Pregnant again after mc in May..scared

[babygirlhall]

Hi everyone
Im so happy to be back here again after a mc back in May, words cant describe how blessed i feel. I just wanted to share my feelings with you and see if anyone can offer some comfort. I feel really worried this time, im trying to stay positive and just enjoy my new little bean but every now and then during the day i start thinking about my mc. Its awful but its almost like im waiting for it to happen all over again Im so scared.
I hope and pray to god that this bean is a sticky one and with me for the duration but i cant help but feel this way.
I just keep telling myself its a new pregnancy, new egg, new sperm, completely new being.
Anyone else pregnant after a mc?
Would love to chat

 

[NewMama2012]

Congratulations sweetie! I'm sure everything will be okay. Most of the time MCs are just natures way of saying somethings wrong with the make-up of that particular sperm/egg. I'm sure this pregnancy has the best chance of becoming the LO that you deserve!

 

[vix1972]

I know how you feel. Had a mmc in January am also 38. Have been nervous and worrying since I found out. Am 4 weeks and 4 days in. By coincidence I have a full scan of my pelvic area booked for Fri as my stomach bloated so much with my first proper AF since last October! Dont even want to go see the GP until know there is something in there this time.

 

[ceejie]

I too had a MC in May. It is completely nerve racking being pregnant again. I hate to say it, but I feel like I am missing out on the excitement of it because I am so worry and don't want to get ahead of myself. I am hoping once I get a scan (next week) I will be able to relax a bit, but I kinda think I won't relax until this baby is born!

To top it off, my due date is May 18th. I had my MC on May 19th. I don't know if that is a good or bad omen?

 

[dfavbaby]

Hey hun. I had a mmc in may also and I feel the same. I just try and wash the negative feelings away with poaitive ones as soom as I start thinking about it. It's hard but we have to stay faithful and believe in our new little bean. Here's good luck to us both

 

[Daisy811]

Hi hun.
I feel exactly the same as you, i also misscarried in may and am pregnant again. I guess i should tell you to try and relax and not think about it, but i'm still having trouble doing that! So rest assured you are not alone.
All the sticky baby dust to everyone xxx

 

[DaisyBee]

Hi

I miscarried in December and then again in april so I was a nervous wreck early in this pregnancy. I took it one day at a time and tried to keep busy with other things. I didn't have early betas done and didn't have a scan until almost 9 weeks. We told some family after the scan and they were so excited (aunts,uncles, grandparents) but I felt odd. As in they were more excited than me. I am happy ... So happy to be pregnant and that we are going to have another baby. But the excitement of pregnancy just isn't there. I don't beat myself up about that though. Just have let myself be ok in whatever feelings I have. It has gotten easier as each day and each week have passed. Im not as worried as I was in the beginning. Still not attached but I'm sure once bean starts kicking me that will start. Others in first tri have talked about names already and I'm not ready for that point.

I think it's ok to be scared... After what we have been through. But odds are in our favor for a healthy child. And slowly realize that worrying away the pregnancy won't change anything.

 

[Mid.night]

Hi,

I know exactly how you feel! I had early mc in Nov10 and March11 and was terrified when I found out I was pregnant again! I won't lie, it has been hard and felt like the longest 8 weeks of my life but I've made it to 11 and half weeks and had my scan, little bubba was bouncing about and had a great heartbeat.

Hope you get there too! You are doing well telling yourself it is a new pregnancy, keep positive and hope you have a very happy and healthy pregnancy.

 

[1liz9]

Hi. I too had one, D&C March 15th. It was a blighted ovum confirmed a little over 7 weeks.

Like you, I've been awaiting bad news. But I'm realizing it's not going to happen!!!! The odds of a successful pregnancy are in your favor (not working against you)! Enjoy it and have a H&H 9 months!!!!!!!

 

[BrandysBabies]

Me too! i had a MMC in April. I was 13wks. I thought I was in the "safe zone" . I had a scan at 8wks and everything looked great. Baby was moving all over the place and heart beat was great. I started spotting one day before 12wks and went to the ER and was told the baby died at 8 and 1/2 wks. Just a couple of days after my perfect scan. I cant help but be terrified inside. I don't want to go to the DR. I dont want a scan until 12wks. I dont want to see my baby wiggling around with its little heart fluttering, only to have it taken away from me. I can't go through that again. I was almost to the point where I didnt know if I even wanted to try again because losing another one would hurt too bad, but the good outweighs and bad that might come. What if I don't MC? What if my rainbow baby is just 8mths away? What If I had passed up the chance to add another life to our family? I am taking one day at a time trying to remeber the good and ignore the bad.

