PND Support Thread

[carolyn_s]

When is spoke to the Dr she was very understanding but i hardly took in anything she said becasue i was crying so much! oops! Ive initially declined medication but im not sure i can cope on my own.

Im having an alright day today but i dont get them often - ive learnt to hide how i really feel.

As im quite young the majority of my friends dont have children. Having just moved to a new town to get away from my ex im really not sure what to do...

The anxiety is the worst part for me..im so scared if im alone with my daughter and something happens to her i wont know what to do!

 

[pinkmummy]

I declined the medication at first hun but then realised that I couldnt cope Its not a bad thing to be on them if they help.

I'm quite young too Im 21 so I understand where your coming from.

If something happens to your daughter (God forbid!) then you will just automatically know what to do its a bit like when she was born and you suddenly knew how to take care of her and love her etc x

 

[carolyn_s]

Yea i guess so but i cant help worrying all the time. I also had an incident where i had to call the police recetly becuase of a neighbour, im now permanently scared in my own home! This make me worry about Abby even more.
How long do you think i should give it before reconsidering medication?

There is a PND group in my area but it breaks for summer this week and i havent had a chance to meet anyone yet....apart from this website im not sure what else i can do to make this easier.

 

[pinkmummy]

Personally I wish I had gotten the medication earlier hun so the sooner the better.

The girls on this site are an amazing help, I dunno if there are groups and things you can go to as I have never been xx

 

[ALY]

Serina it does get better hun i was the same first time karl went to work and left me with robyn and sam once you get into a routine it does help

Carolyn hiya
am sorry your having to go thro this hun
i tried without medication and it didnt help me maybe you should try some counciling and if that doest work then try the medication
if you have any questions at all you can either write them in here or you can pm me hun either way we will all try to help you as much as we can

 

[dippy dee]

Hi girls can i sneak in here please? I've had a few months of counsellin but things are gettin worse not better and things are getting so bad now esp between me and dh. x

 

[ALY]

Hiya dippy dee
yeah course you can
Dont you think the counciling is working for you hun x are you taking any medication x

 

[pinkmummy]

Donna hun hope you and the kids are ok, you have my number if you ever want a chat xx

 

[Jkelmum]

I survived my 1st day ...I think i did well considering oh as been home for 6wks until today ...it started a little wrong cos i got up late but once i caught up i was ok i just missed 1 expressing session ...I managed to do 2 loads of washing ...keep them both fed and happy and get to baby clinic on time followed by picking my daughter up from school

Donna your more then welcome here the girls here are wonderful xxx

Carolyn if i was you i would go back to docs sooner rather then later its best to get the help sooner then u can start to feel like you again xxx

ALY and Kelly thanks for telling me it does get better that was worst part of day when i came and posted feeling a little more positive now the first day is over with xxx

 

[ALY]

Serina am so glad to hear that the day went well after a bad start
and it gets even easier the more you do it

 

[pinkmummy]

hun thats brill news Serina I always found the mornings hardest xx

 

[charliebear]

I wrote a reply then cut it...how am I supposed to get help if I cant admit it???

 

[Jkelmum]

I wrote a reply then cut it...how am I supposed to get help if I cant admit it???

admitting it is the hardest step x

 

[carolyn_s]

Thanks Aly.

How do i go about counselling? can i arrange that through my daughter?

Ive spoken to my sister as she had PND after her first child, she said the first medication she was given made her worse so im scared that happens to me!

Me and little legs are staying with my sister for a couple of days as i was struggling at home alone...its lifting my spirits

 

[ALY]

You can arrange it thro yoyr gp hun
Dont be scared of takking medication i was like yhat at 1st but it really does help if your on the right one hun some of them has side effects but they norm only last for a couple of days x
They take about 2-3 weeks to start working tho so if you decide to have some med then just give it time hun
Am glad you can stay at your sis for a bit xx

 

[carolyn_s]

CharlieBear,

Ive known for weeks that something wasnt right. I knew in the back of my mind what was wrong but convinced myself it would just go away.

It was last night i think i fully admitted it to myself that i needed help and ended up not sleeping at all and crying untill 2am.

I went to the Dr's this morning and feel better for it. I was scared because of the stigma attached to it and thought people would laugh and think i was strange if i admitted how i was feeling - little did i know loads of women feel the same way as proved by this thread!!

Take it one day at a time and take care of yourself!! I found a long soak in the bath and some relaxing music helped!!

 

[snettyb]

Hi everyone! And a warm welcome to the ladies new to the thread.

Sounds like you had a very productive day serina, hope you nail a routine down soon!

Caroline, i arranged through my doc to see a psychologist, i have my 1st apt on wednesday and i'm dreading it! They are going to decide if/what meds i need.

I had a rotten night with Jake last night, he was waking every hour or so and the only thing that would settle him was a bottle and he seemed in pain every time he burped so i took him to the doc and he thinks he has acid reflux so i have some gaviscon to try him on. The poor bairn has been through the mill with the reflux, colic and his poorly stint in hospital but (this may sound sooooo selfish but....) him being ill is just making me worse. The more he cries the more of a shit mam i feel, the less sleep i have the more i have nasty feelings about him, and the more they find wrong with him the more anxious i am getting about him. OH had to take a half day today as i was feeling like cracking up. The big one was off school today (fooking teacher training day ) and he banged on and on about wrestling....again!! OH walked in and i walked straight to the bed room, sobbed my heart out and fell flat out asleep.

PND is crap!! I hate feeling this way, one minute i love everyone the next i hate everyone and everthing, i just can't see a way forward

So so so so sorry for the long whiney post, and i really hope i don't bring anyone down with my moaning xx

 

[carolyn_s]

Now that ive got my head around having PND i think i will head back to the dr's and talk to her again.
I don't like my HV though she is so patronising!

My little one had gastro oesphogal (cant spell) reflux, she was given ranitidine and gaviscon and that really helped. Did you get the infant gaviscon or adult? I found the adult liquid one was so much better for Abby as it has a cooling effect on the way down!

 

[Shifter]

(this may sound sooooo selfish but....) him being ill is just making me worse. The more he cries the more of a shit mam i feel, the less sleep i have the more i have nasty feelings about him, and the more they find wrong with him the more anxious i am getting about him.

That's totally understandable hun. I'm like that too, if Jack has a grumpy day or a demanding evening it really wears on me and I get very, very down. I sometimes have trouble looking at him if he's being very fussy because I get frustrated with him and myself.

Welcome to the newcomers.

Hope everyone has a good day tomorrow.

 

[snettyb]

Thanx shifter hun x

I got the kiddie gavascon. Only had one feed with it in and he has settled waaaaaaaayyyy better. He's been in bed since 8 and he went straight to sleep without his grunty wriggling and a million trips to the bedroom to settle him so he must be more comfortable. Just hope he stays happy through the night. xx