Shan4609
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Hi everyone! I haven't posted since my little beautiful baby made an appearance on Boxing Day! But I would like to share my story and looking for some feedback? I'm hoping posting and talking about it with other people experiencing post natal depression will help me get through this horrible time!
Ok so our daughter was totally planned, wanted a baby came off the pill and was expecting our first baby within 5 months of trying we were so happy! She didn't arrive on her due date she was induced on Xmas day and born at 2.11am Boxing Day! Totally couldn't believe we had our own baby loved her from the moment I saw her pretty little face 10 fingers and toes! She is so cute!!
Everything was fine until about 6 weeks pp apart from me being a mess kept thinking I was going to get a blood clot and die lol extreme I know but I'm one of these worriers and google everything! But anyway.. Had my 6 week checkup everything was fine gp asking me questions to see if I had PND totally didn't then suddenly something switched inside my head had a horrible image of 'what if' I sleepwalk and hurt her on propose but I'm totally unaware.. ECt! Freaking myself out with these horrible thoughts questioning who I am! I would never hurt my baby but the what if always crept in! I was fine after that I was happy with my new life but was very anxious all the time worrying about LO all the time, with blankets leaving her on her own, was very horrible!
Shortly after this I was in a bad car accident and luckily enough my LO wasn't in the car but I couldn't stop crying at the accident thinking about what if she was in the car! I felt horrible but thankful she wasn't!
Fast forward a month later! No body judge me on this as I never thought I would have to go through this and never thought I would make this decition No period! I can't be pregnant! I'm protected and I've only done t once since LO was born! Took a test and it was positive! Totally freaked out, my baby was only 4 months old I feel like I ain't going to be able to cope? We were really suffering from not having any money as we didn't get any help from the government and really hard up, my mum had to buy me nappies and my milk every month and help me with bills ECt, me and my boyfriend decided that we would terminate, I know people are against this but I was too! I hated the thought that people could make such decisions! But I found myself in a different opinion when it's yourself in that situation and I had the termination, felt a bit shit o be honest but I know it was the right thing to do for all of us, I don't want any harmful comments about this just want to give my full story
So recently I have been having anxiety over me dying young and LO not remembering me, my partner finding somebody else and she calling his new partner her Mumma! Horrible feeling, hearing things on the news about these horrible people hurting children and I start thinking about what of this happened to my LO! Thoughts that don't go away and really making me depressed and distant from my baby! Broke my heart, the house was getting messy and to top or off I had to go back to work last week! We need the money but the guilt is killing me from these horrible anxiety and worrying over her and the sick feeling in my stomach of guilt for even thinking about it! I wasn't eating I constantly felt sick and felt as if I have lost who I am! Kept thinking to myself why am I my happy! This is supposed to me the happier time of my life but I can't get myself out of this funk! I looked at her and felt said it was affecting our bond! That's what done it for me, so Friday I finally told my boyfriend! And I thought e was going to think I'm going crazy cause I bought I was I was questioning my mothering skills and if I love her, it was all in my mind I felt useless and horrible! He was very supportive and he was saying it cause I'm a sensitive person everybody worries and has horrible unwanted thoughts but you just let it go! I was crying for 4 hours just felt to down!
Went to the doctors yesterday and told my gp everything and she scored me on moderate PND and bad anxiety and recommended Cytlopram and refered me for councilling to talk about everything that happened change my negative thinking, I only started the meds yesterday and feel better already apart from feeling a little drowsy so I'm going to take it on the evening so I sleep the drowsiness off even though my gp said I wouldn't feel an improvement for a few weeks
Also forgot to add another factor of this illness is probley that my boyfriend admitted to cheating on me when I first fell pregnant, I was heartbroken but I forgave him for our daughters sake, he only gets once more chance! Or he's out,
Anybody else going through this or been through this and recovered?
Ok so our daughter was totally planned, wanted a baby came off the pill and was expecting our first baby within 5 months of trying we were so happy! She didn't arrive on her due date she was induced on Xmas day and born at 2.11am Boxing Day! Totally couldn't believe we had our own baby loved her from the moment I saw her pretty little face 10 fingers and toes! She is so cute!!
Everything was fine until about 6 weeks pp apart from me being a mess kept thinking I was going to get a blood clot and die lol extreme I know but I'm one of these worriers and google everything! But anyway.. Had my 6 week checkup everything was fine gp asking me questions to see if I had PND totally didn't then suddenly something switched inside my head had a horrible image of 'what if' I sleepwalk and hurt her on propose but I'm totally unaware.. ECt! Freaking myself out with these horrible thoughts questioning who I am! I would never hurt my baby but the what if always crept in! I was fine after that I was happy with my new life but was very anxious all the time worrying about LO all the time, with blankets leaving her on her own, was very horrible!
Shortly after this I was in a bad car accident and luckily enough my LO wasn't in the car but I couldn't stop crying at the accident thinking about what if she was in the car! I felt horrible but thankful she wasn't!
Fast forward a month later! No body judge me on this as I never thought I would have to go through this and never thought I would make this decition No period! I can't be pregnant! I'm protected and I've only done t once since LO was born! Took a test and it was positive! Totally freaked out, my baby was only 4 months old I feel like I ain't going to be able to cope? We were really suffering from not having any money as we didn't get any help from the government and really hard up, my mum had to buy me nappies and my milk every month and help me with bills ECt, me and my boyfriend decided that we would terminate, I know people are against this but I was too! I hated the thought that people could make such decisions! But I found myself in a different opinion when it's yourself in that situation and I had the termination, felt a bit shit o be honest but I know it was the right thing to do for all of us, I don't want any harmful comments about this just want to give my full story
So recently I have been having anxiety over me dying young and LO not remembering me, my partner finding somebody else and she calling his new partner her Mumma! Horrible feeling, hearing things on the news about these horrible people hurting children and I start thinking about what of this happened to my LO! Thoughts that don't go away and really making me depressed and distant from my baby! Broke my heart, the house was getting messy and to top or off I had to go back to work last week! We need the money but the guilt is killing me from these horrible anxiety and worrying over her and the sick feeling in my stomach of guilt for even thinking about it! I wasn't eating I constantly felt sick and felt as if I have lost who I am! Kept thinking to myself why am I my happy! This is supposed to me the happier time of my life but I can't get myself out of this funk! I looked at her and felt said it was affecting our bond! That's what done it for me, so Friday I finally told my boyfriend! And I thought e was going to think I'm going crazy cause I bought I was I was questioning my mothering skills and if I love her, it was all in my mind I felt useless and horrible! He was very supportive and he was saying it cause I'm a sensitive person everybody worries and has horrible unwanted thoughts but you just let it go! I was crying for 4 hours just felt to down!
Went to the doctors yesterday and told my gp everything and she scored me on moderate PND and bad anxiety and recommended Cytlopram and refered me for councilling to talk about everything that happened change my negative thinking, I only started the meds yesterday and feel better already apart from feeling a little drowsy so I'm going to take it on the evening so I sleep the drowsiness off even though my gp said I wouldn't feel an improvement for a few weeks
Also forgot to add another factor of this illness is probley that my boyfriend admitted to cheating on me when I first fell pregnant, I was heartbroken but I forgave him for our daughters sake, he only gets once more chance! Or he's out,
Anybody else going through this or been through this and recovered?