~~pregnant after loss & so nervous~~

[mamabearjen]

Hello I had my son June 1st 2011 at 33 weeks he died after 1 hour from missing both kidneys. The genetic lab said they found nothing idicating it would happen again.... i had a chemical pregnancy last month and just found out today Im pregnant again... (maybe 4/5 weeks) IM SO NERVOUS!!!!
How long does it take to relax....I wont find out until about 15 weeks as to weather this baby has its kidneys or not........How am i gonna make it that long???

 

[lilmamatoW]

I had a mc in January and have had trouble getting an BFP since then until a couple days ago. I have been a wreck too. I hope it goes well for you and that you are able to enjoy your pregnancy!

 

[mamabearjen]

Thank you...Hang in there Im due 4 days after you!!

 

[EMC0528]

I couldn't imagine what you went through. I am so sorry for your loss. I miscarried my second pregnancy beginning of June. I'll be 6 weeks pregnant in a few days and I'm terrified also. We have to believe that every pregnancy is different! I'm not sure after a loss you ever really relax. You will get through it and I'll be hoping for good news for you at your 15 week scan.

 

[SabrinaKat]

I take it one day at a time, but whether it get easier, I'm not sure!

I had an m/c at 7-8 wks in August 2009, and am now 19wks+2, we have had good scans, bloods, etc., so I am hoping that once I feel the baby move, will feel a little less worried...
however, what you are feeling is completely normal and many of the ladies here will understand!

best wishes

 

[kelzyboo]

Just wanted to say a huge congratulations to you, i remember we spoke a while ago and its lovely to see your expecting again!

Hope everything goes well for you hun xx

 

[Semanthia]

Congratulations!
I too am newly pregnant after a loss and extremely nervous. I sure hope the fear eases up. I hope you have a happy and healthy 9 months!

 

[Nikki_d72]

I Just wanted to say congrats! So sorry for the loss of your son, he was so beautiful. I can't help on staying sane in pregnancy as I haven't even let go of the fear enough to try yet, maybe this month, but I can imagine it will be really hard. It will all be worth it though for your rainbow. I hope you find a way to make time go a little more quickly till 15 weeks to get your scan and I hope all will be well, I'm sure it will, like the doctors said there would be no reason for it to happen again. I know logic may not come into it for you till then though! I'm so happy for you, can I stalk you? I need some hope and inspiration!

Semanthia, congrats to you too! same applies, I hope you find some peace and stay sane!

Congrats to all you ladies expecting your rainbows!
Wishing you all all the best xxx

 

[mamabearjen]

Thanks everyone Im just going crazy....I was feeling so down & anxious about this pregnancy I went out and bought a pack of neutral onesies...they are still in the bag but I just wanted to DO SOMETHING to make me feel "normal" & "excitted" Im holding back and not telling anyone until i find out about the kidneys...I just want to be a little more private this time if it turns out to be another loss...My first pregnancy I TOLD EVERYONE...and than found out at 18weeks he wasnt going to make it so EVERYONE knew what was up....anyway, thanks for the support ladies...My sister is pregnant with her 2nd baby which is a boy this time he is fine and her daughter is fine so maybe atleast form side of the family it was a fluke....

 

[mamabearjen]

Well I am 21 weeks pregnant now Its a GIRL and she is doing great! She has kidneys & a bladder and lots of fluid!! My sister had her baby boy a couple weeks ago. It was so bitter sweet for me I think because he is a boy it hit me a little harder but he is beautiful and healthy and i love him

 

[KTJ006]

Well I am 21 weeks pregnant now Its a GIRL and she is doing great! She has kidneys & a bladder and lots of fluid!! My sister had her baby boy a couple weeks ago. It was so bitter sweet for me I think because he is a boy it hit me a little harder but he is beautiful and healthy and i love him

Congratulations!! So good to hear such wonderful news. It's really bittersweet! I can completely relate to how you were feeling in the beginning. I'm only 6 weeks along now and am so nervous about everything. Just have to realize that it's out of our hands and we wouldn't be given anything we can't handle. I hope the remaining time in your pregnancy is relaxing and healthy! Best of luck...

 

[Jaxmum]

Hi mamabearjen, I'm glad I found you again (I'm not a stoker). I'll start with my story.
On 19 December 2011 I went for my scan at 19 wks. We knew something just wasn't right as soon as she started. All they told me as they were pushing me out the door for a fire drill was I had low fluid to call my dr. It was 5pm I was never going to get onto my dr then! I tried... She called me first thing the next morning and told me they where worried cos they couldn't find kidneys and she was waiting to hear from the specialist OB at hospital. Then I had appt with her that afternoon and she explained a bit more and we were told to hope for the best but prepare for the worst. And this we did, I got on the Internet and I found your story! And I cried like I'm sure any mother would! At first I thought what a strong women you are, I was in denial and was such everything was going to be fine. I finally got into hospital the Friday before Xmas. Our worst nightmare was confirmed and got worse. My little boy too had not developed kidneys or a bladder the worse part his he also had a heart condition and his heart beat was very irregular. Then we had to make a choice of what to do from here. My OB had said his heart was 'struggling' to me that cut deep my baby was struggling. He also said it was highly unlikly that he would make full term. We decided to be induce and I never want to have to make a decision like that again. I've been hounded on another forum for killing my baby and playing god, which didn't help being kicked even more when I was already down.
For some reason I thought you and and need to talk to someone that has been threw what I have. I know people that have lost babies at around the same time but you baby had the same. I'm sorry if this seems strange. Congratulation on your baby too I could only imagine the great fear you would have. We to are just starting to try again.