pregnant after a second trimester loss at 20w

[LaceFace88]

I am guilt ridden because i feel like i shouldn't be happy when my son is gone i am 15w tomorrow and everyday i feel more scared something is going to happen the closer i get to 20w. I dont think i will stop being afraid until he or she is here safe and sound. But i have this guilt like i shouldn't be havin this baby i should have my Elijah . It will be nine months since he passed and just wish he was here. Does anyone else feel guilty?

 

[flou]

If I hadn't lost my second angel then I wouldn't be having my lil man which I am currently pg with. And if I hadn't have lost my first angel then I probably wouldn't currently be pregnant. My losses were both early losses but I still miss them both and wonder what they would have been like. I think how you feel is completely natural. I feel personally that hopefully this is the baby I am supposed to have but they could never replace the ones I lost. I am so sorry that you had to go through a loss and I could only imagine the pain of a loss in the second tri but I do hope this is your rainbow. If your feelings are overwhelming speak to your midwife or doctor about how you feel. Good luck xx

 

[ellahopesky]

Hi, very sorry for your loss.
we suffered a loss at 21 weeks and the feeling of guilt when i fell pregnant soon after was awful, but it does pass. just think, this baby is a blessing from your angel and your son will be this babies guardian angel. you still have your elijah, he lives within your heart. its natural to wish he was here, but he's always with you in spirit. all the best xxx

 

[Happy happy]

Firstly, I'm so sorry for your loss..its so bizarre this is the 1st thread that I saw after looking of this forum. I had a loss at 21 weeks in September and have just found out we are pregnant on Christmas Eve. I've no idea to feel at all and find my self just wanting to cry. I'm anxious for each appointment and haven't even rung my midwife yet and not planning on doing so for a couple of weeks yet.
I think our Angels have sent us our babies as a gift and to show us they are still watching over us and will continue to do so...that's what I'm choosing to believe
Big hugs and lots of love to you xxxx

 

[LaceFace88]

Thank you for all your replies. Do you guys know what caused your losses. Mine was put to just one of the things so that makes it a lil easier as they say its very unlikely to happn again but it still is in the back of my mind. I am trying to get excited which i am excited for the ultrasound i have on the second o February. Hopefully after seein the baby it will ease my worries.

 

[Happy happy]

My son had severe spina bifida we went for a 2nd amd 3rd opinion but when the specialist told us it was the worst case he had seen we knew what we had to do. He was ment to be our rainbow but we had to let him go so I delivered him at 21 weeks
I've been on 5mg dose of Folic acid since a week after I had him along with pregnacare conception so hopefully we will get our rainbow this year xoxo

 

[babytots]

Sending you big hugs hun. I lost my daughter at 19 weeks in 2009 and fell pregnant 7 months later with my now 4yr old son. At first I felt guilty for wanting a baby so soon after Jessica but once he was born I knew that he was sent to me by her and that she would be happy for us. I now have 2 boys and I wouldn't swap them for the world. Jessica is never forgotten about and is loved by us all.

I really hope this pregnancy goes without any complications and in 25 weeks time you hold your rainbow in your arms. x