 

[emma1985]

I had a chemical at the end of august and 4 weeks later im pregnant again and scared to believe it, but staying positive.
x

 

[DaisyBee]

Another thing.... Ive bought a doppler this time and heard the heartbeat at 11 weeks with it. Some women hear it sooner or later though. I tried to decide if it would make me feel better or obsessed or upset if I couldn't find it, but decided to get one. I'm glad I did! I figure It will help me a bit until I can feel the baby moving regularly.

 

[NC_Sarah]

I had a MC in April and got pregnant again in July. It's definately scary the first couple weeks but now I'm at 11 weeks already and it has been going really fast

 

[zephyr]

I had a mc in June and got pregnant again after that. I was really worried when I reached 5 and a half - 6 weeks as that is when I had my miscarriage and I was stressing a bit and had convinced myself that I was going to have another mc. But I passed the 6 week mark and have stopped worrying. I know that I still have a risk but getting past that point made it easier for me. I am not sure what else I could of done to not worry, as its only natural to worry especially after going through something as traumatic as a mc but as other people have said, stay positive, keep busy and take care of yourself.
Time dragged for a bit there, but now it seems like its going fast! Good luck

 

[ls318]

Congratulations!!! I too had a missed miscarriage in May on the 5th (when it was discovered)...I know it can be very difficult to feel the way you did the first time. I still am scared at almost 12 weeks. I just have to trust that I am doing everything I can and that I should just enjoy every moment I have with them. I normally tell myself to take things one-day at a time. I make it through one day and then I tell myself to just make it through another day. I keep busy and try not to worry. For me some of the worry went away when I saw them in an ultra sound...but I count down the days to each ultra sound. Good luck and wishing you and everyone a healthy and happy pregnancy.

 

[tkeith8109]

I know exactly how you feel. I actually just had a m/c back in July and am pregnant again, only a month and a half after it happened. I'm really nervous but at the same time feel completely confident this pregnancy will be successful. I had my blood taken last wk and they said my hcg were fine but my progesterone was a little low so now I'm on pills to help boost it up, this scared me to death, because the loss of another child would be unbearable. I have my first appt on Monday! Good luck to you and I hope that your little bean sticks

 

[PoodleMommy]

I can definitely relate... I've had SIX miscarriages and now that I'm pg again, I'm scared at every moment. Before my 7-week ultrasound, I was POSITIVE the baby was already dead. I felt like I "knew" it in my heart. I dreaded that u/s like you wouldn't believe... I thought my heart was going to pound out of my chest.

What a complete shock to see that my baby was growing in there just fine, with a perfect little heartbeat!

Of course, I know that's no guarantee, and I won't truly relax until I'm in the second trimester... but it sure taught me a lesson in how my "gut feeling" about things can be way off! I think it's easy to get clouded by a horrible experience like that and expect it to happen again. But, like you said, this is a whole new egg + sperm and a whole new chance! Hang in there!!

 

[bananaz]

I'm in the same boat. I had an incomplete miscarriage a couple of years ago - my hCG levels were fine and there was a fetal pole visible but the embryo didn't grow properly and there was no heartbeat. I ended up having to get a D&C; it was awful.

I'm now at the beginning of my first pregnancy since that experience and I am constantly wondering if every little thing is a sign that I'm going to have another miscarriage. So you are definitely not alone!

 

[yazzy]

I can relate to this thread aswell, I had a mmc in January this year, found out at my 12 week scan and baby hadn't grown since about 7 weeks. I am now very, very happily pregnant again but have to admit the closer to 7 weeks I get the more worried I am. Little things like my bbs not being as painful is playing on my mind but as everyone has said...this is a new life and there is no reason to think anything will go wrong.

Good luck to us all x

 

[babygirlhall]

Thankyou everyone for your replies, its nice to know im not alone. Sorry for all of your losses and congrats on your new beans
I know the key is to stay positive and take it day by day. I just need to keep telling myself that.
Take care everyone xx