babyzoe
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DH and I had a BIG fight last night about the in-law situation. It was compounded when I found out that apparently SIL is bringing her son and staying there after the uncle and aunt leave. So now I have even more people staying at my house and NO ONE EVEN THOUGHT TO LET ME IN ON THESE PLANS. Who else is going to be romping around my house going through my personal things? I'm just distraught, I've tried so hard to just internalize everything but I just broke down last night. It's just too much. I feel like I've completely lost trust in my MIL and now I feel like I'm losing trust in DH. I mean...what happens when my baby is 7 years old and MIL comes over to house sit/baby sit. Is she gonna invite random people over then too? Is my child going to be safe around some man that I don't know at all? (I'm not saying that these people are molesters, but that's the whole point....I don't know!)
I just feel at such an impasse and I don't even want to spend time with them anymore I just want to get pregnant and then have nothing to do with those in-laws. And I know DH would never go for that, and understandably so. I just....I just don't know where we go from here. If the BabyZoe Public Hotel plans continue I'll be upset....but if MIL is told to tell everyone to cancel their plans, the rest of the family is upset. This could have all been avoided if DH would have just nipped this in the bud from the get go, instead of letting everyone make plans and only telling me after everything is finalized.
How do I continue on when I feel so enraged at these people?
I just feel at such an impasse and I don't even want to spend time with them anymore I just want to get pregnant and then have nothing to do with those in-laws. And I know DH would never go for that, and understandably so. I just....I just don't know where we go from here. If the BabyZoe Public Hotel plans continue I'll be upset....but if MIL is told to tell everyone to cancel their plans, the rest of the family is upset. This could have all been avoided if DH would have just nipped this in the bud from the get go, instead of letting everyone make plans and only telling me after everything is finalized.
How do I continue on when I feel so enraged at these people?