I just half wanted to vent and half wondered if others have similar experiences.
I had a miscarriage back in June at around 6 and a half weeks. I'll be ten weeks on Monday and this weekend (over Thanksgiving) we decided to tell a few choice family members. We've had multiple wonderful scans so far and we feel really good about things. Our family had known about the miscarriage. (one or two had known we were pregnant, and when I had the miscarriage, word spread fast)
Everyone's reaction is SO weird to me.
I know most people don't know as much about fertility and early pregnancy as we do (after years of TTC, and treatment), AND I totally acknowledge that the fact is, NO ONE's reaction is ever going to live up to how excited WE are.
But I have to admit. It's disappointing. People are VERY guarded and their reactions are completely lackluster and even the little bit they do say seems forced. Almost no one has even said the word "congratulations". They just look at me with this half happy/half pity look say something like "that's great" and generally within about 90 seconds, the topic has been changed.
I know they mean well and I know they just aren't sure what to say. But I expected that when I told people I was almost through my first trimester, they'd get more excited, realizing our risk of miscarriage is so much lower now. But no one really reacts.
Don't get me wrong. I'M HAVING A BABY!!!!!! So really.... who the hell cares???? lol.
But to be perfectly honest, I can't help but be a bit disappointed.
Anyone else had anything similar?
I had a miscarriage back in June at around 6 and a half weeks. I'll be ten weeks on Monday and this weekend (over Thanksgiving) we decided to tell a few choice family members. We've had multiple wonderful scans so far and we feel really good about things. Our family had known about the miscarriage. (one or two had known we were pregnant, and when I had the miscarriage, word spread fast)
Everyone's reaction is SO weird to me.
I know most people don't know as much about fertility and early pregnancy as we do (after years of TTC, and treatment), AND I totally acknowledge that the fact is, NO ONE's reaction is ever going to live up to how excited WE are.
But I have to admit. It's disappointing. People are VERY guarded and their reactions are completely lackluster and even the little bit they do say seems forced. Almost no one has even said the word "congratulations". They just look at me with this half happy/half pity look say something like "that's great" and generally within about 90 seconds, the topic has been changed.
I know they mean well and I know they just aren't sure what to say. But I expected that when I told people I was almost through my first trimester, they'd get more excited, realizing our risk of miscarriage is so much lower now. But no one really reacts.
Don't get me wrong. I'M HAVING A BABY!!!!!! So really.... who the hell cares???? lol.
But to be perfectly honest, I can't help but be a bit disappointed.
Anyone else had anything similar?