

Aw honey, I'm sorry you're going through this.
I don't have anything to suggest other than deep breaths, distraction and feeling the fear and doing it anyway. From what I've read from others, it gets easier once you're rolling.

 

[Jchihuahua]

Huge hugs . As I know from experience going back to work is so, so hard but once your first day is over with and you see Dylan's excited little face smiling at you things start to get slowly easier. For me the dread of going back and leaving her was actually worse than the reality of it .

 

[Raggydoll]

I totally understand how you're feeling. It's my first day back tomorrow and it's breaking my heart the thought of leaving her.

I'm trying to think of all the positives, like Kate learning to socialise, me being able to socialise, earning so I can provide for Kate.

Also try some relaxtion methods like deep breathing and tensing and relaxing your muscles from head to toe.

I also try to remember it's the quality rather than the quatity of time spent with her. I'm looking forward to my time off with her so much.

I may however be resorting to the kalms tomorrow. (I have a handy supply as I work for the company that makes them!)

Good luck hun, I hope tomorrow is easy on you.

 

[TennisGal]

I'd recommend Rescue Remedy, too - it really does help calm.

Sending you a massive I get choked up everytime I think about it.

 

[Poppy7]

I really didn't want to read and run but I'm sending you huge

Bachs Rescue Remedy always works for me.

 

[MNORBURY]

How did it go? Hope all went well x

 

[bump_wanted]

hope it went ok today xx

 

[Rebaby]

Hope it wasn't as bad as you thought it would be.

I made myself feel quite ill the last 2-3 weeks of my maternity leave getting myself incredibly worked up about going back and frantically searching the internet for jobs that would allow me NOT to leave LO for 8-10 hours at a time/need to put him in nursery etc.

I went back and it has been hard but in some ways much easier than i had built it up to be in my head. At least now i am back i am not spending all my days worrying about going back (iyswim)

Big hugs for you

 

[OmarsMum]

 

[tinyme77]

Sorry, just nosey, why are you putting them in nursery if you feel this way?

 

[Noodles]

Sorry, just nosey, why are you putting them in nursery if you feel this way?

I have to as I'm rather fond of eating.

Day 2 went better than day 1 but I still hate going and it does make me feel sick.

 

[Rebaby]

Sorry, just nosey, why are you putting them in nursery if you feel this way?

I have to as I'm rather fond of eating.

I did think this was a rather unhelpful comment

Day 2 went better than day 1 but I still hate going and it does make me feel sick.

Sorry you're still finding it hard, give it time, i promise it does get easier (i found so anyway and i was really really dreading going back, came this close to handing my notice in even though we really can't afford for me to be a sahm )