POST COULD BE WORRISOME TO SOME!! - Irrational fears about childbirth?!

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  1. IsabellaJayne

    IsabellaJayne Mum of 2 girls, pregnant with baby GIRL #3

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    I feel this is the right place to post this as the forum isn't just for positive posts but also topics that may worry us.

    I keep having a horrible dream that I die in childbirth!! Its horrible and now its actually starting to worry me!!

    Am i the only one who worries about this?!

    Please tell me Im being stupid?!!!

    Its kinda ruining the run up to labour for me :cry:
     
  2. zanDark

    zanDark <3 IVF mom <3

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    Oh hun I have the same fears! :hugs::hugs: I keep getting nightmares about something going wrong during labor or something being wrong with the baby...our anxieties show up in our dreams to mess with us :cry::hugs:

    It's perfectly normal to be scared and have fears...but try to keep in mind that severe complications these days are rare :thumbup: just look at all the wonderful threads in third tri where women go into labor and then come back and say everything went fine! :thumbup::hugs::hugs:

    It will all be fine hun! x try to ignore the dreams during the day and tell yourself that it's just your fears messing with you :hugs:
     
  3. Foxy37

    Foxy37 Well-Known Member

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    It's a very natural feeling and this is a great post as it allows us all to see that we share the same fears.
    I worry that something will happen to baby before she arrives :(. I had a traumatic experience with my first child when I was 18 and hemoridged badly loosing 6 pints of blood. The hospitals are amazing and in this day and age we are pretty safe. Yet we all still have these consern xxxx
     
  4. lauraairving

    lauraairving Well-Known Member

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    I keep watching programmes such as the midwifes which was on the other night. That programme is FULL of complications and just scares me to death watching it(why do I watch lol?). If you didn't see it a lady nearly bled to death ahh. I know the EXACT feeling. I'm also terrified of the pain/tears ect. Safe to say I'm really not looking forward to birth although I'll be happy once I've done it as I strangely want the experience lol.
     
  5. CloverMouse

    CloverMouse Mom of 2

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    I had dreams like this when I was pregnant with ds.
    They freaked me out bad. I think it was just fear that I couldn't do it. Sorry you are having them:(
     
  6. IsabellaJayne

    IsabellaJayne Mum of 2 girls, pregnant with baby GIRL #3

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    Thanks for all your reassurance ladies!! Sorry we're all feeling the same! I also have that horrible feeling of not getting to meet my daughter. You think its because its so close?

    :hugs:
     
  7. lauraairving

    lauraairving Well-Known Member

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    I think it's cos it's close yes:) I wanted my boy so much so it dragged.. Now I'm worried it's flying haha x
     
  8. lauraairving

    lauraairving Well-Known Member

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    Just think. Thirst babies are the start of a lifetime I worry for us haha x
     
  9. sbl

    sbl Mum of 2

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    You worry when your pregnant, you worry about childbirth, you worry if your doing it right when they are born, you worry when they have a weird poo or cough or sneeze a few times and so on.
    Basically being a mother means worrying becomes a normal part of your day. Your never alone in your thoughts when you have a child.

    As for being worried about childbirth thats so totally normal. You will be fine!
     
  10. Foxy37

    Foxy37 Well-Known Member

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    I'm sorry but the worry never ends. My eldest is 21 and a mum and I worry about her xx
     
  11. CountryS2011

    CountryS2011 Well-Known Member

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    I haven't had any about labor. I surprisingly haven't thought much about it. I guess because logically I know it's going to happen so why worry, which is weird, because normally I worry o_O

    On secondhand, all mine have been where my ex of 2 years/baby daddy who took off with no explanation at 9 weeks comes back and I keep asking him why he left? So I think logically my mind is more fudged up with that :3

    But I do wish you luck. Just think about your gorgeous little angel and how it'll be worth it!!
     
  12. want2bemommy

    want2bemommy Cautiously expecting :-)

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    I have the same fears- it actually stems from DH being so awesome and falling in love all over again- I'm afraid to destroy his world... He tells me to not think negatively but it still pops in my head occasionally
     
  13. ShakeItBaby1

    ShakeItBaby1 Mommy to Riley Elizabeth

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    :dohh: This reminds me so much of my mom :haha:. I'm 22, and about to be a mom and she still worries about me. (Not that I mind, I love my mom a lot! She's awesome lol) One day my baby wasn't moving very much, and I called her freaking out. Although she did calm me down she was kind of laughing a bit. I asked her why, and she said the whole "Your day has finally come. You always thought I was so silly for worrying about you, now look at yourself!"


    Like the other PP said - I think worrying is just normal when you become a mom. I don't have the fears of dying in child birth, but I do have the fears of my baby being stillborn A LOT. :nope:
     
  14. Batman909

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    I'm only in second tri and I'm already crapping myself. I bled both times and I'm terrified of it happening again. They told me after my first birth I would have died if I wasn't in hospital :( I been scared since I first got those two little pink lines. I believe my first thought was oh god it's in there now it has to come out!
     
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    my mother suffered from a 3rd or 4th degree prolapsed uterus while giving birth to me. she bled out while waiting for a blood transfusion. because of this i have been terrified to give birth my entire life. so much so i always said i would never have children. so when i found out i was pregnant i honestly spent the first 5 months freaking out and wondering if i made the right decision.
    if something like that was to happen to me giving birth at least it's not the 80s so i think things would get sorted out a lot quicker than back then haha. so i don't really worry about it anymore.
     
  17. ShakeItBaby1

    ShakeItBaby1 Mommy to Riley Elizabeth

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    Thank you :). She definitely is. She said just like her, ill worry about my little girl until the day I take my very last breath! Which I don't doubt is true. While I wasn't exactly a HORRIBLE child, I was sort of rebellious, and she'd worry about me walking, going anywhere, etc. While the plans right now may change (My OH will be in the room when I have my baby,) my moms definitely volunteered to be there if anything happens and I told her I'd be more than happy to let her in the room :)
     
  18. Leids

    Leids Mommy :)

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    Very normal! I was terrified throughout my entire first pregnancy. I had nightmares of complications and dying from the moment I found out I was pregnant. I cried every night for days before I was supposed to be induced and even told my DH things to do if I happened to die. :haha: Looking back, I was really silly about it. I had a pretty good labor and a great delivery. Everything was fine!

    Now that I'm pregnant with #2 I still get paranoid and worry about it, but know that I'm just being irrational.

    I'm actually the same with other things as well, like flying. I have to fly all of the time and prior to getting on the plane I'm always sure I'm going to die on the flight!
     
  19. IsabellaJayne

    IsabellaJayne Mum of 2 girls, pregnant with baby GIRL #3

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    Ahh the worry just never ends really does it? :(
     
  20. ClairAye

    ClairAye Mum to one of each!

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    I never actually did first time as I swore I'd be pregnant forever :haha: But this time I worry a lot. I won't go into detail of my labour because I don't want to scare anyone, but it wasn't nice and I ended up pretty ill from an infection.

    They say second labours are normally better etc, etc but I know when I go into labour that I'll have a big panic! It's very normal :hugs:
     

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