please help this desperate mummy

[DonnaBallona]

Please ladies, I desperatly need your help. Bertie has started waking several times through the night and being super unsettled during the day-since birth he has been a good sleeper, first sleeping through at 8 days old. However, the last 2 weeks (or bang on 4 months!) he rarely goes down when he used to at his 'normal' bedtime, and then when he does go down he is so restless, then wakes off and on ALL NIGHT.

Last night, for example, I put Bert down after his bath and feed at 7pm. he was restless (by that I mean moaning in his sleep, squirming around) and then woke at 9pm. he was then up for an hour, generally moany and so I fed him. he went back down at 9.30 then woke at 11pm, 11.45pm, 12.45am, 1.30am... I lost count of the number of times after the sixth time I got back out of bed (I was so tired I actually walked into the doorframe on my way into see him!)
I finally gave up and got out of bed at 5.30am...and ALL DAY he has been whining and crying he feeds for 15 mins at a time and seems satisified-until 10 mins later when he wants more!

so anyhoo, I called the HV today and begged for help-She weighed Bert and he's lost 1.5oz and dropped off his centile (from 50th to 25th). She thinks he is hungry which is why he's waking and has advised me to start weaning,

I REALLY dont want to start weaning, but is this the answer? cant I just feed him up? will this get better?

Somebody PLEASE help me before I lose my marbles!!!!!

 

[lynnikins]

has his feeding pattern in the day changed, at about that age EJ started getting really distracted while feeding and not taking a proper feed and started waking in the night to get that milk so i started using a BF cover even at home and making it as quiet as possible for feed times so he would concentrate and it seemed to work till he started teething then hes been up and down in the night with that and the cold hes picked up lol so last night i was holding him most of the night keeping him semi upright so he would sleep and he has been better today, ive propped up the head of his bed somewhat so he could nap in that and the baby paracetamol and teething gel and teething powders have all been getting plenty of use too lol

 

[Brockie]

oh hon its sooooo hard sometimes i know

not sure what to advise really, Kitty did a similar thing a bit before 4 months and it lasted about 3 weeks, waking in night after sleeping through, clingy, was OFF her milk, and then about a week ago i put my finger in her mouth and a TOOTH had cut!!! she has been a bit better since then but still isnt sleeping the same, i did try her today with some veggies at tea time, she wasn't that in to it so not sure if thats the answer?!

see how he goes over next week or so i guess? sorry cant offer any more advice x oh, and they do go through a big developmental phase around 4 months i think when everything goes tits up so to speak

 

[DonnaBallona]

thanks for your reply Lynnikins. Bert is definatly teething too, he's cutting his fangs first (the monkeybum!)

Bonjela doesnt seem to help him in the slightest so Iv been giving him calpol-although only when he REALLY needs it as im not a great fan of the stuff. The thing is, Im concerned that he'll start needing the calpol to get to sleep if I keep giving it before bed iykwim?

xx

 

[DonnaBallona]

Brockie Bert does ALL the things you described! He's been a right Mummys boy recently, just goes mental if I go out of sight which is SO not normal for him.

Thanks for your reply, in the nicest possible way Im glad someone else has been through this so can tell me it does get better. Im feeling a little sorry for myself

 

[lynnikins]

have you tryed teething powders, i dont find them much use myself but loads of people swear by them or an amber necklace for him im going to get one for EJ next week as he definatly needs it and after the last few nights im willing to give just about anything a shot lol, im not a huge fan of calpol but if it keeps me sane i'll use it

also as Brockie said then there is a huge brain development phase between 4-6 months and sometime they just have to be awake to process and let their brains catch up, unless EJ actually fusses and needs to get up in the night i dont disturb him if he wakes he often will just go back to sleep unless he really needs something

 

[DonnaBallona]

thanks Lynnikins

Unforts, Bert is sleeping in the same room as his sister so I have to get up when he cries. if he is restless or happy laying in his cot, then I just leave him (and pray he drops off again!) but if he's wittering or crying then I have to go into him or Id have two crying kids on my hands!

I give the Amber necklace a go though, thats a great idea! Thanks for the tip! xx

 

[Brockie]

if only they came with a blinkin handbook hon then we wouldn't be constantly second guessing them!

it will pass soon hon whatever it is, then there will be somthing else

and i totally know what you mean about being scared one will wake the other, my 2 not in the same room but when Kitty has her middle of the night conversation with herself i lay there praying Fred doesn't hear her! my 2 like to have a tag team going instead of both waking together tho!!! xxx

 

[lynnikins]

mine are both in my room and tag team us on being awake in the night with both teething atm its a wonder i get any sleep lol