please tell me I am not the only one!

[newlywed2013]

Am I the only person who gets so frustrated with dh for not wanting to try yet that you don't even want to do the deed? I almost feel like it's revenge and I know it's selfish. I just hate seeing the wasted swimmers and I get disappointed when he doesn't mess up his timing pulling out... lol

 

[MellyH]

So far I'm lucky that my timescale and his timescale agree - if February comes and he wants to push back (which isn't unlikely, to be fair) - then I will start getting frustrated! But once I get my implanon out in February, if he's not ready, I'm going to be making sure we wear condoms until he is - I want us both to be 100% on board and excited before we chance an oopsie, and I don't want him to be making decisions in the heat of the moment that he second guesses later.

I am more often the one initiating sex (maybe 60% of the time it's me and 40% of the time it's him, so not very much more often ) so I'd have to be unhappy with him personally to not want to have sex.

 

[newlywed2013]

It's different with us though, we are both ready, he just seems to think we should be in a better financial situation but when we are, our bills will be higher. I know I am being super selfish

 

[Wnt2beAMom]

Like Melly said, I am happy with waiting until our set date. It was so hard to even get a date to begin with! lol But if he wants to push it further when it comes April, then I will be frustrated.

 

[JT2013]

I think as incredibly hard as it feels at times, if you're in a position where you are planning a pregnancy then you do both need to be completely on board with it. It will be far far better to be able to celebrate your BFP when it arrives without a single doubt or concern that it's not the right time. Any responsible man wants to be given as much say in TTC as women do.

 

[Yo_Yo]

I get frustrated at having to wait. My body is ready but our lives. Aren't yet grrrr! Can relate to your frustration

 

[oceania]

I can soo relate to how you're feeling. We are using the withdrawal method and I am so disappointed everytime we have sex and he pulls out and I get hopeful that he wouldnt do it...Though now that I have an actual ttc date it's a bit easier to deal with than before...I do want to dtd a lot now, cause the chances of an oopsie get higher the more we do it haha

 

[newlywed2013]

LOL thanks guys! I have calmed down a bit since I first wrote this, I was pretty dang frustrated with the DH. We don't have a set date, I started a ticker to may when he graduates. I thought that he wanted to start ttc when he gets a job offer but when I wrote this I had jsut found out that he wants to wait until he gets his probationary period done. Why does it have to be about what he wants? Lol. I definitely want him all on board and excited when it happens, I can definitely understand that. It's just so sucky when we are ready but he keeps coming up with excuses.. I'm just as ready as you are but I want to.... I keep telling him he keeps doing that and next thing we know time will fly by us. He claims he wont let that happen...