Hi I found out a week ago that I'm pregnant and am yet to book the appointment for my ultrasound. I would have to be at least 2 months along. I didn't believe I could be pregnant because I had my last two periods but they were late, light and lasted about half the time they normally do.. yet three pregnancy tests have now confirmed I am.. Now to the problem... I am unsure if/how to tell the father. He and I were friends that moved to more when my bf and I were having problems.. I was told to take my time making the decision on whether to patch things up with my bf or go to the new guy. This was a hard decision because patching things up with the bf was the safe bet as the new one was 5 years younger than me, unemployed, just got kicked out of home etc. So just as i decide my heart is with the younger one he goes a bit weird with me after finding out I saw my bf one night (nothing happened) and a week later he tells me that the guilt has taken over and I took too long to decide whether I wanted to officially be with him. After a couple of weeks we start talking again and about a week later again he gets a gf. This hurt me too much so I told him I wanted nothing to do with him anymore.. Now, I have been overly emotional during all this, more than I have ever been! That coupled with my late morning early afternoon urge to throw up no appetite, and late, light and short period had a couple of friends start asking questions.. To prove them wrong I bought a pregnancy test.. well that came back positive so I bought another test which also came back positive.. Unhappy with these results I went to the dr and got my third positive result. I think I'm still in shock about it all to be honest and the 3 people that know are saying I have to tell the father.. but I told him I want nothing to do with him anymore and I mean it! I really don't know if I should tell him or not, I know morally I should but realistically I'm too gutless to say anything. He's one of those very skeptical people and he's young (22) and for some reason I can't help but see him thinking it's a play to get him back, which if he knows me half as well as he thinks, he should know I would never do! If I did tell him it would be something like "I'm only telling you because you have a right to know but the only thing I want from you is to be left alone". Even if I did want him around, I couldn't see him as a father figure, for me that would require him to stop drinking every day, stop the drug use and hold a job for more than a month or so, deciding it's too boring and quitting then being unemployed for several months. I really don't know how to tackle this.. I know I can't get away with having our baby and not saying anything to him and I don't believe in abortion (which is what I'm being told I have to do by supposed friends) Any advice would be greatly appreciated. The situation is playing havoc with my depression too so I'm the first to admit I'm not really thinking straight.